Let's hear your current frustrations/vents with wedding planning

posted 5 months ago in Emotional
Post # 46
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208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - Mountains

My current frustration is so petty. My future inlaws are hosting a party in their backyard for us 3 weeks after our wedding to invite their friends and extended (very extended) family to because they aren’t invited to our elegant and intimate wedding and reception. Future Mother-In-Law is asking for my opinions on everything related to this party, which I’m not that interested in as I’m already planning a wedding. Plus I don’t know any of these people. I appreciate that she wants to include my opinion but she is perfectly capable of choosing napkin colors and side dishes. Plus she wants me to approve her outfits for the wedding and this party. I really am fine with whatever she chooses, its the constant asking that bothers me.

Very petty I know.

Post # 47
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3682 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

I word vomited all over Fiance this week about how emotionally drained I am from looking after all the wedding plans, my full time job, running my own business in the evenings, and keeping up with the things I normally do around the house. I feel bad because it all just kind of came out at once over something completely unrelated but I’m glad we talked about it. Frustratingly, our solution was that I need to ask for help more, which I get because I know where things are at and how I want them and I’m a planner while he’s not. But that still leaves me with all the mental work and the responsibility to either complete it or delegate it, which is what I was hoping to change. 

Thankfully I have a little spare time at work right now so I made a task list to divide things up between him, me and things we’d do together. It makes me feel better to have it all on paper but I’m still worried things will fall by the wayside because his work is about to get ridiculously busy. So I either do it all myself and get stressed & overwhelmed on occasion, or I trust him to do his tasks & stress that he’ll forget one. I totally feel like I cant win either way right now. 

Post # 50
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82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

 The music festival on my wedding night starts at 3pm, with bands beginning at either 4 of 5 pm, we are unclear. So even moving my ceremony up an hour wouldn’t help anything. As such, I’ve been forced to move the ceremony location indoors. Which really sucks, because my fiance and I picked a waterfront venue for the outdoor, waterfront ceremony.

My mom said I have every right to be an asshole and demand compensation from the venue, but I don’t feel comfortable with that because they do not own the property next door and they have no control over what gets planned there. It’s not their fault in the least and they are trying to do what they can to make sure my wedding isn’t ruined. My mom said they should be partially to blame because the venues should communicate with each other and work around each other’s calendars but let’s face it, that idea is totally unrealistic because the amount of money that the city will bring in from that festival is way more important to them than some random chick’s wedding.

 

Post # 51
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14 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2020

Just getting started with my planning and already feeling overwhelmed. Any tips?

Post # 52
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798 posts
Busy bee

We sent our contract and check in the mail to our venue last week. It arrived on Wednesday and they haven’t cashed the check. I let them know it arrived as it had to be sent to be re-routed during the process and got a “Thanks”. Four days later, on Sunday night, I texted them and asked if all was good with the receipt of the package/our date is good to go. I didn’t get a response, but it was 8pm and they are incredibly busy with multiple businesses and a brand new baby. Okay, fine. I waited. Nothing yesterday… Check didn’t come out of Fiance account. So, I called around noon today. No answer- Okay, agsain. They give tours pretty much back to back every day, so understandable that there would be a delay hearing back. BUT, I am so frustrated and stressed out! I just want to confirm/know everything is good to go. Not to mention my Fiance is wigging out about the money coming out of his account/for some reason gets super confused by situations like that (major eye roll- I don’t ever use checks, so I don’t have any, but he did- needless to say, I ordered some immediately after realizing how stressful it will be dealing with the funds coming from his account- when it shouldn’t be! But, whatever) Anyway, I’m a total ball of stress and so worried that they are ghosting us, but can’t figure out why they would…

Post # 53
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798 posts
Busy bee

Charliejeorge :  Totally feel this- I’m not that deep into planning yet, so I’m not drained, but I know I will be. I am a planner too and I like to just do things myself. It’s pretty much impossible for me to give up control because it’s just so much easier to not have to deal with another person…a form of torture I’m sure!

Post # 54
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1307 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

So we were aiming for a courthouse followed by a lunch the end of this year (about 6/7mos away now, right?) which is NBD cuz Iʻm buying a dress off the rack, get some grocery flowers, and having lunch with our parents= wam bam thank you maam we are outta there.

My parents are expecting a huge party like the first time and are not happy with the courthouse idea so they want us to wait several more years. Yes I know, this is my 2nd wedding thanks for that reminder and although I do (if i may) throw a hell of a party, we donʻt have $10k to do that again, nor do we want to. So now theyʻre planning a big family reunion here for the end of October/beginning of November that we have to accommadate.

FFS I just want a sexy dress, some blue stripper heels for good luck, sign those papers, and celebrate with FH in our expensive hotel room all the weekend with champagne cool

Post # 55
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14 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2020

Jacqui90 :  You will be a curvy beautiful bride. 

Post # 56
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9756 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

shanny08 :  I didn’t pay attention or notice how fat I was at all on the day, I felt beautiful! Now that I have seen some photos I have noticed a bit more but it doesn’t bother me too much. 

Post # 57
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633 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

Current wedding planning frustration: that it is all costing so much, it makes my stomach hurt to think about it, and I can’t seem to just let go, accept that it’s an insane amount of money, and enjoy spending it. If I can’t enjoy it, if all I can think about is the cost, there’s no point in doing it all. 

Post # 58
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76 posts
Worker bee

 chelbell23 :  Oh wow that’s so bad, I can’t believe she called you a hobbit. I certainly hope her son is worth it, I don’t know how you ladies keep calm in these stories(when there isn’t pizza around haha) 

Post # 60
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5184 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

Current frustration – It is going to be freezing cold for our summery May wedding this weekend!! 

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