(Closed) let's hear your not so romantic, surprise, but special to you proposal

posted 9 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: Do you care how you get proposed to?

    yes- I want an "out of this world" proposal

    No- just him asking will be special enough

    other- please comment

  • Post # 47
    1 posts

    @echolove:  He your Man just wants to make it a good start for you.. Expectations can be so high sometimes and the reality of you two just being together seems to lose its meaning amongst all that is going on..

    Imagine how you would feel if you lost him tomorrow.. If you knew that the day before All that would matter is that he is yours and the ring has its place on your finger…Does not matter how it gets there …Its the intentions.. He should be enough and all that you will ever want. If its just the Show of the Big Wedding and trimmings and the lead up to it all…. it will test the reality of the LOVE you have for him.

    If its not real it will Not last trust me on that.. Been there! Just take some time away alone and do it quietly…The Wedding is the Party..


    Best of Luck for your Future Happiness..God Bless You both.



    Post # 48
    34 posts
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My Fiance and I went to the cities in MN and got a nice hotel room for our 2 yr anniversary and we were going to splurge on a fancy dinner. On day of anniversary Dec. 22nd I was getting ready for the day doing my hair putting make-up on when Fiance is on one knee digging through his bag and pulls out a pair of really nice mittens (which I was in need of and had been talking about wanting mittens forever but couldnt justify the amount they cost for ones I liked) and says Hunny I know you’ve really been wanting these and it’s cold out and I want you to stay warm and so on, thats my man looking out for me…I got excited (I know over a pair of silly gloves;) I set them on bed and he’s like why dont you try them on, so I slip my hand in the mitten and was going on about how much I liked them for a minute at least if not longer. When I pulled mitten off I felt something against my promise ring as I stare at the palm of my hand then turn it over and stare some more at the top of my hand it I hits me that this is an engagement ring and he is proposing to me. I started to cry and got on my knees on floor wrapping my arms around him  hugging and kissing him and still crying, gosh darnit I couldn’t stop crying. Then through tears I asked him, ” Did I tell you yes?” I couln’t even remember if i had or not I was so excited!

    I found out after that the entire minute or so I had glove on my Fiance was frantically searching his suitcase because he thought that I would feel ring as soon as I stuck my hand into the mitten which I didn’t and thought it had perhaps fallen out and he was slightly freaking out . Haha

    Nothing crazy out there, but sweet and perfect to me!

    Post # 49
    69 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2019 - Italy

    I proposed to him πŸ™‚

    Unplanned spontaneous perfect moment at a lighthouse during a storm at night while we were away on our 7 year anniversary holiday.

    I’m so glad it was simple and that it just came naturally.

    Post # 50
    178 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Garden outside our church

    Funnily enough, I came to WB tonight to post something looking for commiseration in being a little disappointed in my engagement. But now I find myself responding to this–we, too, had been talking about specific wedding plans, and he liked how our non-exciting our proposal was a nod to our equality and maturity as a couple. I love the response one if our friends had to seeing our ring : “…that is gorgeous! I pray your love be as eternal, shining, and strong as that which represents it. So happy for you two!”

    In the end the proposal and the wedding are just moments–it’s the lifetime of commitment that counts.

    Post # 51
    217 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @Future_Mrs_Fierce:  Yay shower proposals! LOL

    My Fiance had planned to take me out to dinner to somewhere nice, and I was kinda mean because what he was wearing was HORRIBLE. Yes, I was being extremely bitchy. Well, the next day I came home from work and he was about to get into the shower (he was shaving and still had cream all over his face) and I apologized for being so bitchy the day before. He went into our room, got the ring, and proposed in the hallway! I don’t really tell anyone our story because he was naked and half his face was covered in shaving cream… lol!

    Post # 52
    672 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Fiance proposed to me on Christmas Day.  I was wearing an ugly Christmas sweater and folding laundry.  Were were talking, I turned arounf to grab some more clothes, he then puts his arms around me and popped open the ring box in front of my face and said “do you want to”.  (I was with him when he bought the ring two days before that). 

    Very low key, and very us.  I wouldn’t change it for anything.  

    And a week later I forgot my ring at home (wasn’t used to wearing it) and he delivered it to me at work by getting down on one knee.  

    Post # 53
    2247 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    FH had big plans to propose on the beach in the Bahamas last December but decided it was too obvious so he did it while we were visiting some friends out of town in October and went to pick pumpkins. I told him as long as he asked my dad I wouldn’t care if he just asked me while we were hanging around one night. So it was simple, but I just wanted him to ask me! lol

    Post # 54
    350 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I said “other” only because as long as he doesn’t toss the ring box at me (provided he even gets a ring) and say “Here you go”, I’ll be happy! πŸ™‚


    But I still have a ways to go before that happens I believe. He still has between 1 and 3 years to go before he finishes school and he is pretty set against doing anything before then. His timeline is: finish school, move in, within six months of moving in propose.

    Post # 55
    1893 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

    My FH tidied the dining room. He also made dinner and got a load of candles and stuff, but, I mean, he tidied the dining room.

    I think I frustrated him a little by focussing on slightly the wrong bit but I’m not kidding when I walked through the front door and saw how immaculate that room was I nearly cried.

    From the bits I do remember and love the best of the proposal were the bits where it all went slightly not-quite-right and made it a bit more… ‘us’. Like the fact that he accidentally bought carnations instead of roses because he couldn’t tell the difference, but had been chuffed at what a good deal he’d got. Or the fact that he thought the ring was my birthstone, but actually for the whole three months he’d been ring shopping he’d been looking at the birthstone for the wrong month. Or the fact that one of the candles he’d lit then flared up because he put the spent match in it, and it singed our cabinet.


    Anyone can have a ‘textbook perfect’ proposal. Takes a bit more work to get a personalised one.

    Post # 56
    47 posts
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My fiance proposed while I was on a break from school, while we were spending the weekend in Philadelphia, where we took our first trip. It had been a really rough semester, so the trip was supposed to be a mini vacation for us.

    I knew he was going to propose at some point that weekend, but it sure was a surprise when I found out accidentally!I happened to see his post on reddit, looking for photographers in the area to try to get some photos of the proposal. He seemed like he was trying so hard for it to be special, I couldn’t bear telling him that I had found out beforehand, and I still haven’t told him!

    Nothing really went as he had planned, either. He wanted to propose in Love Park, which was significant the first time we were in Philly, but there were SO many people just hanging out there! I think he was scared to take out the ring with some of the types that were out that night…haha. And the photographer fell through, so no photos either.

    We ended up taking a walk over to the courtyard in front of the municipal building across the street, and he sat me down on one of the statues over there πŸ™‚ The poor guy was so nervous, he forgot to kneel until he had already asked me, then realized that he was still standing and knelt down really quickly. He was really cute and mildly awkward, but I wouldn’t have changed a thing.

    Post # 57
    167 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Love these stories! My Fiance proposed on Valentine’s Day. We were sitting on the couch, watching tv, and eating meatballs (lol!!) Earlier that day we had gone to the jewelry store and he apparently made a “payment” and told me that he had a few more to go. Little did I know he had gotten the ring then! So he pretty much proposed at home, saying that we’re perfect together, the I love yous, etc etc and before I know it he was on his knee with the ring I had picked out AGES ago.

    Meanwhile, the dog was eating our food as we put the bowls on the table to hug each other. Oh well. Funny proposal story we’ll never forgot. I got a ring and the dog got free meatballs.

    Post # 58
    1262 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

    I am not looking for out of this world, but I am looking for it to mean something to us. I don’t want him to just go “here’s a ring, are you still going to marry me?” (or anything reminiscent of the scene where Anne Hathaway’s character is proposed to in Bride Wars). At the same time I don’t want it to be with things like fireworks or a big trip or anything like that. Just something special for us. I also feel like it should be something because it is the next step in our relationship. Heck, I would do the proposing if he hadn’t had such a negative response to the idea.

    Post # 59
    1336 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    my proposal was comically random, which is basically perfect for us.

    we took a trip to montreal for my birthday/valentines day/our anniversary and my Fiance made reservations at a restaurant like 6 weeks in advance (very popular, and delicious place!) Apparently he was going to propose after dinner in front of the restaurant, but there was a homeless dude singing in french who was being really pesky.  He was begging and following us around and my response was “wtf can we get in a cab why are you loitering out here in the freezing cold with this homeless dude?”  Now i realize that he was probably having a meltdown… when we got to our adorable hotel, he couldn’t wait another minute and got down on one knee in the slush in front of the hotel. I was totally in shock ha.

    Its a perfect story for us πŸ™‚

    Post # 60
    13 posts

    I am in the exact same boat.  My SO and I have been looking at venues, decided on a church for the ceremony, and have narrowed down a date.  He has had the ring hidden in our house for over and month and it’s driving me up the wall.  We went away a couple weekends ago to a very romantic lovely inn surrounded by wineries.  Our entire family and close friends thought we’d come back engaged for sure but nothing.  When I mentioned it on the drive home he said he couldn’t propose because I planned a lot of the weekend and that the proposal should be something he planned all on his own.  He told me he wants to to be amazing and something I’ll remember forever and though I do think that’s so sweet of him, I told him the only thing that matters to me is that it comes from the heart and has meaning.  Honestly I don’t care if he asks me to marry him on a walk around our block with our dogs or in our kitchen. 

    Post # 61
    1346 posts
    Bumble bee

    My proposal was super simple!  This past Christmas we went to the same beach that we had our very first date at and he planned this really romantic sentimental proposal.  After our almost 8hr car ride to get to the beachfront house (it was absolutely gorgeous) I went into our bedroom to take a nap because I was feeling car sick.  He came into the room and I thought he was going to take a nap with me.  But instead he came in through the door, got down on one knee by my side of the bed, took out my ring box (beautifully wrapped!), and simply said “Will you marry me?”    I was like “wwhhaaatt?!  I thought you were going to nap with me….. yes!  I will marry you.”   My Fiance was sssooo nervous, he said when he saw me lying there he couldn’t resist.   LOL   Oh well, it wasn’t exactly how I pictured it would happen but later on our trip he told me all the loving things he intended to say.  Which worked out perfectly because I was too busy freaking out about how gorgeous my ring was, plus I was still really nauseated so I wouldn’t have remembered anything he said at that moment anyways πŸ˜‰   

    Don’t worry, no matter how it happens it’ll end up being perfect either ways πŸ™‚

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