(Closed) Let's hear your regional wedding traditions!

posted 7 years ago in Traditions
Post # 32
382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@paula1248:  I haven’t heard of rehearsal dinners being done in australia either.

I’m from NSW and I’ve only been to one wedding that didn’t have an open bar, and it was a Japanese wedding.

with food, I’ve been to one with a buffet (again, the Japanese wedding), one with a cocktail reception (so finger food) and every other wedding I’ve been to has been a seated dinner with alternate service. We’re having a cocktail reception with LOTS of finger food!

Another thing I’ve noticed is having a brunch/lunch the next day as a kind of ‘wedding de-brief’ is very popular. it’s never really planned out though, it’s just kind of a word of mouth invitation to whoever will still be around the next day.

I also think that wishing wells or giving money as gifts is really popular as opposed to registries (thank god, it’s so much easier to stick some money in a card!).

A lot of this stuff depends more on the circles you move in rather than your region. I’ve only been to two church weddings, but one of my friends has only ever been to church weddings – ours will be the first outdoor wedding he’s been to! and I know a lot of greek and italian families who have HUGE weddings, but all the weddings I’ve been to have been pretty small.

Post # 33
1334 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Kempinski San Lawrenz, Gozo

In Malta:


– no rehearsal dinner

– no dollar dance

– no first look

– 99% of ceremonies are in church (roman catholic)

– typical wedding gift is cash, somewhere between 70 and 150 euros

– we do “pre-wedding” photos instead of engagement.

– ALWAYS open bar, and LOTS of food. weddings are mostly centred around food. Basically if there’s not a huge waste of food your wedding’s a failure. *sigh*

– no Save-The-Date Cards

– we have this tradition where the bride and groom’s parents receive guests at home about a week before the wedding. mostly to receive gifts. This is where families tend to go crazy about renovating the house because their daughter/son is getting married.

– weddings usually host anywhere between 250 and 600 guests. Though weddings with 800 or 1000 guests are also not unheard of.

– attire is incredibly formal. 

– no bridal showers. tacky hen’s nights are the norm. penises everywhere!

– bridesmaids don’t pay for their attire. 

– fancy cars must be rented out for the bride and groom, parents, and bridal party. sometimes for the grandparents too.

– wedding gowns are mostly very extravagant. ballgown, or heavily beaded a-line. 

– there is always a fruit display that no one ever eats. and a chocolate fountain that people go absolutely nuts about.

– it is acceptable, and almost expected, to add a request for cash gifts in invitations. 

– a guest book is always a guest book. 

– weddings typically start at around 6pm, till around 2am.

– there is usually a receiving line during the reception

– speeches aren’t common

– we don’t spend so much on engagement rings. typically somewhere between 500 and 1500 euros.   

– the most popular colour combo is ivory and wine/burgundy. with gold.  

– extra food is given to charity after the wedding

– there is ALWAYS dancing. 

…..we’re not the traditional type, and almost all of these traditions went out the window in our case.  

Post # 34
1334 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Kempinski San Lawrenz, Gozo

i’m bumping this because i’d love to see what other traditions are out there 🙂

Post # 35
1551 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m from western PA.  

Wedding showers are mostly female-only events, but that is beginning to change.  There seem to be two types.  One is the “traditional” shower where people give dish towels, small appliances, sheets and blankets, shower curtains, etc.  The other is a lingerie shower.  Which are embarassing to attend with your grandmother.  Especially when her gift is black lace and includes garters.

Bachelor/Bachlorette parties are usually done locally and involve a lot of alcohol.

There is usually a rehearsal and a rehearsal dinner, but they are pretty informal.  The wedding party and their dates, the parents, grandparents, siblings, close family members and out-of-town guests are usually invited.

There is almost always a dollar dance.  Some people give a dollar, others give a lot more. 

Mostly open bar…and there seem to be a lot of Jello shots.

Most weddings are in a church, though I have been to two outdoor weddings recently.

Cookie tables!

A lot of receptions are held in banquet facilities or hotel ballrooms.  These are usually a buffet  (but sometimes plated) and have a DJ or band and open bar.  I”ve not seen any food stations yet though.

But often a reception is in a church hall with family and/or church members bringing and serving the food.  Usually in a church hall wedding you will get a buffet with fried chicken, rigatoni, macaroni salad, probably a deli tray.  The receptions where the family or church members cook the food are usually better than those where they bring food in.  Unless the church is Catholic, there will be no alcohol or dancing.  Sometimes, the reception consists of cake, punch, and mints.

Most people seem to receive a mix of cash/checks and gifts from the registry.  While my mother always taught me a tangible gift should be sent to the bride’s home before the wedding, a lot of people show up with their presents, which are put on a table inside the reception facility.

Post # 36
577 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m in Upstate New York, and as far as I’ve seen:

-Rehearsal dinners are common, but only one wedding I’ve been to has had one

-The ceremony can take place anywhere. Church is most common, but some people do on-site with a JOP or otherwise.

-There has been a bouquet and garter toss at every wedding I’ve attended I’ve attended except one

-The wedding reception is usually catered – I’ve only been to one pot luck reception

-There is always alcohol, and it is always free. Whether that is just beer, beer and wine, or an open bar.

-The biggest bridal party I’ve ever seen will actually be my own – Maid/Matron of Honor, Best man, three Bridesmaid or Best Man, three Groomsmen

-The cake is usually smashed

-Every wedding has had a DJ – even the pot luck one at the Eagle’s club

-There is a mixture of cash and gifts, leaning toward cash

-Only one wedding I’ve attended has had a dollar dance

-Only one of the married couples I know has had a bridal shower

Post # 38
428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Here in NC:

– I can’t speak to ratio of church weddings to non-church weddings since most of my friends aren’t religious anyhow.

– Rehearsal dinners can vary in formality but are usually kept to close family and those directly involved with the wedding. I did go to one dinner that included all the out of town guests, though.

– There are usually 3-5 bridesmaids and groomsmen (though we’re only having two each).

– You always give a gift for the bridal shower and the wedding. Southern guests tend to give practical gifts like blenders or dish towels for the shower and more expensive gifts like china or crystal for the wedding. Guests almost never make purchases that aren’t on the registry.

– I’ve been to one wedding that had a cash bar. All the others only served wine and beer.

– No dollar dances around here!


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