Let's Hear Your Unromantic Proposal Stories..

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
3697 posts
Sugar bee

Our proposal was also pretty anticlimactic – which is totally fine with me. I’m not the sort who has been dreaming about elaborate proposals since childhood.

We had already started talking marriage several weeks previously, and we were talking about timelines, given that we both wanted a short engagement but we knew that our church requires that you allow 6 months to book a date and do all the required marriage preparation. We were also talking about having one of FI’s friends (who is a jewelry designer) make us a ring, and we were trying to figure out how much time he would need, how to balance that against the time for the church, etc.

So one evening we were over at his apartment baking cookies, and … he just asked me. No ring – we dealt with that afterwards. We just decided, “hey, we want to do this – let’s do it!” Which I’m actually really happy with, because even though we were explicitly discussing marriage (as in, earlier that evening we had been talking about it!) he still managed to surprise me.

(FWIW, we have an awesome “how we met” story that more than compensates for the meh proposal!)

Post # 4
600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Its a little sad I think… we ‘talked’ about it before he could really work up to asking, so it was kind of a given… I probably pushed it a little too hard and he just took me ring shopping…

Spoiled brat that I am, I couldnt find what i wanted (solitare marquise) since its not really in style right now… so we ended up at a huge pawn shop in his home town while visiting for thanksgiving and found the perfect ring… so we haggled the price down and bought it… Then after all that he insisted that I wear it and never really ‘asked’ LOL…

Oh well…

I’m mad at myself for not being more patient and waiting for him… but it worked out… we’re married and I dont really think about it anymore ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
1358 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I didn’t realize I wanted a more romantic proposal until after my fiance proposed, and I realized I was…underwhelmed. My fiance proposed to me shortly after we’d woken up. I was sitting on the couch in my pajamas, and he was sitting on the floor, and he turned to me and said, “So…”, he put the ring box in my hand, “I got you this.” He sort of caught himself after a beat and saved himself by ending the sentence, “…in the hope that you’d be my wife.” Oh, and I was wearing a snuggie. Yeah.

I looked at the ring and took a moment to make my brain turn back on (Wait? Did he just propose? While I’m wearing a snuggie?), and said, “Yeah, yes, let’s call us engaged,” and I slipped the ring on my finger. It was early; I was not particularly eloquent. And then he made us a celebratory bagel to share.

At first, I’ll admit I felt a little bit resentful. Not right at first, but after people kept hounding me for the “engagement story.” I even bickered with my fiance once about it because I thought he should have made more of an effort to make it romantic.

But at the end of the day, he’s just not the romantic guy full of swagger and surprises, and in retelling the story, it’s actually become kind of cute and quaint in my mind. Yep, my fiance proposed to me while I was wearing a snuggie and then made me a bagel. It feels very “us” to me now.

Post # 6
141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

He had the box sitting in my bedroom on my jewelery box for a week before I got up the nerve to ask him what was going on.  He asked me to bring him the box while he was in the kitchen in his boxers making a sandwich…and he gave it to me…that’s about it! LOL

To be honest, I’m not into all that mushy gushy stuff…and in the long run, I married the man I love and get to spend the rest of my life with him so the “proposal” (although it wasn’t one at all) is just a blip in our lives!

Post # 7
2224 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@anemonie:  Oh, and I was wearing a snuggie. Yeah.

I snorted out loud when I read that. Lmao!

Post # 8
4606 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

FH and I had talked about getting married a handful of times but never really talked about it seriously. One weekend, he came to stay with me, and he was acting wierd, which kind of threw me off. I thought he was about to break up with me, but I didn’t ask him anything. We went out of eat and came home, watched tv and hung out and he was still acting weird, so I decided to get ready for bed, when I came back, I sat down on the couch and asked him what was wrong. He didn’t look at me, just kept staring at the tv and said, “Nothing. I was wondering if you’d, uh, if you wanna marry me?”

Oh yeah, the romance…

It was cute though because neither of us are into the romance or the sappy stuff. 

Post # 9
278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@anemonie:  I feel your pain. I’d never really given the proposal much thought – assuming that every lucky girl got a romantic, loving proposal. We’d been talking about marriage for a few weeks, like @KCKnd2 – so it wasn’t a complete surprise that he asked.

It was a Saturday. I was in my pajamas, hair a mess, no make up, cooking breakfeast for the two of us. We hadn’t really talked much that morning – as he and I are avid gamers and he was locked into a riveting game ๐Ÿ˜‰ Suddenly, he walks into the kitchen looking lost – and just blurts out, “will you marry me?”.

I honestly didn’t take him seriously – given the situation – and said “oh course I’ll marry you some day”. He had to clarify that he was asking me to marry him, for real, right now. In that precise moment, I was both elated and saddened. He didn’t have a ring. He told me his mom had a ring from his great aunt that he wanted to give me. I am still coming to terms with not having a ring that is modern, and to my tastes. But that’s a whole other story.

I got the ring exactly one week later. He said he was going to do the whole getting down on one knee thing when he had it – but he didn’t. He handed me the ring, in a gift bag, and said I could put it on.

Despite marrying the best man possible for me, I guess I am a little resentful. Feels like, upon reflection, I didn’t get any of the things I wanted (He never asked my dad for his blessing either, which was a huge thing for me).

Good thing I love him so much… lol

Post # 10
506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@thatredheadedbride:  Your story made me laugh, just because it sounds so familiar! Mine proposed when the Moissy Co box was delivered. He opened it next to our bed, dropped to one knee and asked me to marry him. Our fur-child was just running around like always.

Sometimes I wish he had planned out something, but to be fair he offered to, but I couldn’t wait for the ring! It got all thrown off anyway, when he left his email open and he asked me to look at something on his computer, I saw the ring was out for delivery! Oh well!

Post # 11
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My Fiance was initially going to propose during our vegas vacation at our favorite italian restaurant —but that back fired because FI’s work wouldn’t approve of the time off back in January 2011…

Considering that plan fell through he purchased the ring online a few days prior to new years eve (I knew he was buying it but didn’t know when the proposal was coming). Well, on January 3rd, my Fiance received the “package” before he came home from work…he said he tucked it away in his room and was planning to revise his proposal plan… However, I came over later that evening and without a thought, my Fi grabbed my hand and brought me upstairs to his room. He got down on one knee (still in his work pants lol), and asked for my hand in marriage. Of course I smiled (grinning from ear to ear) accepted his offer and kissed him.

As that happened, we heard his parents enter the house, we came down and as they were coming, in his stepdad was recording us on his camera–asking “SO DID YOU PROPOSE? WHERE’S THE RING?!”… it was a precious moment lol



Post # 12
505 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

i was over at his place, we were fighting, i was pretty much saying im leaving him and said i don’t think we’d ever work out he said hold on ran to the bedroom and pulled out the ring box from his bedside table and said ‘ i dont want to not find out’ and asked me to be his “mishka” (his nickname for me in russian meaning little mouse)

while i was wearing sweats and had makeup smeared all over my red puffy from crying face

we celebrated by me washing my face and going a few floors down to his friends house playing poker and drinking beer


we were in paris, we were in sahara desert, in high atlas mountains, on vacay in cuba, at a fancy restaraunt for my dads bday – nope didn’t happen at any of those places, it happened when i looked like a mess and was pissed off shouting my lungs out in the damn kitchen

kinda romantic if you look at it in a different way though, i dunno

Post # 13
1855 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

On the couch on a Saturday morning. We were watching Avatar: Last Airbender cartoons.

Super unromantic! No sweat off of my back though. I was just as happy saying yes!

Post # 14
488 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I have never told anyone this before in my life.  Like seriously, anytime someone asks how it happened… I have to leave out like a HUGE chunk of the story.


We were at this really romantic cabin at a vineyard on 11/11/11.  I had a feeling he was going to propose…I just didn’t know when.  Well, it kept getting later and later, and I was starting to get bummed out because I thought maybe I was assuming it wasn’t going to happen. As I was getting ready for bed, we start to… Um, you know.  

After we were finished with… Um, what we were doing, he gets out of bed.  I’m thinking he’s going to put on some pajamas, and it’s dark so I really can’t see anything.  Then I feel him slide something on my finger… and I was thinking, not now… not NOW!  

So, yes, I got proposed to while we were naked.  (Sorry TMI!)  Needless to say my story was quite different when I told my parents our romantic proposal story! Surprised

Post # 15
127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I had been hinting about wanting a ring for Christmas.  But the day came and went and no ring.  A few days later after pouting, I suggested we go jewellery shopping and a few hours later came back to my house with our purchase.   I made him get down on one knee and officially ask me.  I wish I had been more patient but it all worked out.  In a few weeks we are celebrating our 25th Wedding Anniversary and we just bought another ring for that occasion! Here is the anniversary ring:

Post # 16
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We were sitting at the table going over finances he leaned back rubbed his face and said maybe we should think about getting married (he’s army) when’s your next friday off? … Yea not joking sadly ๐Ÿ™ o well he got down on one knee in front of the judges chapel with friends and my parents behind him asked me to marry him. He did however call my father and asked for his permission to marry me.

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