(Closed) Let's Share some CRAZY Ideas Your Mommy Dearest Had/Has For Your Wedding!!

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 3
8584 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

When I was looking for a venue, my mother kept insisting on having a backyard wedding.

Now, I don’t think there is ANYTHING wrong with a backyard wedding, but it’s not really something I want. I really wanted the beautiful ceremony location with lots of pictures… a short, sweet cocktail hour, followed by dinner and dancing.

She instisted it was too much money. I should have it in our backyard, with KFC catering, and beer kegs. She even told me, “if it was good enough for me, it’s good enough for you”.

What?! She’s giving us a very small amount for our wedding [$300], and I’m certainly grateful for what she is contributing, but that certainly doesn’t mean I’m going to have the wedding that she had!

I hold back all details from her.. because she’s just really crazy.

For our salad bar, we are having 2 types of salad, one of them [which is my fav!] is a cherry apple almond salad, which consists of romaine with sliced apples, crumbled feta, almonds, & cherries.

Her idea to “save me money” was to get those iceberg bags of salad from the store.

I was like.. REALLY?! It’s not about saving money. It’s about having some realllly amazing food that people WANT to eat, not some crappy iceberg lettuce that’s on sale for 99 cents.


Post # 4
316 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@ShabbyChicBee:  Our venue includes bar glassware but not tableware in the rental fee, and my mom got the idea into her head that rather than spend the money to rent flatware for 100 guests, she was just going to use her stockpile of Macy’s coupons and buy flatware for 100. And then she ACTUALLY DID IT. So now my parents have 100 sets of silverware lying around their house. I don’t know what she’s planning to do with it after. 

Post # 5
1199 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My mom wanted us to have cupcakes intead of wedding cake (fine) because they can be eaten without plates and thus would save us money on plates & silverware (what??). 

Post # 6
10454 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Flash mob. She thought it would be cool… 

Post # 8
2157 posts
Buzzing bee

@ShabbyChicBee:  Our ceremony and reception will be at the same location (a Metropark). We’ll be getting married on the cobblestone patio right next to the hall.

My FMIL had the brilliant idea to rent a horse-drawn carriage. For what? We will litterally be walking from the ceremony into the hall. I mean, we might take some pics between then, but just a few feet away. 

It would have cost $500 to rent this, too.

And it so isn’t our style. 

The whole idea made me want to giggle. 

Post # 9
4699 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

She asked me (crying) to have an empty chair and place setting for our relatives that have passed. 



We had a candle instead…

Post # 10
7978 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

My mom insisted she should be wearing the same dress as the MoH until I asked the random sales person at Mens Warehouse to tell her that wasn’t really normal. Clearly she will listen to a complete stranger but not her own daughter, lol.

MIL was not super involved in the planning, but at one point she told us she had our whole processional all planned out. This included her walking very prominently with DH, my mom walking with an usher, and my MoH stuck walking down alone. Uhhh no. lol

Post # 11
8584 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Oh. My FMIL & FFIL keep insisting on having a cash bar. Now, they are from california, and I guess it’s a normal thing there. It’s NOT normal here and pretty frowned upon.

Plus, we are doing a DIY bar.. so it’s cheaper than a cash bar anyway. They STILL insist on a cash bar.. they’ve brought it up almost anytime we discuss the wedding. I have no idea why it bugs them so much, but we’ve told them over and over and over that we’ll handle it.

Post # 12
2687 posts
Sugar bee

We are having our dog be the Dog of Honor in our wedding.  She hates being dressed up, so dog outfits, tutus, tuxes, bowties, etc. were out of the question.  I came up with the idea of finding a plain collar (since she’s perfectly fine wearing a normal collar) and wrapping some lace around it to mimic my dress.  My mom suggested that we cut up her wedding dress to get the fabric instead.  I always liked the idea of wrapping lace from a mother’s wedding dress around my bouquet…just not the dog.  The dog is probably going to roll around in dirt when nobody’s looking and ruin the material anyway.  Thing is, I have the suspicion that she has already done this and is going to give it to me as a gift before the wedding.  It’s her dress, but I do think it’s a little weird.

Post # 13
4041 posts
Honey bee

My Mom organized a mini flash mob, at the end of my sister’s ceremony. The bride and our father are members of their church choir. After the 1st kiss, 8 of their choir members (most of whom sing professionally) stood up in turn and joined in, in a Broadway love song, that my sister had once sung as a cast member, of that musical. My Mom was worried that it might turn out to be the stupidest thing she’s ever done; but it wasn’t. Probably ever guest complimented it and said it was the most memorable thing they’ve ever seen, at a wedding.

Post # 14
1685 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My mother has been very hands off, which I love.  It’s my MIL with the ideas.

When we were looking at venues, she offered to help.  She kept making appointments that were thousands of dollars outside of our budget.  After being heart broken when I realized there was no way we could afford one of the places, I asked her to stop.  Her opinion, “You should still look even if you can’t afford it.”  No.  We compromised on her low end, and my absolute highest.


For our favors, I decided that I’d like to give to the lab rescue who rescued our lab mix.  When I told her that, she seemed less than thrilled.  She said, “Well… what if instead we did custom lab chocolates that look like Lana (our pup) to honor her on your wedding!”

Yeah, can’t afford that.  And making something the dog would die if she eats doesn’t sound like a good way to honor her.  We’re sticking to charity.


For our rehearsal dinner, she invited over 75 people.  I had to uninvite all but 30.  I argued that I’d rather have a pizza party and save the money.  75 is half the wedding!!


Speaking of, we are inviting 125 of her friends and extended family.  We are inviting her sister’s inlaws.  We are inviting her friend’s kids.  I told my parents we couldn’t afford to invite their cousins only to find out that she invited her cousin’s, their kids, their grandkids.

There are about 50 people invited to our wedding that I’ve never met and I’ve been dating my fiance for 10 years.


I could seriously go on and on.  I wish it was “money saving tips” that I was complaining about.  Instead it’s “SPEND ALL THE MONEY!”

Post # 15
1199 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@ShabbyChicBee:  lol!  it’ll probably cost you more in gas money to come to a far-out store then you would save in taxes!  oh moms:)

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