(Closed) Let's share some happy! (I love my FMIL!)

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

When we got engaged, my Future Mother-In-Law told me she had considered me a part of the family for a long time and was excited to welcome me officially. 

His parents are wonderful. Mine….have disowned me. 

Post # 17
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Busy bee

I honestly think that the majority of monster in law stories stem from their own insecurities (the MILs I mean!) and them finally having a chance to make someone else feel crap about themselves because they feel inadequate in some way. It is sad, but I guess if you have expereinced these negative moments you can atlest know that you wont do the same to your children the day they choose their own partners, and I guess when I think about it I would rather my kids benefit from my negative experiences than to be the cause of their future pain and conflict.

I think it’s wonderful you have a great relationship with your Mother-In-Law she sounds like a wonderful and secure woman who is more interested in the happiness of her children than feeling important and in control all the time!!

Post # 18
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132 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

This thread makes me smile!! I was starting to think I was the only one on the bee that actually liked my FMIL!

She’s sooo sweet and easy to get along with, has really welcomed me into her family and made me feel comfortable!

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

My Future Mother-In-Law is very kind. I haven’t had the opportunity to spend a lot of time with her since we’re out of state from them. However, she really made me feel welcome in her home for the two trips I’ve been able to see her. She was extremely kind enough to think of me during her trip to see family and had two dresses custom made for me. She looked so excited to see me in them as well. She gives me hugs each time we leave and tells me she loves me. She lectured Fiance to “treat me right”/be good to me haha. She was super excited for us when we announced our engagement. She is divorced and her only family in the US is Fiance and his siblings. So she is taking us out of the country in January to hold a second ceremony for her family. I’m excited to have two weeks with her and see her have fun. She usually stays in with family during trips so I think this time we can drag her out to do sight seeing type things. It also means a lot that she’ll be at our first ceremony even though FI’s dad and her don’t really like one another. 

Post # 20
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Helper bee

I love my FMIL- I’m away for school at the moment and she sends me little packages and calls me to check in and see how things are going all the time. My partner calls them every Sunday night and she always asks if he’s taken me out or done anything nice for me lately- it’s so sweet.

She’s so excited for the wedding and has said that she’s bought an outfit but wants to go shopping so I can pick out something just in case I don’t like what she’s gotten. (I’m sure it will be fine and I’m not worried about it but it’s nice of her to offer!) It’s so funny because she’s an older Mommy-ish Mom and my own mom is a young Cool Mom so I get the best of both worlds now. I love his entire family really 🙂

Post # 21
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law are awesome. Sure, we disagree on a few things, but they’ve always treated me like a member of the family, and they were so supportive during our engagement and wedding. They only have sons, so they like having girls in the family (first me and now my SIL). 

DH’s old job used to involve being on-call during holidays and nights. One year, his family came to visit us for Christmas and he got called out just as we were opening gifts – he didn’t get back until that evening, but my ILs never once made me feel like they were disappointed to spend time with just me. They still made the day a celebration – I am so lucky they were there; otherwise, I would have spent Christmas Day alone. 

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee

I have been married twice and both times I hit the jackpot.  1st Mother-In-Law was ill when I met her (hardening of the arteries to the brain) and was pretty frail, but a very very kind lady who loved me and welcomed me to her family.

2nd Mother-In-Law – oh man do I miss her!  She was a friend to me as well as a Mother-In-Law.  My mom died when I was little and when I had they types of questions you might call your mom to talk about, she was always there and never told me what to do, just helped me see all the options and best course of action.  She wasn’t an obsessive housekeeper and neither am I.  We had a deal – I wouldn’t draw in her dust if she wouldn’t draw in mine.  But… if we couldn’t help ourselves please don’t date the dust picture!

She was amazing in so many ways.  When she was dying of cancer in the hospice center I would spend about 4 hours a day with her in the afternoons so Father-In-Law could have a break.  One day she said “I always knew I would have to teach my children how to live, but I never thought about how I would have teach them how to die.”  Very dignified and wonderful lady who stayed out of our business and was a wonderful friend.

Now that I am a Mother-In-Law I try my best to be just like her.  I know I fall short but I really use her as my role model. My family came straight out of the bat shit crazy farm with a few sane people sprinkled in.  DH’s family is awesome.

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