Post # 1
From the time the stick turns pink till you first see baby on an ultrasound or hear a heartbeat, so much happens!
Everything is changing inside and only a couple of people in the world likely know about it. As I near the end of my first trimester, I’ve been thinking about what would have been nice to know or hear.
I’d love to hear from other mamas to be or mamas who have been there done that a while ago, let’s support the ladies on this board who are in those exciting but often stressful first few weeks. Let’s keep it positive and uplifting!
You can do this mamas!! You are growing a person and it is damn hard work but you can do it!
Morning sickness-talk to your doctor early-they have tips! Unisom/B6/Reglan, sour candies like warhead and preggie pops and eating mostly smoothies/carbs/cheese has been the combo move that works for me.
Don’t google symptoms and worries-google is full of terrifying stories about everything. Just don’t. Call your doctor, they know what’s up.
Best pregnancy book from day 1: The Pregnancy Countdown Book by Susan Magee. Priceless. Little page a day book full of real life advice from moms and an OB and omg-that’s-totally-how-I-feel today quotes and tips. Especially nice for those first few weeks where most pregnancy books are too heavy or just don’t say much about the first tri. And with the page a day you get to “do” something every day.
This topic was modified 4 years, 9 months ago by HeyJude72.
Post # 2
It’s ok if you think it’s horse sh*t. I did. The whole thing sucked. And it’s totally ok if you don’t love it.
Don’t suffer through morning sickness. Get help. It isn’t always medication. There are so many things you can try. And some days, nothing will work. Eventually it goes away. It might take until birth, but it will go away.
Post # 3
What a great post! This is really nice 🙂 I’m going to share a couple of things now that I’m finally done with vomiting and nausea (hopefully for good!)
I agree with sostobe. I hated the first trimester. So much so that I avoided thinking about pregnancy and baby related things. I felt so sick 24 hours a day that I just couldn’t enjoy a thing. I felt guilty for feeling this because there are so many women out there who would love to feel what I felt for once and they never get this chance. I was permanently whining. I also felt guilty because I thought I didn’t love my baby enough because I was always sick and thinking about myself. It’s silly, but it’s normal. Don’t worry if this happens to you. You have 2 more trimesters and a lifetime of loving and supporting your child. If you’re sick, it’s alright to feel bad for yourself and whine.
Also, I was given medication and I quit taking it at 15 weeks. If you are very sick don’t torture yourself and get help. It’s ok 🙂
And finally, just hang in there. It gets better, I promise!
Post # 4
BunnyJaques: sostobe: yes yes yes! this is exactly why I Started this thread. To remind the first tri mamas that this too will pass and it’s okay to be frustrated! I struggled with that also, the “but I really wanted this, why am I hating this right now”. and I would remind myself that what I Wanted was a baby, not to be pregnant, this is all a means to an end. And yes, there are people who have losses (I did) and infertility and that sucks and they would want nothing more than to be in your shoes with the morning sickness and hormones and all of it…but that doesn’t mean that you can’t call bullshit on the first trimester sucking if it is! That is still a valid experience. It is okay to be frustrated and want to just be done with this part. That doesn’t make you insensitive to those you can’t have babies or anything, it just means that you’re having a tough time in a totally different way than they are and that is okay.
Post # 5
HeyJude72: What a wonderful post idea! I am currently 8 weeks, and the last two weeks especially has been such a roller coaster ride. I told Darling Husband last night that I find hard to be excited when I have to hide how crap I feel . At the moment I am really struggling with my body.I feel like it has betrayed me and I have no control over it . I have gone up two cup sizes already, I don’t like coffee anymore (like wth!!!!give me my 200mgs),I cooked some salmon the other night (yum!) and before it was done ,I threw up and had to eat crackers for dinner . I love food and cooking! So not being able to eat and cook due to nausea is rough for me .And through it all,I can’t share this with most of my friends till we hear the heartbeat .Which will be at 12 weeks (sigh)
Thanks for the safe venting space!
Post # 6
I love this. Thanks for starting this thread. I’m about to complete my 5th week tomorrow and had on and off cramping this week. One night, it got a bit more intense (pressure in my uterus) and I really panicked, because it was the exact same point in my cycle when I had a chemical the first time I got pregnant. I’m happy to be over that hump and entering another week, but I know there will be other challenges and scares in the weeks to come!
Googling can be great and give so much info and reassurance, but in many cases it can be terrifying. Just because I’m past the point of a chemical happening in no way means I’m in the clear – from blighted ovum to missed miscarriage, there are so many things that can happen…. On TOP of being sick.
I might kick myself for saying this but I’m almost anxious for morning sickness to start so I know things are progressing! My good friend just had a miscarriage at 8 weeks and she never had any symptoms at all. Scary. Anyway, thanks for the support! 🙂
Post # 7
BeeOi: this is exactly what I wanted to start this thread! We have been living on Chipotle and pizza..some of the only things I could stomach and PBJ’s (just for DH) on the super rough nights. I went to the grocery last night and it was the first time I didn’t gag the whole time. We might actually cook a little this weekend! Woo!!!
We’ve been keeping the house clean enough and focusing on just having something for dinner and eating out at lunch (we usually pack) and getting laundry done. And that was okay! A few outings here and there with friends or family but a lot of laying low. For Darling Husband that’s what he prefers most of the time anyway (except more getting out and about the two of us) but that was really hard for me to miss out on time with friends. It got lonely, even though we told a few close friends. I did make sure to encourage Darling Husband to go out occasionally with the guys, which I think helped him to have a break from my puking and his worrying about me I needed the rest and we’re getting back into it! I even went to happy hour with the girls and enjoyed my virgin mango margarita last night!
heres another thing-just bc “most people” don’t wear maternity clothes until 12+weeks doesn’t mean that’s everyone. I’m small framed and was already a 34D…I was up a cup size at 8weeks too-DD baby! I went and got measure since nothing for-the Victorias Secret wireless bra has been my savior!
I also hit the ahh nothing to wear bit early too, by 6-7wks even the Beband wasn’t cutting it-I needed no pants and after two years shopping trips just trying to buy jeans in a size or two up failed totally (what is the deal with high wasted jeans being in right now??) I grabbed one of my supportive girlfriends and hit the Maternity section at Old Navy around 8wks. I started really showing around 10wks and let me just tell you Materbity jeans are glorious. No more hairtie around the button digging into the belly or band sliding Round. Ahh!!
krystalite: yay for hitting a milestone. that was big for me! And plenty of people just get lucky and don’t have symptoms! And when you’ve had a loss like us, it’s so hard to trust that everything is good no matter what you are feeling or not. I had cramps from week 4-10 which was nerve wracking. Around 10/11 it became more round ligament pain (early-lucky me! Lol) in the groin area. Once we saw the heartbeat at 6wks I felt somewhat better but still worried about MMC…the 12wk nt scan-hearing the heartbeat and seeing baby looking like a tiny person (with real arms and legs even-no more webs!) did it for me. It feels real and it feels like we legit are going to get to have this baby.
Post # 8
I am the first to admit that I was MISERABLE throughout the first trimester. Nausea was constant, the fatigue was like nothing I had ever experienced (an acute mono infection didnt help), and the very severe depression from the hormone imbalances was no joke.
On top of that I had no idea the actual process of finding out you are pregnant and then hoping it “sticks” would be as stressful and grey as it was. I always thought you were either pregnant or not and had no idea that there were so many variations of not ideal pregnancy situations (blighted ovum, delayed miscarriage, etc etc)…thanks google!
I cried almost every day and remember saying to my husband and my doctor that I felt like I would feel like this forever regardless of whether this pregnancy was progressing or not.
It was quite possibly the worst (and longest) few months of my adult lift to-date.
I’m very happy to say that by about 11 weeks the clouds started to part for me and now at 19 weeks I feel completely normal. While the first trimester felt like the longest 3 months while I was going through with it it quickly became a distant memory as soon as I started to feel more normal again.
For those struggling during the first trimester woes, take comfort in the fact that it DOES get better. You WILL feel normal again! Yes, timing will be different for each individual but you WILL feel better at some point.
Post # 9
I was definitely sick throughout the first trimester (12w2d now!), but I tried really hard not to complain because we went through a loss, a year of trying and IVF and I promised myself that I’d try to focus on the positive. I managed to avoid meds, but found that it really helped me to eat constantly. It’s the only thing that kept the vomiting away.
Also, I just want to share this because it’s AWESOME. It’s okay if you feel like shit and don’t want to move from the couch, because your body is working HARD those first few months. The top portion of this picture is from my first ultrasound at 5w5d, and the bottom is from my ultrasound this week at 12w0d. Look at what our bodies have managed to do in just 6 weeks.
Hang in there, mamas. You’re doing awesome.
Post # 10
BeeOi: Yess!! I agree with you that one of the hardest parts of feeling sick, is having to hide it in front of others and essentially suffering alone. We haven’t told our families yet and sometimes when I’m so nauseous and feeling mopey, all I want to do is call my Mom and tell her what I’m going through. And hiding it at work is pretty tough. I’m only 7 weeks, so the light at the end of the first tri tunnel feels so far away.
HeyJude72: Love the idea for this thread. It’s so nice to hear stories of other women who have made it to the end of the first tri and their tips for getting through it. And now that you mention it, sour candies sound amazing right now. I’ve been popping mints whenever I think I might throw up….might need to start buying those in bulk.
And seeing alove2:‘s ultrasound pic, just about brought me to tears! So beautiful and definitely reminds me of what this is all for.
Post # 11
I’m 11 weeks on Saturday. While I was very lucky to experience no morning sickness, the extreme tiredness threw me for a major loop. I could not keep my eyes open. The tiredness seemed to ease up this week. The hardest part for me what keep it a secret. I’ve had so many social events where I’ve had to “hide” my pregnancy and drink “mocktails”. Also, I agree w/ others, google was my worst enemy. We will be telling people on mother’s day and I cant wait!!
Post # 12
That pic was a bit underwhelming. That was the day I saw the heartbeat.
12wks (hand! Nose! Ahh!) Darling Husband made this his phone background that night. I, of course, copied and love seeing my baby’s face every day!
12weeks (The left leg is bent and the right is straight in the back). Just chillin’
alove2: It really is amazing how much happens during those first few cruddy feeling weeks-you’re growing a tiny human!
Zofran was something I really didn’t want to do unless I had to (knock on wood, haven’t needed it yet), so I worked with my dr to figure out a plan with Reglan and upping my daily Zantac-both baby safe meds.
Post # 13
Hockeywife83: yeah, I napped as much as possible the first couple months-after work, on weekends. how fun to reveal on Mother’s Day!
Names, researching gear and planning our photo reveal gave Darling Husband and I some fun baby related but easy to do from the couch with no energy things to talk about and plan the first few weeks.
Post # 14
penguin0620: loved these in the early days-lemon, raspberry and orange . Hated the green apple but whatevs. http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00266E4RG/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1430488601&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX200_QL40&keywords=Preggie+Pops&dpPl=1&dpID=51P-sUnGM2L&ref=plSrch
Altoids Artic have been my standby mint. Got mine at target, they last longer and taste stronger (but not hotter) than the regular.
the preggie pops also come in a one 21-count pack On Amazon I went through three (since I picked out the apple) and then ordered a 3 pack again. Still have about one full container left and haven’t needed them more than 1-2x a week lately. The Flavor lasts a good while which is nice for kicking that yucky mouth feeling.
For MS: Also kept Aveeno Calming face wipes and a toothbrush/toothpaste in my desk at work. So nice to be able to clean up after getting sick. And still have gallon ziploc baggies and napkins in my purse and car-can’t even count how many times those have come in handy in a parking lot or the car!
Post # 15
Loving the timing of this thread – I hit 14 weeks yesterday so I’m literally a newbie to the second trimester.
Things I would share:
1) If you have weird symptoms of any sort, call your doc. DO NOT google. DO NOT WebMD. I had nosebleeds pretty often having never gotten them before and found out from my OBGYN that unless they’re severe, it’s perfectly normal.
2) Eating something the second you get out of bed helped me even on my worst days of MS. Also, candied singer and sour oranges – try a bucnh fo different things and find what works for you. Everyone is different and some people react better than others to this stuff.
2) Find someone to confide in or you’ll go crazy with feelings overload – between the hormones, worry, excitement, nervousness..you’ll need a sounding board. Husbands are not always the best (I love mine but he doesn’t get it sometimes) – good friends who have had kids or are currently pregnant are amazing for this.
3) No question is a stupid question – write them down before you go to the OB or you will likely forget everything you wanted to ask the second after you see the ultrasound and are mezmerized by it.
4) Club soda helped me so much everytime I felt bloated and uncomfortable. It’s gross and Too Much Information but it helped me burp a lot and I felt a ton better afterward haha. Oh, and if you decide to mix it with some lemonade or juice, you can tuen it into a mocktail!
Good luck to all the mamas out there!