(Closed) Let’s talk about Handfasting

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We did handfasting.  Basically, our officiant bound our hands before we started our vows and unbound them after the rings were exchanged.  Wre only had a little bit in the vows actually about the handfasting.

Here is the part from our ceremony:

R and A, on this day, you have come before us to proclaim your love and your desire to be bound together in a lifelong commitment.  From this day forward, you will remain two separate people, yet your spirits will be joined to one light. Before this happens, however, you have chosen to participate in an age-old Celtic tradition by having your hands bound together throughout your ceremony—symbolizing your willful intent to be bound together in love and for life.  Interestingly, this is where the phrase “tying the knot” came from. 

Post # 4
2018 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I made our hand fasting cord with only 3 different types of ribbon and a little bit of beading. I found a how-to on offbeat bride and it was easy. Then I googled some hand fasting vows and combined/edited to create my own. And lastly, googled to find an officiant who specialized in handfasting. It turned out great. Good luck:)

Post # 5
1211 posts
Bumble bee

We will be doing a Celtic handfasting as well though more detailed than the ones shown above. It will definitely be a bit Pagan. I suggest you google handfasting ceremonies.

Post # 6
7777 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

We used a wreath of flowers! Our officiant made it by twining flower and herbs onto wire with ribbons. She then twisted it into an infinity sign and we each slipped a hand through half of it and held hands. She then had us recite the traditional vows. It was the last thing we did in our ceremony. I thought it was an awesome, original way to do it. I was set on doing a traditional cord handfasting at first, but she talked me into doing it this way:

Here’s the text of that section of our ceremony:

“It is wonderful to be lovers, sweethearts and friends, but now, today, you will officially and legally  wear the most honorable titles that a man and woman ncan bear. You will be husband and wife.

King Solomon, in his great wisdom, said “Let us crown ourselves with rosebuds before they are withered away” and so I did– I gathered my rosebuds and I made this little circle for M and J’s wedding.

In the Victorian language of flowers, white roses mean “I am worthy of you” and they are worthy of each other. Ivy symbolizes fidelity. The baby’s breath is for hope. There is thyme because my husbands says no matter how you spell it, there is never enough of it. The most fragrant herb is rosemary, that’s for rememberance.

The wonderful thing about a circle, whether it be the Christmas wreath on your door, the wedding ring on your hand the circle of the seasons and our lives, is simply this– if you live your lives with love and respect for you heart, for each other and for yourself, the circle becomes infinity (this is where she twisted the wreath into the infinity symbol)- eternity.

J and M, will you join your hands through this infinity symbol created of flowers? (we put our hands through)

You have bound yourselves together by your love, the promises and the rings you have exchanged before family and friends. I bind you now with this small circle of flowers and the legal protection of the laws of Missouri.

Hold fast to that which if good. Hold fast to each other, as if your lives depended on it because they do.

M, protected by J’s strength and devotion to you, may your body, mind, heart and soul blossom in the sunshine of his love.

J, strengthened by M’s confidence in you, by her love and devotionmay you continue to grow in knowledge, wisdom and love for humanity to become a man, husband, father and founder of a fine family- the man that you were intended to be.

Now while you are holding hands, bound only by flowers, will you repeat together the traditional marriage vows so many of us have said before.

(We repeated them in unison)

I, M, take thee J, to be my husband./I, J, take thee M, to be my wife

Form this moment on, do you promise to have and to hold each other alone, will youtake each other for better or worse and for better again? And will you love and care for each other though you be rich or poor? Will you laugh and have good times with each other in your good health and give tender loveing care to each other should that health fail, will you love and cherish each other, all teh days of your lives? Do you intend to remain married and faithful to each other for life?”

We agreed, she took the flowers off and then pronounced us man and wife.

So, it really ended up being an amalgamation of a handfasting and a traditional ceremony. It really was beautiful though, my photogs said it was one of the best ceremonies they had ever seen.

Post # 7
2111 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We did this. I just got some brown ribbon from Michaels. It was cheap!! Then I found this online..

As this knot is tied, so are your lives now bound. Woven into this cord, into its very fibers, are all the hopes of your friends and family, and of yourselves, for your new life together. With the entwining of this knot do I tie all the desires, dreams, love, and happiness wished here in this place to your lives for as long as love shall last.

 In the joining of hands and the fashion of a knot, so are your lives now bound, one to another. By this cord you are thus bound to your vows. May this knot remain tied for as long as love shall last.

 May this cord draw your hands together in love, never to be used in anger. May the vows you have spoken never grow bitter in your mouths.

Two entwined in love, bound by commitment and fear, sadness and joy, by hardship and victory, anger and reconciliation, all of which brings strength to this union. Hold tight to one another through both good times and bad, and watch as your strength grows. Remember that it is not this physical cord, but what it represents, that keep you together.



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