Post # 16
My SO masturbates…but so do I. I sometimes do it watching porn. My SO sometimes does it watching porn, or reading erotic stuff on the internet. I don’t care. Sometimes I go to open our laptop and it’s left open on the last thing he was looking at. I’m not going to lie, sometimes I feel curious to have a look at what the video is. But then, it’s not my business. He still finds my attractive and wants sex with me. As long as it doesnt interfere with our sex life I don’t care.
Post # 17
- Wedding: December 2020 - City, State
Partner and I sometimes watch porn together we both really enjoy it. I definitely enjoy watching him pleasing himself (he knows this) I’ve even asked him on numerous occasions to let me watch him jerk off to porn and i watch. Might be weird to some but it works for us. Sometimes I watch it by myself and sometimes he does. We often share in each others fantasies and the sex has always been phenomenal! I think we are quite experimental but i find it fun and makes me more curious about him which just ignites a new fire in me for him.
Post # 18
His body, his business. What’s not to be ok with? (barring anything illegal as one PP mentioned).
Post # 19
I don’t think it is none of my business to what he masturbates to as long as it is legal. Of course I’d rather have it be someone he doesn’t know personally, but his fantasies are upto him as long as it doesn’t cross the lines we have agreed on.
Post # 20
I’ve never wondered or concerned myself with what my partner does/watches/thinks about when he/she masterbates. Just as I would not be comfortable disclosing that information to my partner, I have never asked. I do not believe that we as humans, will only be attracted to the one person we choose to spend our lives with. The human body doesn’t work that way. Masturbating is normal, for both people. It can even help you figure out what you like and tell your partner. As long as your sex life with your partner fulfills both people’s needs, its all good.
Post # 21
I’ve long ago realized this isn’t something worth stressing over as it’s (masturbation, porn, sexy thoughts, etc.) going to happen regardless. You can’t stop someone from “thinking about someone they know IRL”.
Post # 22
- Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre
My husband usually masturbates after dinner when he goes in the showe, usually I will go in and we finish together. I have never asked him what he masturbates to
Post # 23
I don’t mind that he does, he doesn’t mind that I do. I don’t ask what he watches/thinks about because I know there’s sometimes a huge disconnect between what seems appealing in a strictly fantasy situation vs real life with a real partner.
Ironically he always is curious about what I watch or read or think about so he can “make a fantasy happen” haha. I always tell him if there’s something I want to try, he’ll be the first to know.
Post # 24
I can’t control what he looks at in his head.
Post # 25
I’m in a don’t ask, don’t tell relationship with Fiance. LOL!
Post # 26
I have no idea what my bf’s habits are nor does he ask about mine. I leave that as a topic that I’d be open to discussing if asked but neither one of us brings it up so I’m fine with that.
Post # 27
“are you ok with your partner jacking off? … I’m personally totally fine with porn, but I think the line for me is thinking of people one actually knows in real life.”
My husband isn’t secretive about it, but only does it when I’m not available. We both do, however, talk about who we find sexually attractive when we’re intimate (and past lovers; particularly past lovers) and it turns us both on.
Post # 28
petra.spahr.3 : I am curious about your post and want to clarify – you’re saying that it makes you uncomfortable for him to masturbate while thinking of someone he knows, but you have sex while talking about people you know? I don’t quite get the difference. No judgment – do whatever makes you happy and comfortable. I’m just not sure I fully understand.