(Closed) Let’s talk “chores”

posted 7 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@mwitter80: My Fiance is just lazy. I blame his mother. She was a Stay-At-Home Mom and did everything for her children. Sucks in the long run when your grown ass son can’t pick up his effing socks because Stay-At-Home Mom mom was always behind him cleaning up. 

I go on strike every once in a while. I cook my own meals, do my own laundry, do my own dishes. lol He gets the hint and helps out but that only lasts a few weeks. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i have a chore list! it’s the only way we remember to do things. it has categories for daily, weekly, bi-weekly, monthly, seasonally.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

We have chores divided up too. I always do laundry, he always unloads the dishwasher and takes out the trash. It works well for us, because otherwise things never get done :p

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m a Stay-At-Home Mom, but my SO takes care of his own laundry. Alot of my friends who are also SAHM’s can’t believe that I don’t do his laundry! In my house, if the dirty laundry isn’t in the basket then I don’t wash it, and my SO is always leaving dirty clothes at the bottom of his closet.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Miss Tattoo: Are our FI’s brothers?!

Fiance doesn’t do a damn thing around the house but I guess thats partially my fault since I don’t really pressure him to do so. I handle all the cooking and cleaning but I’m also kind of OCD and have the mentality that if I want it done right, I’ll do it myself. Sometimes it gets annoying but he’s rarely a jerk about it. If I ask him to do something, he’ll do it. I just don’t really ask. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Miss Tattoo: Ditto!! My Darling Husband never had chores as a child, which I just don’t understand. His parents treated him like the prince of the family, and I think his mother would still cut up his food at dinner if he let her. That being said, he’s good about helping out if I ask and am very specific about what I want him to do (aka, can’t say “clean up the living room”–I have to say, “Can you vacuum and sort through the mail on the front table?”). 

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

My FH has a profession that they work long and hard in spurts so he is home in large spurts.  When he is home he does most everything and when he is working I do it.  Works out great for our schedules.  I do, however, have to redo the dishes occasionally, but I will take it over the alternative.  The deep cleaning he always leaves to me and he does all the outside work.  I told him when we first started looking for our house, that there is one thing I will never do – mow the lawn.  I get sick everytime I do, so we agreed that the inside deep is mine and the outside is his.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Thankfully Fiance and I are split on the things we just hate doing…he doesn’t mind dishes and I loathe them, and vice versa for laundry. I like kitzy’s idea for a weekly/bi-monthly/monthly/seasonally list for after we’re married, it will help to go over the main chores that need doing so we don’t feel like we’re constantly asking one another to remember this or that. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

We do not have a list but we just both try to pitch in and do things equally.  However there are certain chores that only one of us does. He always takes out the trash, cleans out the fridge and washes the dishes. Meanwhile I’m the only one who dusts, washes the sinks, tubs and toilettes and cleans out the cat’s litter box.  It works for us and that way neither one feels taken advantage of and I don’t have to be his mother.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I just think it is totally ridiculous that we are expected to make chore lists for grown-ass men!! GAH! He knows as well as I do what needs to be done, I shouldn’t have to spell it out for him.

Anyways, we split stuff, but I still don’t think it’s 50/50, but it works for us. He does most of the cooking (I cook maybe 1 night every 2 weeks) and all of the dishes and I do everything else. 

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@UpstateCait: That’s my problem too. If he does it and it’s not done a certain way, I end up doing it over. After a while I’m just like just stop. I’ll do it. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I definitely have a chore list Tongue out Actually Fiance helped make it up.  Now whether we stick to it…that’s another thing.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i work longer hours and have a more demanding career but the only thing my hubby has to do is take the garbage out and clean his own toilet and thats it.  i do every single other thing and thats how i prefer it

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am blessed with a clean fanatic Darling Husband. I’m not working right now, so I do all the cleaning and around the house chores, but he still cleans up after dinner every night and does the dishes.

When I am working, we clean together every Saturday and, to be honest, he does the lion’s share of the work. He cleans the kitchen, bathrooms and vaccuums, and I dust, declutter/tidy and steam clean the floors.

I got lucky – although sometimes his obsession with cleaning does drive me nuts…I guess the grass is always greener!

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