(Closed) Let's talk flower girls

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

My daughters were flower girls in a wedding earlier this year. I paid for their dresses. I had someone come to our home to do their hair and had them get their dresses on at the ceremony site. The bride and her bridesmaids had a room at the ceremony site to hang out in before the ceremony and I brought the girls there to hang out about 1/2 hour before the ceremony. This is a picture of them and the bride from that time when all the girls were together:

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

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BWLE:  My cousin’s daughter was the flower girl. She just got ready on her own and they had to be at the church early to take a few pictures and be ready to walk down the aisle. The first time I saw her was at the ceremony site, before the ceremony. Her mom bought her dress. I told her mom the colors and some styles I liked, and she went shopping and sent me pictures of ones they liked and I decided on the final one. She looked precious!

 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

My flower girl will be 6. Im worried she will be to old. Whats the age cutoff for a flower girl?

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I picked and paid for my flower girl’s dress. My mother made her a flower head band and I made a personalized basket with her name on it 🙂 All my flower girl had to do was show up to rehearsal and the wedding 🙂 She provided her own shoes but that was about it. She got ready at her own house and her parents dropped her off at my house before the wedding 🙂

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Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I had one flower girl and she was my cousin. She was 5 and I paid for her dress. I might be weird though because I paid for everyones stuff that was in the wedding. My aunt and uncle wanted her hair done so they went and had that done before and she showed up all dress and ready to go. 

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Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

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beautyofdreams:  6 is definitely not too old! Thats perfect.

traditionally there moms buy their dresses and get them ready. We picked one around 50$. They’ll join us for photos before the wedding. I am so excited about my flower girls they are darling twins! 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

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beautyofdreams:  Definitely not too old! I think 10 is probably the age where they start getting a little too old.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Thanks bees! I feel much better about her age! 

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It depends on where you live. There are countries where the couple pays for all the attendants outfits, including the flower girls. Have you researched customs where you live?

Even in the US and Canada where the wedding party tend to pay for their own clothes, there are other factors to be considered. If you asking their daughters to be a flower girl is  financial burden to the parents, then it is kind to pay for their dresses. If one family has 3 girls in the wedding and the other 2, expenses are going to add up for them.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

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BWLE:  where I come from, it’s normal that the mothers pay for the flower girl outfits. I bought their jewelry and headbands as part of their gift though. As far as getting ready, I’d recommend having them just get ready with their moms because little kids get bored quickly. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

My flower girl was 3, she is my husbands neice and her mom was in the bridal party. Her dad brought her to where we were getting ready just before we were ready to take pictures (2.5 hrours before the ceremony) so her mom could get her dressed and do her hair (dad apparently isn’t so good with hair duty lol). I picked out the dress and her mom bought it but I intentionally chose something less than $40 and shoes were only about $15. One thing I would advise is to be clear with the mom’s what pictures you want them in. My flower girl was glued to her mom (a bridesmaid) the whole time and not in the most photogenic mood so I think I only have one good picture of me and my bridemaids/full bridal party without a pouting 3 year old pulling on her mom’s arm…

In your case I would have their moms get them ready and show up right before the ceremony to snap a couple pictures while they’re waiting for show time with you but aren’t there long enough to be cranky, tired or bored.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

My FI’s niece will be our flower girl, and I intend to pay for her dress. She’ll be a little over three years old at the time. As for getting ready, whatever is easiest for her mother, my Future Sister-In-Law, since she’ll also have a 15 month old at the time of our wedding.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We had one flower girl – DH’s cousin’s daughter. She was five years old and very excited about her role. We paid for her dress and for her hair to be done. We also paid for her necklace and bracelet (pearls). Our Flower Girl did get ready with us. She was at our house at 7AM and never became tired, bored, or cranky. She loved every minute of it and was constantly in the mix. She was in our getting ready pictures as well as in the video from our videographer.  

The mother was not in the bridal party, but she did hang out with us for a little while. 

We didn’t have any logistic issues, but with five of them it might turn your getting ready time into a circus with the girls running around and all the extra parents. You’ll just have to decide what you want and what’s important to you. 

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