(Closed) Let’s talk sex for a minute.

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ok.. I used to be the most sexual person.. but for the past year.. I’m SO not.  We have sex about 4-5 times a week.. but if it was up to me.. I’d probably have it like twice lol.  Hopefully my sex drive will come back soon!!! lol

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

lol, I’m like you my drive is way higher than his, so you aren’t alone.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - The Glen Manor House

From a therapy standpoint, everyone thinks everyone else is doing it more than they are. Overall, the average is 3-4 times per week, but it ebbs and flows based on life cycle, stress, vacations, etc.

 

Ultimately, your sex life is only a “problem” if you define it as such. If both you and your partner are happy, then that is all that matters. However, if one or both of you aren’t getting your needs met then it’s worth discussing/addressing.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

babychka- I’m in the same boat! It seems the past 6 months I have not even thought about sex unless my Fiance brings it up! We used to have sex at least once a day and lately Im lacking any drive!

We are just starting our summer vacation though so Im thinking things are about to turn around

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

Well said Miss Seashell!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am with you – we have sex about once a week and I want it more!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

2-4 times per week depending on the week. Usually three times I would say. His drive is higher than mine-he would love 5 times a week, but I’m happy with 3 times. 🙂

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am also on the “opposite” side of things…I could definitely do it more!  We are 1-2 times a week typically, but we are talking about it and trying to improve on that!

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

About once or twice a week, depending. It may be lower than the ‘average’ but until he brings it up and says he isn’t happy or i’m not happy, it’s not an issue. We’ve both talked about it and 1-2x/week suits us just fine. Sometimes it’s every other week. If i wanted it more, I’d initiate it more. Maybe instead of talking to him about it, just lead by example.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I find it hard to give an overall statsitic….

Sometimes its two or three times a week, sometimes we go for 2 – 3 weeks without.  Sometimes we do it 4 times in 3 days (mind you these are quickies)

I will admit I am alot more sexual then my partner.  I often get turned down when I ask, and I can’t recall ever saying no to him. LOL, sometimes I tell him in bed our roles are reversed, I take the typical male role. haha.  He was away recently with work and he told me the guys fropm work were complaining that they don’t get enough at home and wish their wives would be up for more, he told me he was thinking to himself that they must be doing something wrong, because when you do it right they beg for it. I laughed at him and told him everyone is different!

I try not to take the whole how many times a week thing to seriously.  Plus my Fiance is 13 years older then me so I guess I should expect to have a higher sex drive then him.  And while I may sometimes complain about the frequency, never about the quality!  Its always fantastic, and we are normally “busy” for a good three hours or so……Too Much Information maybe???

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

I agree with @ejs4y8, it’s kind of whatever the couple feels comfortable with.  Perhaps there’s a lull in the sexual aspect of your relationship, I’d suggest maybe spicing it up with a outfit or flirting more..or maybe he just isn’t as sexual…

(btw, I can’t give stats b/c well, I’m abstaining until we get married)

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2011

glad to see I am the freak in the group. The Fiance and I do it, and no I am not joking 3 times a day, everyday. I think he would do it in even more, but really we do have to work and eat. It is how I get woken up every morning. It did take some getting used to, but I do enjoy it and no, it general isn’t the quickie kind either.

 

Of course now we are in a LDR so ummm how about not in the last month, *gulp* we have some catching up to do.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

About 3 times per week. We’re pretty even, but I definitely initiate it more often than he does!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

here here Miss Seashell!

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