(Closed) Let's talk sex

posted 4 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Once every couple of months because I have endometriosis and it makes sex extremely painful. I initiate for that reason too. Ball is in my court to feel well enough physically to get it on. Me on top is my favourite position because that’s the quickest way for me to get mine! Hello multiples!!!

Post # 3
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Helper bee

About 4 times a week. He usually initiates it but doesn’t push the issue if I don’t want to. I like when he’s in charge haha. I’m pretty happy with the amount. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Only like 2-3 times a week. We each do our fair share of initiating. I’m happy with this amount because sex is up there with sleep, and sometimes I’d rather sleep than have sex lol

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Wayyyyy too infrequently! Maybe once a month. Of course, in our first years together it was almost every day, if not multiple times a day – but not only have we been together 5 years, I’m also 11wks pregnant. I’m so tired AAAALLLLLL the time, and am having joint pain as well. Oh, and hormonal acne. So, I haven’t been feeling very sexy lately 🙁 poor husband!

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

4-5 times a week, which is good for me. Fiance would prob prefer more like 9-10 times a week, but I can’t handle that. Fiance prob initiates 75% of the time. I don’t actually have a favorite position unless you count cunnilingus lol. I like alternating between different positions during sex. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

We are using NFP, so we have sex based on when I’m fertile or not.  It’s a little extra tricky because my DH and I are on different schedules (he words third shift).  Also sex is a bit painful for me, too.  So usually about 3-5 times a month, probably?  (But we do other things during the fertile time, that aren’t painful for me! When you count that, more like 8 times a month I’d say.)

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Yipeebee:  I think I may have endometriosis, and sex is still painful (7 months into marriage…). Any tips?  How do you know your pain is related to endometriosis?  Thanks for any insight, I appreciate it.  (Note – I’ve gone to the gynocologist and we’ve determined the pain is either due to endometriosis or vaginismus, not sure which yet.  I’m thinking more towards endometriosis at this point.  Hoping to avoid surgery until after we have a baby, in case pregnancy helps – which it should and we are open to having kids before too long.)  Sorry that was super long/thread-jacking!

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Well when we are together (yay for LDR) 4-5 times a week. When we are apart I’d say we “sext” on average 2-4 times a week depending on our schedules. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

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juneberries:  usually 6 times a month. I initiate about 2/3 of the time (higher sex drive). Sometimes I want it 3 times a week but very rarely get it. As for positions… depends on the mood for us both. Currently no faves.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Probably once a week, although it used to be multiple times per day at the beginning of our relationship. I’m having trouble with my libido so I’m in the process of switching birth control methods so hopefully my sex drive will increase! Fiance would be happy with 3-4 times/week probably. He normally initiates.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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bridetobe24:  So it was diagnosed when I had an ultrasound whiich revealed a large cyst on my right ovary. From there I was sent for an MRI which revealed there was also a cyst growing on my bowel. They could tell it was endo from the pain, the levels in my blood test and the fact that the pain is in my pelvis and around where the cysts are. The only real way I’m afraid, to be sure its endo is to have a laporoscopy which is keyhole surgery. I am waiting for mine. They remove the tissue that is bad and that hopefully should reduce my pain. The only thing  they can do is surgical as far as I’ve been told.

  

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juneberries:  Not really but the more shallow I’m penetrated the more comfortable it is. But my sex life sucks until I get my operation!!!! 

Post # 13
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 2014

About 1-2 a week. My sex drive is higher than his.. I would be happy with 4-5 times a week. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee

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Yipeebee:  Okay I see, interesting.  Best of luck with the surgery!! My mom has endo and had the surgery last summer, and things have definitely been better for her.  Wish there was something other than surgery that would help, I know I’ll have to get it some day.  My mom’s endo cleared up a bit after each pregnancy, and that’s normal due to the hormones that are produced with pregnancy.  So I’m hoping that will help me for the next few years, and put off surgery – we’ll see!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

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KhaleesiStormborn:  

Ditto. I’m about 12/13 weeks (another dating scan on Thursday as they couldn’t get a good measurement last time) and I’m just not into it. This week all of my joints started hurting and I’m tired a lot but generally I just don’t want sex. Plus I had some issues last week so we’re taking it easy for a little while. 

Generally though, when not pregnant it’s probably 3 or 4 times a week. We both initiate equally; think our drives are fairly well matched. 

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