(Closed) Let's talk! Ugly Bridesmaid Dresses!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Why are there so many ugly bridesmaid dresses?

    Trying to appease too many people

    A matter of taste

    Fashion changes

    Bride not wanting to be upstaged


  • Post # 32
    2457 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

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    @Baron:  To be fair – that’s not the dress. It was just to give an example. 😛

    Post # 33
    10451 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    The dresses at my parents’ wedding were AWFUL. It was the 80s though, so to be fair p retty much every piece of clothing from that decade was terrible. I think a lot of the bad dresses I’ve seen are dated, so fashion changes over time. Bu then there are those that are just ugly, no matter when. I think it’s usually more time related though.

    Post # 34
    2890 posts
    Sugar bee

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    @StephieBee:  Ohhhh ! Gotcha.

    I have to say, I would have LOVED to wear that kind of dress replica if it was a GWTW theme wedding, but only if it was that movie, not an ”inspiration” for another costume gown, LOL !


    Post # 35
    12245 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Every time I see unflattering Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, I assume the bride didn’t want any competition!

    Though once the MOB told me she HATED the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, but that one of the BMs had threatened not to be in the wedding if she didn’t get straps… So the seamstress added these AWFUL spaghetti straps that made the dress look like a late 90s prom dress!

    Post # 36
    624 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I think its definitely a matter of taste, my Maid/Matron of Honor hates the dress I picked, the other bridesmaids love it, lol.  But in this case I am definitely not going to claim that I am the one with the bad taste, she and I just have completely different styles.  🙂

    Post # 37
    3400 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    “All of the above” should be an options 😛

    I think in some situations a bride with low self-esteem with pic a mediocre dress (perhaps not terrible) just because she wants to automatically be the best looking in the bunch.

    Othertimes I think the bride just has terrible taste & doesn’t care what anybody thinks about the dress (they might not even admit how the feel so as to not upset the bride).

    I also think sometimes that plus size BM’s are picky about dresses & just want to hide what they consider problem areas (again, totally not always a the case, & usually these women would look beautiful in anything!). So they pick these ugly dresses that just help to make them look slim, even if the dress itself is terrible.

    I’m sure there are more reasons too. I purposely let my bridesmaids have a huge say in the dress because I legitimately wanted them to like the dress & wear it again. They said they definitely would wear them again & liked that the price of the dress wasn’t crazy.

    Post # 38
    1186 posts
    Bumble bee

    @iloverocks:  My sister has a graveyard closet of bridesmaid dresses at my parents’ home, sitting, never to be used or looked at again. And of course, every bride has picked a $150-200 dress. 

    This last bridesmaid dress was by far the absolute worst. 

    I think the bridal industry has made such wedding-specific bridesmaid dresses, and those usually are by far the worst. If more brides had their bridesmaids wear department store dresses or stores that we normally shop in, I think dresses then would actually be rewearable and less hideous.


    Post # 39
    6256 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I think it’s not because the bride wants to be prettier and therefore will stick her BMs in an ugly dress…but because the bride doesn’t want dresses that will distract from her.

    If you think about it, white is one of the blandest colors there is. If your wedding color is red, or bright yellow, or kelly green, of course the eye will be drawn there. So it makes sense that some brides would want to pick the blandest style possible to counteract that. I think that’s also why you almost never see bridesmaids or Maid/Matron of Honor in prints, even though prints are huge everywhere else.

    My BMs ranged in size from a 4 to a 26. We’re going the custom route–each girl will pick her style of dress, and it will be made in mint green chiffon. Because yes, bridesmaids’ dresses are ugly. And uninspired. And probably the most bland clothing items ever made that aren’t worn for some sort of religious purpose.

    Post # 40
    569 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013


    I think this is mostly a matter of taste. Everyone has different preferences for what they think looks good on themselves. I know there is this misconception that the bride doesn’t want the bridesmaids to “outdo” her… but who actually thinks that???  And how is that even possible? Unless the bride is wearing a cotton sundress and the BMs are in ball gowns? And who would deliberately make her nearest and dearest look ugly at her wedding? In all the photos too??

    But also…bridesmaids dresses are often awful because they look like…bridesmaids dresses. I kept asking myself when I searched for Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses in the bridal catalogs: Why don’t any of these dresses look like regular party dresses?? They were all made of crappy material, cost $200-300 and didn’t even fit properly on anyone. I couldn’t imagine anyone ever wearing them again.

    If I was going to spend that much money on dresses for my girls, I sure as heck wanted them to be rewearable. We ended up buying our Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses from Nordstrom. Best decision ever. It cost about the same as a catalog dress, but they provided alterations, excellent customer service and we got some gorgeous frocks. I know for certain that a few of my girls have already reworn the dress several times.




    Post # 41
    180 posts
    Blushing bee

    I was part of a wedding in which the bride put the “junior” bridesmaids (aged 17-20) in the most juvenile looking dresses ever! I think she was trying to separate the juniors from the regular BMs but the fact that she was an older bride played a big part I’m sure. She also had their hair in braids; they looked like middle schoolers…

    Post # 42
    1285 posts
    Bumble bee

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    @StephieBee:  To be fair, Baron has been rude in the majority of her posts on the Bee so far….. 

    Post # 43
    3080 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I think that it’s just a matter of taste. I really hope that the dresses that I chose look ok on my bridesmaids. I tried to pick a simple a-line dress that would be flattering on mostly everyone and they all claimed they liked it. Hopefully they weren’t lying! Although they did flat out tell me when they didn’t like a dress.

    Post # 44
    2522 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I think it is a mostly the bride not wanting to be upstaged and is ridiculous!  Though, after going to 3 different bridal stores to look for dresses, the amount of hideous dresses available far exceeds normal department stores!

    Post # 45
    1987 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I agree with those posters who have cited the cheap material of many of these dresses (that still usually end up costing $150-200 with alterations).  Like, there really is no reason why I shouldn’t be able to wear a blue sleeveless dress that has a contrasting sash over and over again…however, when that dress is made of cheap material that looks weird under lights, clings in a weird way, etc., then you just dont’ want to wear it again.  I have a dress from one wedding that is a beautiful color and cut and, quite frankly, made me look awesome.  However, the material is so cheap and so utterly marks the dress as a bridesmaid’s dress that I’ve never worn it again.

    Post # 46
    3828 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    i hated both dresses i wore in the 2 weddings i have been in. And the 3rd wedding i have seen her choices and they are awful. 

    I think some people dont have good taste or they dont want to be upstaged. I dont get it. 

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