Post # 1
i thought just having 3 girls would mean less drama but boy oh boy was i wrong…..
i think part of it is my fault cuz all 3 of them are my best friends, and so i’m used to venting about stuff to each of them….well, i vented a bit about a month before my shower about Maid/Matron of Honor being really busy and i guess because of that the 2 bms decided to just move along with the bach. party plans without including my Maid/Matron of Honor…..then on top of that, i learn that there was tension before my bridal shower this past sunday between them and one of the girls told my Maid/Matron of Honor to her face that she was irresponsible,etc…..mind you, my Maid/Matron of Honor works long hours, goes to school, is in the process of packing and moving, plus has a 3 year old child to care for…..up until now, i have been understanding and i don’t expect her to push all that aside just for me…..yet, i did vent at one point that it was hard to rely on her because of it…..the other 2 girls are planners, they love to plan stuff in their lives, and love to organize and all that…..so they naturally decided to put things in motion on their own…..and I have a feeling that just because my one Bridesmaid or Best Man had a Maid/Matron of Honor that didn’t “do her job” and just let her down all around, she feels the need to make sure my Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t do the same to me…..
ugh, i kinda wanna put them all in their place but then again, i’m the type to just brush it over and hope things work out on their own….and my Maid/Matron of Honor is the same way, so she’s not gonna confront them either….she had no involvement in the bach plans…..and i think my other 2 girls are still planning stuff for it without her…but yet Maid/Matron of Honor tells me to just ignore it, its whatever, she doesn’t want to start any more drama or cause more awkwardness etc…..
blehhhh…..thanks for letting me vent….
how about yous??? any bridal party drama???
Post # 3
A bit of drama for me but nothing I can’t handle. Let it go. Don’t complain about your Maid/Matron of Honor anymore. I know you just vented the one time but it seems your friends ran with it. You can tell them to start including your Maid/Matron of Honor but honey, your wedding is almost here so anymore talks might just bring more drama. I’d just let it go.
Post # 4
One of mine’s dress can’t get over her boobs. She has had the dress for 6 months now and just figured this out the other day. The wedding is in 17 days. yeah. awesome. AND she can’t even get off work that day. Told her don’t worry about it, programs are already printed, i’ll just black her out or something. ugh. should.have.eloped.
Post # 5
My Maid/Matron of Honor came down form Tampa and she planned for all the girls to get together wot plan my bridal shower. Maid/Matron of Honor plans this at my house. I call her the day of, she basically forgot and ditched us for a friend she anted to hang out with. She felt so bad she showed up 2 and 1./2 hours later and bought pizza for everyone. then she said she was broke.
Yesterday she tells me on the phone that feels that BMs are leaving her out of the planning and she’s tried to contact them. I speak to Bridesmaid or Best Man and she tells me that she’s only gotten one text and it was for her change of phone number.
I’m so over this crap. Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister.
SHOULD HAVE ELOPED!
Post # 6
Sorry, that totally sucks. 🙁 I think you just shouldn’t get involved in this one (easier said than done, I know!) If your Maid/Matron of Honor wants to be more involved in the bach. party she should probably reach out to your other BMs.
I’m dealing with a lot of stress regarding my bachelorette party as well. My Maid/Matron of Honor is deadset on going to Vegas for a long weekend and I really just don’t want to, due to a myriad of reasons. She’s really fighting me on this and I’m having a hard time getting her to back down. /sigh
Other than that though my other BMs have been totally fabulous!!
Post # 7
We’re about 4 ½ months out and I’m happy to report that I have not experienced a shred of bridal party drama. Like you, my bridesmaids are my three best friends and they’ve all been great. The only issue that we may run into is one of my bridesmaids moving about 15 hours away at the end of June. She and her family don’t have very much money so everyone I talk to seems to think she’s not going to come back for our wedding. I asked her and she promised me that she would be here so I just have to trust that she’ll keep her word. Other than that (which I really don’t consider “drama” at all) everything’s been great. I’m the 3rd of our group of 4 to get married and Fiance and I have been together the longest. My friends have been waiting for my wedding for years and I think they’re all really excited. No jealousy, no judgement, no snarkiness. It’s awesome.
I read about all of the bridal party drama from fellow Bees and it really makes me realize just how incredible my friends are.