(Closed) Letter from bridesmaid to bride- 10 ways to be the coolest bride. i dont like it

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Post # 32
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2265 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Kandiss16:  this is ridiculous…i repeat. *ridiculous*

 i think everyone – brides and bridesmaids alike – are losing sight of what the wedding day is about. brides sometimes miss the point that the wedding is about committing themselves to their partner for life, and while they should compromise on some things with their bridesmaids – like not making them wear the most expensive, heinous dresses the can find – being a bridesmaid isn’t about being showered with gifts, attention, and pampering. its about standing with the bride on her wedding day and supporting her in her lifelong commitment to her partner.

people blow my f’ing mind, man.

Post # 33
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473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Kandiss16:  the whole “letter” just sounds rude to me. I would be offended if my bridesmaids actually had the nerve to give me this weird list. It’s not about them, it’s supposed to be hubby’s and my day.

Post # 35
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5708 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

While I wish I would have followed some of these, asking for a special gift, extra pampering, flip flops, and being showered with additonal gifts? Gift grabby. Aren’t you just supposed to be honored to stand by your friend as she says her vows? Guess not.

Post # 36
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286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Kandiss16:  I don’t like she is demanding to choose her own dress. Regular guests get to choose the dress they like. Bridesmaids should have similar dresses, and of course decide altogether of a style and price but I would NOT like every Bridesmaid or Best Man to have different style of a dress.

 

She also wants lts of nice gifts… oh come on, sure somethng is expected but it sounds like you want to be paid for your services. Bride has already a lot of expenses, so she might not want to spend $100 for every bridesmaid on top for a gift, and you probably expect more.

 

Ugh. It’s a privilege to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, not a chore that you expect thigs.

Post # 37
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286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@lovekiss:  well who paid for your wedding? some brides have money to barely pay for they own hairstyles, yet you make us feel bad for not being able to afford to pay for BMs hair and so.

Post # 38
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2766 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@Mimoza:  I fully agree with you. This obviously isn’t a letter you’re supposed to print out and present to your bride-friend.

Also, if a bride is not doing these basic things to the ladies that are the dearest to her, and yet expects them to take several days from their own lives to shower her with attention and love, then she totally sucks. 

Being a bridesmaid could be a really big imposition, even when you truly love your friend/sister. A few thoughtful gifts requested in a generic open letter should not cause so much consternation amongst brides. It’s quite selfish on our behalfs, to be totally honest.

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@inspiration86:  If you have a specific hairstyle you would like your bridesmaids to have, or if you expect them to have their hair professionally styled, then yes, you should indeed pay for it. If you can’t afford it, then let your bridesmaids do what they are comfortable with. It’s basic courtesy as a bride.

Post # 40
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286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Kandiss16:  haha bridesmaidzilla right. wedding is not about you.

Post # 41
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7813 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@MrsN14:  +1. All of those things should be obvious but unfortuantely they aren’t. Some brides do need a wake-up call.

Post # 42
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6386 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@inspiration86:  We paid for our own wedding and didn’t have money for certain things, so we just didn’t do them.  I didn’t have to pay for my BMs hair or make-up because I didn’t require them to look a certain way.  I offered to pay for their dresses, but they were able to wear dresses they already own.  I think the letter’s point is don’t demand something of someone else that you can’t afford yourself.

Post # 43
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3218 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

a lot of brides complain about Bridesmaid or Best Man not pitching in, missing events, not wanting to pay for their hair/ requirements… so these requests are well within reason.

Post # 44
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793 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Kandiss16:  Not a fan of this either. I agree with is personalized wedding party gifts. This is a must for any bride to do. I also think that if the bride wants a specific hairstyle, then she should pay for it.

Post # 45
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286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@letigre:  yeah I agree with that,

but this letter demanded to pay for their hair and just generally made me angry!

Post # 46
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1737 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

It seemed light hearted to me, I didn’t see it as demanding or anything. I’ve been a bridesmaid many times and I think most of those things should be common knowledge.
I think it’s a helpful letter to brides.

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