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posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
5073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

no no no.  Never put anything like that in writing.  I feel like it’s too emotional, and you are including things that don’t have anything to do with your job.  

Fiance almost did the same thing a few months ago.  His job was making him ill and he wanted to send an email like that.  I convinced him not to.

He ended up changing jobs and is glad that he doesn’t have that original email in his personnel file anywhere.  

Post # 4
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@angelapicklebottom:  While I am all for being candid, this comes off as overly emotional, ranty, and unprofessional.

Post # 5
2863 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Nooooo. No. Do not do that. Calm down and talk in person in a professional, not emotional, maner. 

Post # 6
4354 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would be careful with the parts that suggest decisions as though you are your boss’ partner (like the firing Rob thing) but I guess it’s good that you’re bringing up your concerns.

Just curious why you don’t want to meet with your boss and disscuss in person? To me a letter says a little less than presenting yourself in person and standing up for yourself.

In any case, I wish you the best of luck with finding a solution!

Post # 8
2493 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Don’t. Send. It. You will completely regret it.


I agree with the above poster. If you are going to put things in writing, it needs to be direct and to the point and a resignation letter. Putting things like “if we do not see serious improvement in Rob’s performance and attitude, specifically towards me, he should be fired” if you are not someone in a position to fire him, will only have you fired.

Post # 9
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I agree with the above posters but I’ve also read your previous thread and so I understand where a lot of what you wrote in the letter is coming from. 

Post # 11
7606 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Ahhh you cannot send that!  I know you feel that your boss will agree with you on all the points you mentioned, but what if he/she doesn’t!?  Either way, I really think this should be brought up in a conversation rather than in an email.

ETA: Set up a meeting with your boss.  Bring a cue card to make sure you get all your points out.  Breathe.  🙂  Good luck!

Post # 12
2539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@KatyElle:  this comes off as overly emotional, ranty, and unprofessional.


OP.. you should never send something like this to your boss. this is crossing the line. If you have issues you should direct them to your superior. Im sorry your going through this but your going about it the wrong way.

Post # 13
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I agree with everyone else. This is by far the worst thing to ever put in writing. If anything, schedule time with your boss and talk to him about it, but never put anything like this in writing. 

Aside from not putting it in writing, the entire letter is extremely unprofessional. Focusing on what others are doing never gets you anywhere in a job. You need to focus strictly on yourself and your accomplishments and point those out to your boss. Then ask for a raise b/c of those accomplishments. Focusing on the lack of work others do is never a good thing to do.

Post # 14
4887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If one of my staff sent me an email like this, instead of rectifying the problem with the suggestions you’ve provided, I’d rectify the problem by ending your employment.


And I mean that in the nicest way possible.  But this letter is bad news bears.  There are far better ways to convey frustration – like by turning it into an opportunity.  PLEASE do not send this.

Post # 16
2586 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Its good to write it out – its cathartic – probably made you feel a lot better. 


But don’t send it.  You’d regret it as soon as you hit the send button.


Write things like this out whenever you feel this frustrated- its truly good for your sanity – just don’t send them  🙂



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