Post # 1
So, I THOUGHT we had found our photographer–a little rough around the edges (okay, make that very) but I hadn’t heard back from any of the other studios I’d e-mailed to see if they could swing our budget of $500. Well, I just got two replies from two photographers FH and I like a lot more than the one we were going to meet with (on Sunday) to discuss the contract and possibly put down a deposit.
How do I let the first guy down gently and tell him, “Sorry, but we’re going to shop around more”? I don’t want to be rude or seem wishy-washy (I know some degree of this is unavoidable), but I also don’t want craptacular wedding pictures that I’ll cry over later.
Post # 3
I would just say, “Thank you so much for your time. However, my Fiance and I have decided to go in a different direction.” No need to really clarify why.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2010 - Anela Garden Chapel & Japanese Cultural Center, Honolulu
miss glasses just wrote a post on that subject a day or so ago! 🙂
Post # 5
So far I have had no problem with vendors using that let down language.
Post # 6
Well you don’t have to say anything to him because you haven’t signed a contract wiht anyone yet, but if you do end up gonig with someone else for sure I’d send a courtesy email just saying thanks but you won’t be needing him at this time.
Post # 7
I would still meet with him and just not comit. Let him know you are still shopping around and you will let him know by X date. You don’t want to burn your bridges; just in case the other ones don’t work out.
Post # 8
Yes, I agree, still meet with him and don’t sign anything. If he gives you materials to take with you (contract, packages), just say you will review them and get back to him soon.
Post # 9
I canceled our meeting because honestly (not to sound mean)I’d rather just have relatives’ photos at this point than his work, the quality of which I’d feel uncomfortable paying for. He was okay with it and thanked me for letting him know. Disappointed, I’m sure, but…what can you do?
Post # 10
@hilsy85: Well said.
Don’t waste his time, don’t meet up with him if you already know you don’t want him That’s just not nice.
..and remember that it goes both ways too, the photographers might not want to book with you.
It’s not just the wedding couple’s decision, so treat him as you would like to be treated if he was the one letting YOU go…and like you said, he respond fast.
Post # 11
@Statutory Grape: it’s YOUR wedding and YOUR photos. Get what you want, there’s only one take!
*WE* don’t get mad if everyone doesn’t want to work with us, really. We don’t want to work with every couple. Everyone has their own style and personality, that’s all.
Post # 12
@hilsy85: that’s exactly what I said to the first DJ and photographer I met with. They just weren’t for us and I just told them we decided to go in a different direction and I wished them continued success.