(Closed) Letting another woman ride on your man's motorcycle?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I completely understand where you are coming from. My Fiance rides and I tell him all the time, never ever have another woman in my seat. I don’t want another girl with her arms around him and him sitting in between her legs. It’s just not cool in my book.

I would explain why it makes you uncomfortable or tell him to put himself in your shoes. I mean, would he want you on the back of some random person’s bike?

 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee

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crazybee1980:  I don’t think anything would happen between them and safety is very important (i.e. Amy shouldn’t ride with John until he is experienced) BUT why does Amy need to go anyway? Can’t your Fiance and John ride around for fun until he is experienced enough to take Amy? It’s just weird that she has to go along…

Post # 4
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Busy bee

Rather than worrying about what’s “fair” to Amy, your husband should be worried about his own wife. Perhaps Amy should stay at home while her partner is learning to ride. Sometimes couples do things separately and that’s okay. It would be her spending time with your husband, not her own partner, so what is the value in her attending these outings? 

It doesn’t make a lot of sense to me and I’d stick to my guns on this one. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

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crazybee1980:  Um, what?  You make it sound like they’re riding off into the sunset together so that John can watch his Girlfriend bang your husband … I agree with your husband, this is far fetched.  And you being possessive about “[your] seat?”  None of that makes sense to me, sorry.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I’m really not understanding why you are so against letting her ride with him. Its not as though her boyfriend isn’t with them on the next bike over. What do you think is going to happen? He might have unclean thoughts as she sits behind him? I really think you should let this go, because if I were him I would be dumbfounded at your reaction.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

This wouldn’t bother me at all. I’m like the least jealous person ever tho. My SO has female friends over alone frequently and it has never bothered me at all. 

Post # 9
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Newbee

I agree with your BFF here. The only female that puts her butt on the seat behind my man is our 11yo daughter and I’ve been very clear about that. And he sure as shit wouldn’t be planning rides for every time I was unavailable, who’s to say that John and Amy don’t break up and it becomes a cozy twosome out every weekend? If John doesn’t have the experience for a pillion on this bike….he needs to find one that’s more in his power range.

No deal.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I don’t get it – are you threatened by another woman being so close to your husband? 

Do you trust your husband? 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

Don’t be needy and controlling. If your husband is untrustworthy, he won’t need to a motorcycle-related opportunity to act on it.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

What next? Are you going to ban other women from sitting in your seat in the car? or at the kitchen table? Because we all know that leads to banging on the kitchen table in front of everyone. What about on public transport…is he expected to get up and move seats if a woman sits next to him?

I went on a harley ride with a biker….guess I did it wrong since I didn’t start an affair with him.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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crazybee1980:  I think you may come across as insecure and a bit controlling. I would encourage my Darling Husband to get out and have fun while I was at work.

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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crazybee1980:  Apparently your Darling Husband has a different opinion.

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