- 6 years ago
Darling Husband has been riding motorcycles for over 10 years. He has 2 bikes and has been wanting to sell one.
He works with a 20 yo military guy. John is working on getting a special m/c endorsement so he can ride on base. John wants to buy our bike. Darling Husband told him he’d go out with him on the weekends until he gets comfortable riding the new bike.
Darling Husband planned to meet John at a nearby store and that’s when he met Amy, John’s Girlfriend. She just got here (lives in another state) but is staying for a few months. That day, John bought Amy a helmet so she could ride.
That night as Darling Husband is telling me this, I asked if he was experienced enough to ride with a passenger. Darling Husband said he wasn’t sure. I don’t know where it came from but I told him that other women weren’t allowed on the bike, that’s my seat! He just laughed.
We’re talking about the bike again and Darling Husband tells me that they had talked, Darling Husband mentioned John isn’t experienced with THAT bike so he told him he should wait to take Amy on it. Amy says she can ride with Darling Husband until John gets the experience. Darling Husband says “ok” and apparently since they know that I work occasional weekends, they can go out riding on the days I work.
I told Darling Husband that he shouldn’t have offered to take her on his bike. He said “well what’s she supposed to do?” I told him if the point of riding with John is so he can get experience, that should be it.
We’re not talking a ride around the city here. We’re talking all day riding through the backroads and mountains. Plus the fact that I won’t be able to go. Darling Husband says that’s WHY they are planning to go on days I work.
I get helping out someone that needs a ride to work or something. But planning an all day outing on days I work really pisses me off. I told Darling Husband that he should wait until I’m off work and I can go. He said “what will Amy do then? It’s not fair to her.”
He said I’m being crazy, nothing’s going to happen, John will be there. My BFF’s husband is in a m/c club and she said although she rarely rides with him, he’d never “plan” to ride around all day with another woman even if her man was there. It’s a respect thing, just like not sitting on another person’s bike without their permission.
IDK, any advice?