(Closed) Letting Bridesmaid Choose their own Dress

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

I don;t think they need the same shoes, just cohesive ones. My girls had mismatched dresses and they just wore black, peep-toe heels. It excused them from buying the same shoes, but it still all matched and looked good together.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am! I am, however giving guidelines (ie if I can see your nips then its time to find a different Bridesmaid or Best Man dress) just make sure they check in with you. I am also letting them do their own shoes, as long as they are relatively the same (ie peep toe or sling back) Good Luck!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would let them pick their own shoes as long as they are in the color you want. I’m letting my ladies pick their own shoes as long as they are silver. I have some ladies that love to wear heels and a few that can’t wear anything except for flats due to health issues. Letting them pick their own is just easier. Not to mention that they can pick something within their budget.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am letting my Maid/Matron of Honor pick the dress. She is plus size and I feel that its only fair that she also feels comfortable and gorgeous as she stands up for me at the alter.

The only say I want is in the color–which will be neutral (mocha, latta, champaign)

We are having trouble finding a dress because “plus size” samples are up to size 14…ridiculous.

 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

i told my ladies black showes that they could walk in. i reminded them they would be standing for the ceremony and walking around the resort for various pictures. once all the pictures were done they could change shoes if they needed and even recommended they bring black flip flops to hide under their seat

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@kiparker: I am letting my bridal party pick what they want from head to toe. I feel like they are the ones who have to be comfortable and it lessen conflict. I did tell them they had to agree on the collection, color and fabric. They can wear whatever style as long as the 3 requirements are good.

 

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My girls are picking their own dresses and shoes.  All the dresses are from David’s Bridal, are long and in black.  Black shoes as well, but I don’t care what style.  It was important for me to do this since I have 2 bridesmaid dresses and 2 sets of shoes I’ll never wear again, AND spent a crap tun of money on.  This way, my girls pick dresses they like, in black so they can re-use them for a future event.  They can even alter the length if they wish.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Maybe if you want some cohesiveness, you can give them guidelines for the shoes.   For instance, have them all buy a gold peep-toe heel or something champagne colored and strappy.  That way they can find something that fits their individual style, budget and comfort range.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m doing the same thing. They picked their own dresses, in the same color, same designer, and I’m letting them wear any black shoe. But, they are floor-length dresess, so I guess it doesnt matter as much.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I had my BM’s pick any style they wanted from a particular designer in the same fabric, color and length.  I also told them to accessorize however they want and wear whatever shoe they want as long as it’s gold. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

Everyone has different shoe preferences as far as comfort goes. Some cant do heals, some hate flats. I let all of my girls chose their dress, same goes for the shoe. I would feel super guilty if I forced them to wear a shoe that they couldnt walk or feel comfortable in. Just give guidelines, like you do for dresses.

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I am….I told my bridesmaids what color dress to get and let them all try dresses on together & they decided.  We all have similar tastes so I wasn’t worried about their choice.  We decided silver shoes since they may be able to wear them again (dresses are royal blue)  I don’t think it matters if they wear the same shoe as long as the color is the same. 

Good luck 🙂

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