Post # 1
My wedding is in 3 months, and it is now turning out that I am a completely Type B bride and there is a lot I really don’t care too much about as long as my friends are there and we’re having a blast.
Turns out this includes the bridesmaids dresses. I have my dress, the boy has his outfit, and somehow I really just don’t care what the Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaids wear. I have been tempted to ask them to wear something dark blue/grey/black at least but then I kind of want them to just pick whatever they want to wear. I had to wear a dress I hated last year and hate the pictures, and really don’t want to go through this with others.
Will this look horrible in the photos? Anyone have any experience where you did this and they ended up picking something horrible?! Or the opposite way around, where it worked out well?
Just FYI – the wedding overall is not a fancy affair, it will really be a big party with drinking and dancing and overall merriment. Our What should I wear section on the website reads ‘Black tie not required, but don’t let that stop you! Wear something fancy that you’ll still feel comfortable dancing around till the wee hours of the morning. Jeans are cool as long as you make them look amazing.’
Post # 2
I would at least pick a color. You can just tell them to find a grey dress, you don’t even have to specify the exact color grey…but at least they would be in the same color range.
I found it more stressful to have no guidelines when picking out a bridesmaids dress. Then you wonder if you are picking something that will look good with everyone else/if the bride will hate it. I know you said you don’t care what they wear, and that’s awesome! That was just what was going through my mind when I had no guidelines when picking out a dress!
Post # 3
I would atleast pick a palette of color options or yes it will be a hot mess. People actually appreciate a little direction when it comes to these things.
Post # 4
- Wedding: Lombardi\'s On The Bay
This is (almost) exactly what I am doing. Personally, I don’t like the look of everyone wearing the same exact dress. It looks too uniform and sterile to me.
I’m going to ask that my 2 bridesmaids wear dresses that are about knee length and yellow. I don’t care what material they’re made of, what the neckline looks like, etc. I also could care less what kind of shoes they wear.
My cousin who got married a few years ago had 6 bridesmaids, all of whom wore completely different dresses- different colors, lengths, sleeve lengths etc. Guesd what? Her wedding pictures looked absolutely awesome and the wedding went off without a hitch. I think the same will happen for you. 🙂
If you’re really antsy about someone picking something totally “off”, maybe you could suggest a few different colors to choose from (ie: black and grey, neutrals, pinks) I have seen wedding pictures with this theme as well and they look stunning!
Post # 5
I have a small wedding with one maid of honor, one flower girl, and one best man. So this might not be much help. But I did let my maid of honor pick the dress she wanted. It flatters her figure perfectly. Not only that, but I let her pick it in her favorite color. Our wedding colors are coral, sage, cream, and grey. Her dress color is a dusty lilac (so there is a bit of grey in it). Honestly, the other colors do not look good on her for some reason. She is my best friend and I wanted her to be able to wear the dress again. She is carring a bouquet with my colors but to tie everything in, the florist is including silver lilac colored roses. My flower girl is wearing a dress that has a coral colored sash, though. 🙂 Kids are a little easier to mold.
Post # 6
I think that if you stick to the color palette it’s a great idea and works fine. I did this for a wedding I was in last year and it was nice except the bride wanted a certain shade of mint and that proved a little hard to find (lots of dresses that are called mint are actually more like tiffany blue) but I don’t think you would have that issue with dark grey/navy or black (though I would probably narrow it down as you might end up with one of each color)
For my wedding I picked a designed and a color and let the girls pick any dress they wanted in that range (about 140 options) and I thought that was a nice mix of what they wanted but still the exact shade I wanted
Post # 7
I saw some pictures on Facebook of a wedding where the BMs had obviously just been told to get a blue dress. While I’m not into the matchy matchy let’s all have the same shoes thing, I think you need more guidance. There were all different styles, shades, quality of material….it looked messy.
Post # 8
I told them they could pick any pink dress the only stipulation was that I HAD to be there when they were buying it just so I could see the vision in my head. Here’s how they turned out:
Post # 9
I asked for colours nude / light pink / cream-ish, gave them £40 each (UK bride) and let them pick. Was really happy with the results! Seven bridesmaids is really too much to coordinate with tall, short, big boobs, small boobs, narrow hips, wide hips and one pregnant – wasn’t going near that 😉
Post # 10
I gave the girls one request aqua, tiffany blue, or a very light teal and to show me pics of their dress before they boguht it.
Post # 11
My cousin did this for their wedding – even the bride didn’t wear a wedding dress, just a nice gray one. The photos look lovely, but mostly don’t look much like a wedding to me – just a fancy dinner or something. I’d say at least give them a color palette. and it should be good. Since you have a gown/dress yourself, that will help.
Post # 12
THis is what I did. I didn’t at all want to do the samey samey bridesmaid dresses either (or any of the stress to go along with it) – so I told my 4 girls to get or wear (if the already had something that fit the bill, cool) a plain black dress with black shoes. And my only request was that it not be strapless bc my dress was strapless and I wanted it to be the only one. That’s it.
They all got their own plain black dresses and it looks fantastic in the pictues. It looks like we are ‘coordinated’ but not robots. Everyone looks like themself. Plus they all had the same yellow parasol to tie them all together.
Go for it! I personally don’t understand the need for matching dresses.
Post # 13
To quote Stacey and Clinton: Things don’t have to ‘match’, they have to ‘go’… 🙂
Post # 14
I’m doing this too – I have 6 bridesmaids and my only requirements were navy and cocktail length. Three chose to order different dresses but same fabric from a certain line (chiffon). Another one got a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress from a different designer in a different fabric (silk dupioni). One has ordered about a million different options and can’t find anything she likes – she’s been looking at department stores and Bridesmaid or Best Man dress designers (she’s thinking something in lace). And the other intends to get a dress from a department store but hasn’t ordered yet (also lace). I’m just a little worried about the last two because we are ~7 weeks out from the wedding and they tend to procastinate a lot, but I’m sure they’ll work it out. Like PP’s said, I don’t like the monotonous matchy/matchy thing with the same dress, shoes, hair style, etc. I think my girls appreciate having a little more freedom – they are grown adults and dress themselves appropriately every day…why should my wedding day be any different?
Post # 15
Same bouquet! Make it your own – lol 🙂