(Closed) Letting bridesmaids chose their own random dresses

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
1974 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I love this idea actually. It doesn’t matter if they don’t match at all. When I look at pictures of my friends and I posed for photos at formal dinners and various parties and black tie events, we all look perfectly happy and comfortable, and of course our dresses never match. And yet it works. I can’t see why this wouldn’t work for bridesmaids and a wedding party. What a good choice you made.

Post # 17
865 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - City Hall!

i actually think it looks cute if they’re all different. 



Post # 18
1214 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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crossroadsgirl:  I would at least pick a color range, and probably either ask that they are all long or short.  I did this and asked my BMs to send me a picture before they bought.  It worked out great and I didn’t have to tell anyone no on their dress.  A gf did this with her wedding too and it worked out well.  We were told “green and long.”  I told my BMs “blush and short,” and also sent out some links to dresses like what I was thinking, but they didn’t have to get those specific dresses.

Post # 20
3940 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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crossroadsgirl:  I’m also Type B. I just put it up to a vote amongst them. Create a Facebook group or a group text, ask them to talk amongst themselves to come up with a color or a color scheme and then let them go at it. I asked my girls to do this and they gravitated towards pinks and purples–Cool, fine with me and no stress.


Post # 21
164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

I did this, and the dress shopping was a little stressful because I had one bm in the mix who is very take charge type, and couldn’t stand that I wasn’t giving direction, but it all worked out!  I gave my color palette, and asked them to decided on a mutual fabric and length amongst themselves.  They paid for them, and I have done enough of the planning, I just didn’t want to think about it.  

Post # 22
842 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception / Courtyard Marriott Legacy Ballroom

This is the direction I went! I picked out a color palette and told them I would like them to have knee length dresses with flowy skirts – my Maid/Matron of Honor ended up with a full length dress, but we figured she could stand out more than the other BMs so it was okay.


Post # 23
2268 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I gave them a color and set them free in David’s Bridal. Was totally okay with them all getting different dresses, but somehow it worked out that we have two different dresses.

Post # 24
881 posts
Busy bee

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crossroadsgirl:  I’m doing this! I told my girls to pick black cocktail dresses. I don’t care about fabric, cut, or anything. Just black and it hits around their knees. Each of my 4 BMs picked gorgeous dresses that are totally their style and they are so excited to wear it! The prices ranged from $60 – $400, and it was 100% their choice. 

They will all have the same bouquet, and I’m paying for hair and makeup, so there is no doubt in my mind that they will obviously be “the bridesmaids”. 

One of my bridesmaids is getting married 3 months after me, and I had to pay $450 +$100 in alterations for her bridesmaid dress. She didn’t bat an eye about the cost. In my opinion, picking a colour and letting them get something that fits them (both style and financially) is the way to go.

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