(Closed) Letting guests know wedding will be small/simple?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think you are worried about something that won’t happen. Everyone I told was thrilled we were having a small wedding. I told everyone we are only having special people that are close to us at the wedding. They all loved that.

Even people that aren’t invited understand.

The best wedding i ever went to had 12 guests. It was perfect! Try not to worry, it will be LOVELY!

Post # 4
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41 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@Lucy27: On the invitation instead of saying Reception to Follow put ‘Cake and Punch Reception to Follow’ and that will let people know no dinner, no alcohol. Plus if you have your wedding at 2 pm or so then people generally know to eat beforehand.

Post # 5
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1696 posts
Bumble bee

An invitation conveys the “who, whom, what, when, where” of an event through the factual text printed on the paper; and it conveys the style of the event through the style of the paper, printing and wording. The third-person wording that most people think of as “wedding invitation wording” — you know, “Mr and Mrs John Doe/request the pleasure of your company/ at the wedding of their daughter …” — is actually formal invitation wording for any sort of grand, formal affair: wedding or not. The more stilted the wording, the more strictly the black-engraved-letters-on-heavy-white-vellum rule is followed, the more formal the affair.

You indicate that an event is less formal by using instead a natural wording, along the lines of:

“Dear Mary and Bill,

Lou and I will be getting married on Saturday the blat of blat at blat 0’clock at address. It will be a small wedding: just the ceremony and then some cake and fun. If you are able to be in town that day, we would be delighted if you could attend. It would probably be all over by blat o’clock.

Love, Lucy”

Q.E.D. The easiest way to communicate anything, is just to say it straight out; and a naturally-worded note makes that easy.

Post # 6
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369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Your invitations can me more informal. Maybe on the line where some folks put ‘Black Tie’ etc, you can put ‘Casual.’

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