Post # 1
I had originally thought we’d do a duet beef/chicken entree. We were also going to offer vegetarian lasagna & a kids meal. We were planning on the response card having # vegetarian dishes, # children’s meals. My mom now wants each guest to be able to choose between beef, chicken, veggie, kids – so now the response card would read # beef, etc.
My concern is how do we figure out which person gets what? Are we supposed to call each family & figure out who gets what? Is this practical? Has anyone else done this?
Post # 3
Each of our rsvp cards had like 5 lines for guests to write their names and a place to select their choice.
Will your caterer let guests order at the beginning of the reception? That way you can give them an accurate count but not worry about exactly who wants what.
Post # 4
We had 4 options: beef, crabcakes, fish, and veg. We just had guests initial for their choice on the rsvp. Some didn’t do that and we had to make follow up calls. We didn’t include a line for kids, b/c it would be too cramped and most of guests assumed their was a kid’s meal.
On the placecards, we used little symbols so the servers knew what each guest had ordered. Everything went smoothly.
Post # 5
I’ve been at weddings with my now-FI where we had chosen different dinners and we received the wrong ones. It was no big deal because we sat next to each other and just swapped. We’ve also been at weddings where there was waitstaff to ask us what we had ordered, so I guess the response card was just for a count. Not sure about what others think, or what etiquette would say, but I think it’s okay for couples and families to swap plates if necessary.
Post # 6
The way I did it was the adult guests had a choice of either Chicken or Beef. Since we invited more than 20 kids to the wedding, I did list “Children’s Meal (Age 10 and under)” on the response card as well. I have a lot of vegetarian or vegan friends who I just emailed and told them to write in if they needed a veggie/vegan meal and I just made note of it (rather than giving EVERY guest the option). It was just easier that way. I asked people to initial next to their meal choice (most did, some did not). Here is what mine looked like just so you have a better idea:
Post # 7
I like having guests initial. Thanks so much!
Post # 8
we did the initialing thing, however maybe 10% of the guests actually initialed… most just checked… so they may have received the wrong meal, but we just figured they would switch..
Post # 9
we had guests initial their choices. Most people didnt follow directions though and just marked the number they wanted, which was fine as well, since it was mostly couples and they are sitting next to eachother they can swap or share or whatever pleases them.