Post # 1
my SO was using my phone last weekend while we were out of town in the country at his Boss’ ranch. he seen one of the bookmarks i have here for the weddingbee that opens up to my profile/post history.
he asked me about it, and instead of grabbing the phone from him, i figured why not let him just read it? even though we are quote unquote engaged right now, i dont really feel its official because i dont have my ring yet.
ive been trying to keep my nagging about the ring to a minimum because i know hes still paying it off, but part of me feels insecure whenever i look down at my ring finger. it just doesnt feel real to me until theres a ring there. whenever i bring up the ring topic or marriage topic he gets uneasy about it. so we dont talk much on the subject. I refuse to talk to my family and friends about it, knowing they wont take us seriously without a ring and date in the works, so i remain silent, which is tough.
he looked through my post history and seemed suprised by all of the things i had written, it was almost a wakeup call for him and how bad i felt during my waiting period, he just didnt know it effected me the way it did.
he also read through some of the posts in the waiting board, and a post about waiting from the mans perspective. it opened up a honest discussion about everything, so in a way this board and letting him read my posts were beneficial.
we come here looking to vent about our waiting and avoid nagging our men about the wedding subject, we have so many talks with them where it goes in 1 ear and out the other. maybe seeing our words, hurt and frustration in writing sinks in more to them?
after that talk i feel better knowing he REALLY sees how i feel, and knowing he has a plan for our future gave me some comfort. has anyone ever had their SO read their posts before? just thought i’d share.
Post # 3
Oh this is such a sweet story. I’ve never let SO read my posts before but he has read other things (that are general and don’t realte to us). I tdefinitely makes me think I should be less “sneaky” about it.
Hope your waiting ends soon, sounds like you’re in the same place after you discussion.
Post # 4
I’m glad it turned out well for you, it could’ve made a lesser man panic 😉
I’m not waiting, but Fiance just told me the other day that he stalked out my weddingbee account (this is par for the course with us, and we’re fine with it) for the purposes of… seeing if I had posted anything about his engagement watch, lol.
If it really was to look for which engagement watch I wanted to get him, it’s both super cute and fruitless. If it was to just be nosy, it’s ok, but I’d rather he not read it regularly. Not that I have anything to hide, it’s just that this is a safe, girly place to obsess, vent, etc., and I’d like to keep it that way.
Post # 5
I am glad that the Bee opend up communication. Here’s hoping for progress!
My Fiance reads over my shoulder at times and teases me a bit. Oh well, he is a geek and posts on Reddit all the time. We have ring porn they have….well porn, and puppies and satirical comments etc. What is the difference?
….we have puppies too.
Post # 6
that was my post (about from the guys perspective) care to share either here or there what information you got out of him?
Post # 7
My SO read a post that I wrote on theknot.com, about how I was kinda hoping he’d propose on Christmas. Anyway, he read it, sighed, and we had a little discussion on how he felt the timing would’ve been off then but how he had thought of doing it then. Honestly that made me happy because I knew we were still moving in the right direction and not at a standstill.
Post # 8
Interesting! Sounds like it opened up some good communication between the two of you. Having read what a lot of us on the waiting board are going through, is he willing to share a guy’s perspective on the pre-proposal stage of a relationship?
Post # 9
Wow, I don’t think that would have been a good idea for me hahaha!
Post # 10
Haha wow, I think I probably wouldn’t want my SO to read my posts and comments. ONE: I don’t want him to know how obsessively crazy I am about every single anxiety ridden detail. TWO: While he knows that I want him to propose yesterday, I don’t go into depth with all of the crazy comments that I make on here to him. I don’t want him to feel pressure. I guess you could say I take my “frustration” if you could call it that, out on The Bee!! :-O love u ladies
Post # 11
My SO knows all about WB and he knows who I am on here, but I have idea if he’s ever read my posts!
Post # 12
That’s great, I’m glad he knows more about how you’re feeling!
I definitely would not want my Fiance on here….or anyone I know in real life….haha.
Post # 13
AHH! There’s husbands on the bee… everyone on your best behavior!
Post # 14
I try to restrain myself posting sometimes and go through phases where I don’t post at all because I wonder what my friends/SO would think if they found my account. I definitely don’t post too much personal venting though I do post some times when I get excited about little things (like how we’re going on vacation this weekend woo!)– I wouldn’t want to have vents out there in the world for anyone to see.
Post # 15
Imaginary *like* for Moja Milosc!
Post # 16
I just let my guy read mine 3-4 days ago. My venting hurt his feelings a little but, but then I think he saw how much I was struggling with the whole waiting thing. He has said he won’t read them again because he understands that I need to vent about it somewhere. He reassured me that it’s coming very soon. And I think he’s finally made a decision about what ring he likes…. I have seriously given him a million ideas, and thought we had it picked out aldready. Lol!