(Closed) letting people know you are engaged

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

Yes, you should definitely tell people first!

I actually made that mistake – I assumed my mother had told everyone already (because she always tells everyone stuff like this), and shockingly enough, she hadn’t told anyone! So a few of my family members found out through facebook – luckily, not too many!!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

Yes, you should definitely call them and tell them. My best friend got engaged and sent me a picture mail of her ring, but i never got the picture on my phone. So….I found out the next day on facebook and I was a little upset Undecided

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

No – luckily no one minded, it turned out not to be that big of a deal.

It’s been really complicated for us though, because soon after we got engaged (about 3 weeks ago) my grandfather went to the hospital (he’s been very sick for almost four years now) and he passed away last week. It hasn’t really been an appropriate time to tell most of the family. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

We called our parents and siblings on the day we got engaged.  I wanted to let people know right away, because we were so excited.  Of course, I also don’t do FB or MS, so I don’t really keep in touch with people that way.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yes, we called my parents first, then my brother and his family who live in Germany and then we surprised his parents who were actually with us but didn’t know my man proposed.

After that, I went on facebook via my cellphone and updated my status to:

Stephanie said yes…

So then I got a few people who knew but didn’t know replying back to me with, ‘Said yes to what???!!!’

It was a cool moment and all of the congrats were fun.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

yes! i was adament about this. i didn’t put it on facebook until i had personally told everyone who was close to me, and Fiance had done the same. we didn’t want anyone to feel slighted. we even tried telling all local people in person (which meant keeping it quiet for a week or so), and all out of town people got phone calls.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I tried to avoid the Facebook post before everyone knew, but it didn’t quite work out that way ;o)

We got engaged on a Friday night, so we called our families, and I was going to wait to call my friends until the next day as I assumed they would be out partying, etc.

Little did I know that my sister changed her Facebook status to: “I’m going to be a maid of honor! So excited!” and that pretty much gave it away.  My friends starting texting me frantically.  Oooops.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I called my parents/siblings/very close friends immediately, the next day mass texted sorority girls/other close friends (so they wouldn’t hear about it through facebook), and then the next day put it on facebook.  His extended family is in Malaysia and are not on facebook, so they may have found out slightly later but were none the wiser 🙂

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We called the moms and dads and siblings and families and I sent a text message to about 15 of my closest friends with a pic of the ring saying we got engaged. I put it up on facebook later that night. Everyone knew he was doing it that week (and pretty much that night) so it wasn’t exactly a humongo surprise =]

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I told my nearest and dearest (fam and friends) with my FH (for many ppl we used speaker phone!! hehe) and then our friends who we arn’t as close with I let them know via facebook/pillow talk/etc

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper

Yes, I think that should be the way it’s done.

I went as far as changing my FB privacy settings – I did not want anyone finding out via FB!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

We had a list of all the important friends and family members who needed to be told in person or on the phone. We made sure to call them all directly and told them we were going to wait to put it on facebook for a few days. We told everybody that and amazingly they complied and nobody gave anything away on FB until we had told the important people and changed our facebook statuses.

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