Post # 1
I’ve never been one to stop complaining when something bothers me. I’ll need to talk to at least 3 people about it to “feel better.” Especially work issues. I’ve come to the conclusion that rehashing the issues make me feel worse! Who knew? So instead of going to complain to another coworker about my “issue” at lunch, I’m letting it go. I’ve handled it the way I saw fit and I’m done.
Anyone else go through this realization?
Post # 3
I guess I am the same way, it’s a growing up stage that we go through where we work it out ourselves and we’re done with it!
Post # 4
Yes! In some ways, just letting go is best! Rehashing just gets the blood pressure up and really makes it an even BIGGER problem because you are intently focusing on it over and over again!
Post # 5
Yes, I agree, and it took me a long time to mature to that level. Used to be I had to discuss everything to death. It was due to insecurity over whether I was making the right decision or not about something. I had an epiphany one day, a few years ago – I realized that I honestly don’t care about anyone else’s opinion more than my own. So, I figured out if I think it is ok and the right thing to do, who really cares what anyone else thinks? Lol. Within reason, of course. I always care about other people’s opinions to a certain extent, but if we disagree I don’t agonize over it any more, I just tell myself that if I think it is ok, it really is ok. For ME.
Post # 6
@Sunfire: I could have written the same exact post. This is me as well. I used to care far too much what others thought. I’m not sure if it was age or experience or both that made me realize one day that life is too damn short to care what everyone else thinks about me. At the end of the day, I am the one who has to live my life. No one else is in my shoes, so people’s opinions about what I do with my life and my family do not really matter as much as I once thought.
Post # 7
This was me like four months ago….I have saved myself so much stress by just letting go. Work was the cause of a lot of drama for me.
Post # 9
I’m with you. I’m usually at my happiest when I come to that realization. Yesterday I was super frustrated and I was at my university with Darling Husband when I just turned to him and said, “I’m honey badger and honey badger don’t give a sh*t” hahah we laughed about it for a good long time. And so I say that to myself whenever something bugs the crap out of me. Try it, it works. 😛
Honey badger don’t give a sh*t
Post # 10
Rehashing an issue definitely makes it worse and prolongs the stressful effects on your body physically, too. I try to not “vent” too much anymore because all it does is make me more aggrevated. It’s very hard sometimes for me to drop something I’m dwelling on, of course, but when I do I’m so grateful.
Post # 11
Yay! I’m so glad that this has worked for me… I just can’t believe it took me so long! 🙂 happy to hear your stories ladies.