Letting your coworkers wearing your e-ring

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 46
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Bumble bee

I would be uncomfortable with it. Luckily no one has asked me.

Post # 47
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I wouldn’t let anyone try on my ring. I’m picky that way. I wouldn’t ask someone either. However, a good friend offered hers to try on when I was admiring her ring when she got engaged. I put it on, admired it and took it right off. There’s no need to wear someone else’s ring for more than 10 seconds.

I wouldn’t try on a coworkers ring even if they offered. 

Post # 48
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Helper bee

I have briefly tried on a co-workers ring when she was curious if we were the same ring size and due to the shape of our rings we couldn’t just put them together and compare. It was on for a grand total of five seconds, if that before I promptly gave it back. I was not willing to let her try mine on as it was new and a family heirloom which I was very paranoid about losing or damaging (one of the reasons I ended up changing my ring). 

I might let a close family member or friend try it on briefly but only in my sight and not for more then a minute or two at most. This ring is expensive and a symbol of the bond between me and my fiance. Besides, it feels weird not wearing it now. 

I felt really wierd showing people my hand for a start, especially as I don’t always like being touched (and most people sort of hold my hand to stop it shaking so they can see better), but I there’s no way I’d be willing to take it off and hand it to someone.

Post # 49
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Bumble bee

There is a big difference between trying someones ring and someone wearing it fro 30min. I think this is really personal. We actually talked about this with a clolleague a wile ago. She said that she would never ever let anyone try on her ring since she feels like it is complete invasion of her privacy. Some are more comfortable with other touching it. I would never ask someone and I think it’s rude, but I also woudn’t have a problem someone trying it on. But if you’re fine with it then go ahea. If you are not, then don’t let them.

I’m sorry to make a terrible comparison, but it’s like when you are wearing glasses. When someone say “I like your frames” some have an immediate reaction to say “want to try them on” and some avoid all the “wow you’re blind” commments and don’t want others to try.

Post # 50
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Busy bee

Trying it on for a few seconds or so is fine, but letting this person leave it on for 30 mins is letting this co-worker live vicariously though your life. 

Post # 51
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Helper bee

I don’t think I would let anyone unless they were a girlfriend and was interested in seeing what it would look like on Them for purposes of getting engaged 

Post # 52
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Helper bee

All of my cousins got engaged around the same time, all with different styles of rings. I was with them and we were all and gushing over each other’s rings and they let me try them on. They tried on each others rings just for fun, too. We were all laughing and joking. I wore each ring for less than a minute and never, ever walked AWAY with them. I am not engaged yet but I think that is how I will be with my ring. Only my family could try it on and def not walk away with it. Sounds like you want to be polite at work, but what your coworkers are doing is super rude. If they ask again just be like no I just got it cleaned and I want to admire it, or simply just say no not today, sorry!

Post # 53
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Helper bee

I will start by saying I’m Irish and so come from the land of superstition lol! So where I grew up there’s an old wives tale that you should try on a newly engaged woman’s ring and turn it 3 times on your ring finger to make a wish (but you can’t wish for love or money haha) so nobody here thinks anything of a new ring being passed around a table. Also I’ve seen people try on rings (both engagement and otherwise) to compare finger sizes. But I admit I would find it strange for someone to just hang out wearing someone else’s ring for a while. 

Post # 54
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

annann91 :  uhhhhhh. no. Only person who tried mine on briefly was a friend who was also engaged and wondering if she chose the right size ring. 

Post # 55
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Helper bee

annann91 :  if a coworker asks to see it again, I would just extend my hand.  If they ask you to remove it so they can try it on and you’re not comfortable or feel rude just saying “no.”, just make something up, like “last time I took it off I almost dropped it so this baby’s not leaving my finger!” 

Post # 56
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Worker bee

My mom tried my ring on and I’ve let my SD wear it for awhile. I’m sure my friends will want to try it on, which doesn’t bother me as I’ve tried theirs on too. I agree with PP that anything more than a minute seems strange. I’m not superstitious about rings though. 

Post # 57
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Bee Keeper

annann91 :  That’s not normal behavior.  Tell them to go get their own.  They aren’t your bff [I’d let my bff into my closet and jewelry box any time] they are co-workers.  Nope.. not happening.

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

Your coworker’s behaviour was really bizarre. Then again, I’d think that for anything of mine that a coworker asked to see but then used for 30 minutes.

If you’re worried at all of it happening in the future, I think some bees provided the easiest advice of only showing while it’s on your finger. If your coworker or someone else asks to try it on, you can simply say, “Sorry, I never take it off in public. Call me paranoid!” and then change the subject.

Post # 59
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Worker bee

I let my husbands coworker try mine on (he bartends at a night club on weekends) and I had to ask her to give it back…. awkward! Typically I wouldn’t care if someone’s trying it on for a second but I was so worried it would fly off her hand down a drain or onto the floor (my finger was much bigger than hers) and she kept it for 5-10mins until I asked for it back which was strange

Post # 60
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

The only people who have tried my ring on are my mom and my best friend. The only rings I have tried on are my mom’s and my best friends.  I would not let anyone else try my ring on nor would ask to try anyone else’s ring on.  To me it’s just odd.

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