Letting your coworkers wearing your e-ring

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 61
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

I wouldn’t be okay with anyone trying on my ring especially a coworker. I never take my ring off. Personally, I think it’s such a weird thing to ask someone, it’s overstepping boundaries. Plus, theyre at fault if something happens to it. I’m fine with reaching out my hand for someone to get a better look, but an engagement ring is such a personal item, shouldn’t be worn by anyone, but the person who owns it. 

Post # 62
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I don’t know if it’s taboo or bad luck but I would be very concerned about my ring getting lost if it was off my hand for that long. Unfortunately you never know what can happen so I feel like it’s just better to keep it where it belongs…on your finger and no one else’s! If someone asks to see your ring you can extend your hand out and show them (most people do this so it’s totally fine) and if they ask you to take it off you can simply say you’re afraid to lose it if it comes off your hand. 

Post # 63
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

There’s a Sophie Kinsella book called I’ve Got Your Number that starts off this way – a girl gets engaged and her fiance gives her his family heirloom ring, a giant emerald, and while out celebrating with girlfriends she lets them try it on. Then the fire alarm goes off and they have to evacuate, and the ring has disappeared. I won’t spoil it but it’s a fun book. 

I think the only person who asked to try on my ring was my sister, and of course I let her. I certainly wouldn’t take it off and let it out of my sight.

Post # 64
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Most of my girlfriends have tried on my ring, I don’t think anything of that. But a coworker walking away from you and wearing it around the office is strange. As someone else said, when someone asks to see your ring, they mean on your hand. You wouldn’t take off your shirt if someone admired it. 

Post # 65
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

annann91 :  Two of my coworkers have tried mine on but for different reasons.

1) I’ve been confused with sizing. When we ordered my engagement ring I knew that I used to be a size 7 and those rings are now too big (I’ve lost about 25 pounds in the past 2 years)…and I have a ring a highschool boyfriend gave me and I thought I remembered that it was a size 6.25 and it’s just slightly too tight. So when we ordered my engagement ring we went with a 6.5 and thought that would be perfect. While it works and I’ve not stopped wearing it since he gave it to me on February 17th…I worry that it’s too lose. When we then ordered my wedding band we ordered it in a size 6. When it came in I tried it on and literally don’t think I can tell a difference from it to my ering…so my coworker was trying them on to see if she could tell.

2) My coworker who is quite a bit older than me and has been married for many years has been thinking about getting a silicone ring for her and her husband (I ordered me and my SO one) and she knew that she probably wanted a smaller ring than her wedding band as it is not fitting her like it used to and she couldn’t remember what size it even was. So she tried mine on as we knew the size of it to help her gage the size of hers.

If someone close to me asked to try my ring on I don’t think I would hesitate to let them. I think it would be odd if they tried to keep it on for 5-10 minutes…I figure if someone were to ask it would be to try it on, look, and then give it right back. For some reason it doesn’t seem that strange to me. I wouldn’t ask to try on someone else’s…but I don’t see a problem with it?

Post # 66
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

princessandthepear :  Haha…the taking off the shirt comment cracked me up. I know it seems odd, but a few times that people have asked to see my ring (and I understand they mean while still on my finger) I have just taken it off and offered it to them. For some reason I feel really odd holding my hand out to show off my ring. I feel less odd about taking it off to show them. I think I’m just an awkward person anyway though so…there is that!! haha

I haven’t had any of those people put it on their fingers though. They just take it from me, look, and then hand it back.

Post # 67
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Bee Keeper

annann91 :  FUCK no.   Sorry but that’s weird to me.  And honestly just plain bizarre.  It’s your ring not theirs.

Post # 68
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771 posts
Busy bee

Where the fuck do you people work? We do not discuss rings at my workplace.

Post # 69
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1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Yeah, this gets a hard no from me.  

Post # 70
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477 posts
Helper bee

Only my best friend, mom, and sister have ever tried it on themselves. No one at my job has asked. I did ask a close coworker of mine if I can try hers on lol but it was for 5 seconds and I gave it back. 

Post # 71
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3686 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I view my engagement ring as a very expensive, very personal item.  I don’t want anyone other than my Darling Husband or a professional jeweler touching it.  

Post # 72
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1718 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Wait what lol maybe I’m crazy but I have never considered it even remotely safe for someone that is not me to even wear my ring for a moment. Maybe I’m nuts? But if someone asked to wear my ring I would be like “ummmm no” XD

I guess it’s just strange. Where I’m from, it’s nutty to even take your ring off at all unless it’s cutting off circulation and you might DIE. I wouldn’t even let my mother wear my ring. Your finger is the safest place for your ring.

Post # 73
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

annann91 :  so I’m superstitious and wearing another’s wedding ring is like and instant no bad juju. It would make me uncomfortable because it’s an engagement ring and people aren’t going to be as careful with your things as you would. Plus it’s your ENGAGEMENT RING lol get your hands off before I bite them lol the superstition with letting other people wear your ring is that people have energy and not all the time good and you want to impregnate the ring with good energy with love and contentment. People could be jealous and now you have their nasty jealousy energy in your ring or they could be going through a divorce and now you have their nasty resentment energy in your ring lol like now I said I’m superstitious but that’s the reasoning behind the superstition. In a more LOGICAL sense though the answer would still be HELL NO can you wear my ring because it’s important to me and I wouldn’t want it lost, stolen, dropped, broken etc. 

Post # 74
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2018 - Bellagio, Las Vegas

Nope, I would not let anyone else try on my ring either.

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