(Closed) Letting your FI see your dress??

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
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135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am not showing Fiance, but even if I wanted to he won’t let me! He has been pretty traditional about the whole dress thing and doesn’t want to see it until I walk down the aisle towards him!

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Fiance has seen mine. His opinion means a lot to me. I know he would basically like anything I wore, but I really wanted to choose one that would make him go “wow. you must wear this dress.”

For this reason, I chose three possible dresses and showed him pictures (on models). His favorite and my favorited ended up being the same, which worked out well. Our one stipulation is that he won’t be able to see me in the dress until the big day. (Though he ended up seeing a pic of me in my dress on my cell phone last week, it flashed for like a half second as my phone was acting up when I was trying to show him other pictures. Blasted!)

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I don’t feel terribly strongly about it, but my fiance refuses to look or listen to anything about wedding dresses I’ve looked at!  When we were at my mom’s this Christmas, she wanted me to try on her old wedding dress, and when I came out to the living room for them to see, he kept his head buried in his laptop.  Even though it’s not my dress, and is NOTHING like my dress, he didn’t want to see me in ANY wedding dress.  He also is against a first look and doesn’t want to see me in the dress until I’m walking down the aisle.  I think it’s cute.  πŸ™‚

Post # 20
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Busy bee

I’ve shown my fiance pictures of gowns that I like, but I’m not going to let him see the one I end up picking.  We’re both pretty laid back and we’re not super traditional.  This is the one aspect though, that we both agree that we’d like to be traditional on.  We’re not even going to do first look pics.  The first time he sees me in it will be when I’m walking down the aisle. 

That being said, I see absolutely nothing wrong with showing your fiance your gown ahead of time.  It is completely up to you and what you feel comfortable with.

Post # 21
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1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Personally, I wouldn’t mind if he saw it….

BUT my Fiance is insistant that he not even have a clue about what it looks like! 

Post # 22
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637 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

he picked out the dress with me so he already saw it haha…

We are okay one way or another but he is picky about the dress (surprisingly) when I looked through websites and wedding magazines.  So I figured to bring him along so he won’t say my dress is ugly πŸ˜›

He only saw me in it when we order the dress for my size, so he never saw me in it after I got it delivered.  Maybe I will keep that as a surprise πŸ™‚

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I wish I had taken my Fiance with me when I dress shopped. I’ve been plagued with indecision and dress regret since I purchased it last June. My Fiance helps me shop for all my clothes and neither of us is traditional, so I don’t know why I let everyone talk me into leaving him at home.

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

as soon as i got the dress home i tried it on fo him.  He also carried it to on the plane & helped me get ready before the ceremony.  

personally i dont think its a big deal but thats just me πŸ™‚

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My Fiance was there when I tried on the dress.  I got my dress at during a clearance sale and we happened to walk past the store and decided to just have a look.  I ended up buying the very first dress I tried on.  Fell in love and couldn’t pass up the deal!

Post # 26
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I know it’s going to be so hard to not give him any hints or show pictures of it, but I plan on keeping my a secret! My FI’s sister, who is also engaged, won’t show ANYONE pictures of hers.

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@sodapopfizz  Same here!

I REFUSE to show my Fiance my dress. Not a chance or a hope in hell! That being said, at moments I get SO EXCITED about wearing it that I just have to contain myself from digging up the pics of me in it and screaming “LOOK HOW GORGEOUS I AM!!!”

He has, however, seen my veil (I made it and am hand beading it), hair clip (thinking about hand making it), and is helping me find shoes (begrudgingly!).

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

He went shopping with me.  I didn’t have any family on this side of the country to help me, and I was new to the area so I didn’t know any girlfriends to take with me yet.  I’m glad he went…he is opinionated and I wanted his honest input.  He basically picked my dress for me (out of the ones I liked the most), because he got misty eyed in the bridal salon when I came out with it on…so at least I already knew his reaction!!

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

So far my Fiance has been really involved in the wedding dress process – she’s seen pictures of all my inspiration and I’ve shown her in detail every stop of the creative process (I’m making mine.) However, the other day for the first time I felt a twinge of desire to surprise her on our wedding day, so I may decide to stop and not to share the final product with her until then. I know she loooves my dress so far but I want her to be blown away with the details and seeing my dress and my whole wedding look come together.

Post # 30
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Oooo, this one is a toughie! My bestie and her Fiance are getting married in April and he won’t have anyone talking about her dress around him. She recently changed her mind on her dress and I hadn’t seen the new one and asked “is it such and such a length?” and he plugged his ears like a child LOL! 

Whereas, my Fiance and I are getting married next year and I’ve shown him dresses I’ve liked, to get his opinion. Im now deciding between two dresses and he’s seen both and knows it’ll be one of those. I love that he’s open to helping me decide, as our tastes can be so very different sometimes and I want to look gorgeous for him (would be just my luck I’d pick a dress he hates otherwise, haha! Though, he has said he thinks I’ll be beautiful in anything *awwww*). His only request has been “nothing sexy sexy” as he wants to be able to concentrate hahaha!

Also, Im not worried about him seeing the two dresses I’m looking at (Maggie Sottero’s Sarchi and Symphony), because he won’t know which one I’ll end up with and he’s only seen them on the model. Plus it’s not like he’s seen how I’ll have my hair, what accessories etc which can make SUCH a difference πŸ™‚

My Fiance doesn’t want pre-wedding photos though, so we’re going to be traditional with him only seeing me when I walk down the aisle πŸ™‚ I can’t wait!!!

Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Fiance saw mine… and me in it… but before it was altered to fit. But … we are getting married just the two of us anyway … sooooo

If we were having a real wedding, I probably wouldn’t let him see and I know he wouldn’t want to.

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