(Closed) Letting your fiance choose your wedding jewelry…

posted 11 years ago in Accessories
Post # 3
18 posts

I would do what I am doing with my engagement ring situation. I have been slowly sending photos to P of rings I like, with small notes as to what exactly I like about them such as the setting on one, etc (we are getting my ring custom made, but I want it to be a surprise). And by slowly, I mean one every couple of months–that way it isn’t pushy and he doesn’t get overwhelmed.  I am confident that I will love it when he actually gets around to getting it, since he knows what I like and he does have good taste. 

Maybe start showing Mr Chickadee photos of the styles you like and were considering? That way he will have an idea of what you were hoping for, and you still will be surprised.

Post # 4
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Personally I would ask to pick it out yourself if your wedding jewelry is a big deal to you.  Plus, there’s the problem of him probably not knowing what will go with your dress (I’m assuming he hasn’t seen the dress ahead of the wedding – please correct me if I’m wrong!) so he could end up choosing a piece you really love but just doesn’t go with the style of your dress.  Since you’d really like to choose the jewelry yourself and he has offered you the option of doing so, even if it wasn’t his original plan, I’d take him up on the offer.  If you gently explain why he should understand.

Post # 5
2030 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

With wedding jewelry, I think you need to be there to pick it out and try it on, because earrings that look great on the rack can look too long or short on you. Same with necklaces. At a minimum, try on similar items and give him the dimensions you want (like a 16" necklace).

Post # 6
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2007

Awww, that’s so sweet he wants to pick it!  I would definitely do the hint thing…show him pix of what you like and styles that would complement your dress.  Tell him verbally what you’re thinking: chunky vs. delicate, gold vs. silver/platinum, blingy vs. understanded, diamonds vs. colored stones, etc.  And then tell him that you’re excited he wants to pick, but if he picks something that doesn’t work w/ what you had in mind for your dress, he shouldn’t feel hurt if you exchange it. (Make sure he gets it from somewhere that will let you do that!)  Hopefully, all will go well, and you won’t have to take it back!  Or, send your Maid/Matron of Honor or other close friend to help him — she will know what your dress/style is and be able to steer him in the right direction.

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