Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2018 - Methodist Church/Country Club
All the time on wedding shows I see grooms sending a gift over to their brides and it’s often jewelry. It seems like the bride is always excited and dons the jewelry immediately and I’m always left thinking "but didn’t you already have earrings picked out? Haven’t you been planning on wearing other earrings all along? What’s happening to them? What’s happening to all your PLANS?"
Well, I figured that would never be a problem for me. Mr. Chickadee didn’t even want to pick out my engagement ring by himself, so he certainly wouldn’t want to try and pick out my other wedding jewelry. Right? Ummm…right.
You see, Mr. Chickadee and I were just google chatting a moment ago (our way of communicating all day long while he’s slaving away at work) and he asked me what I wanted for my upcoming birthday. We’d decided previously that we should stick to things we need for the wedding for upcoming gifts, so that we’re not spending a ton of money on other, less "necessary" gifts (I call our wedding stuff necessary…but he has other ideas).
So anyways, I told him I’d love to get my wedding earrings and bracelet for my birthday…and he said he would love to surprise me with them! Um…what? This is not quite what I was expecting… He said he’d be glad to let me pick them out if I’d like, but he could also surprise me…
All I can think is this is what I’ll be wearing in ALL my wedding pics so I’d really like to choose them myself…but then again, it sounded so sweet and I don’t want to hurt his feelings.
So any thoughts? What would you do in this situation?
Post # 3
I would do what I am doing with my engagement ring situation. I have been slowly sending photos to P of rings I like, with small notes as to what exactly I like about them such as the setting on one, etc (we are getting my ring custom made, but I want it to be a surprise). And by slowly, I mean one every couple of months–that way it isn’t pushy and he doesn’t get overwhelmed.Â I am confident that I will love it when he actually gets around to getting it, since he knows what I like and he does have good taste.Â
Maybe start showing Mr Chickadee photos of the styles you like and were considering? That way he will have an idea of what you were hoping for, and you still will be surprised.
Post # 4
Personally I would ask to pick it out yourself if your wedding jewelry is a big deal to you. Plus, there’s the problem of him probably not knowing what will go with your dress (I’m assuming he hasn’t seen the dress ahead of the wedding – please correct me if I’m wrong!) so he could end up choosing a piece you really love but just doesn’t go with the style of your dress. Since you’d really like to choose the jewelry yourself and he has offered you the option of doing so, even if it wasn’t his original plan, I’d take him up on the offer. If you gently explain why he should understand.
Post # 5
With wedding jewelry, I think you need to be there to pick it out and try it on, because earrings that look great on the rack can look too long or short on you. Same with necklaces. At a minimum, try on similar items and give him the dimensions you want (like a 16" necklace).
Post # 6
Awww, that’s so sweet he wants to pick it! I would definitely do the hint thing…show him pix of what you like and styles that would complement your dress. Tell him verbally what you’re thinking: chunky vs. delicate, gold vs. silver/platinum, blingy vs. understanded, diamonds vs. colored stones, etc. And then tell him that you’re excited he wants to pick, but if he picks something that doesn’t work w/ what you had in mind for your dress, he shouldn’t feel hurt if you exchange it. (Make sure he gets it from somewhere that will let you do that!) Hopefully, all will go well, and you won’t have to take it back! Or, send your Maid/Matron of Honor or other close friend to help him — she will know what your dress/style is and be able to steer him in the right direction.