(Closed) Letting your SO temporarily support you financially

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 46
13712 posts
Honey Beekeeper

If you are not otherwise ready to move in together, and it does not sound as if you are, then there’s no way I’d agree to this. I’d move in with your parents until you find a new job. A new apartment will always be there. 

Post # 48
37 posts
  • Wedding: January 2016

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sunnierdaysahead2:  You are not taking advantage of him at all. I understand why you feel guilty. My SO and I live together and we have significant income differences. I am a student, I work part time, and I make $500 maximum a month. MMy SO, on the other hand, works full-time and makes close to six figures. 

When I moved in, he knew I could not afford paying the rent ($1600 a month), and the household bills, so he never mentioned it. Yet, since I cannot contribute financially I have tried to contribute in other ways…I clean the entire home, do all the dishes, laundry, etc. I think that is the least I can do. Lately I have also been trying to help pay for small things (such as toilet paper, paper towels, etc). It’s small, but it’s all I can do right now. I do pay for my own expenses though, I feel like that is my responsability.

A few months ago my mother had a medical issue and told me at the last minute she could not pay for my tuition. He agreed to help me with it, and helped me pay the tuition for my Fall semester. Yet, I have paid him back fully already. Of course I felt guilty at the time too, so I understand. 

The point is, like me, as long as you are trying to contribute and do the best you can, you should not feel guilty. If this is something he wants to do and if it is something that will not affect him negatively, then let him help you if you think you really need it. It really is up to you to determine if you truly need that help – we don’t have access to your bank account here.

Also, have you heard of networking events? You really should try to see if there are any in your area and go to all that you can! Nowdays meeting people and being liked is what helps you get a job. I got the job I have now through a college professor – not by applying on a website or a job site. The point is – be creative! Email people personally and say you are interested in working at their company…the worst that can happen is you will not get a reply. 

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