(Closed) Libido…TMI

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
13248 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It very well could be as easy as changing out your pill.  Talk to your GYN and see what he recommends!

Post # 4
14 posts

I felt that way all through my 20s and half into my 30s, and no pill, just MEH about sex.  Then came 37 and VA VA VA VOOM. 

Talk to your gyno, maybe some hormone level checks need to be done.  Otherwise, relax.

Post # 5
19 posts

I was on BCP for only 1.5 yrs and my libido absolutely tanked. I couldn’t get aroused, like at all. Finally when sex actually started to hurt I had had enough. We now use a combination of tracking my cycle, diaphragm & spermicide, and condoms on my fertile days. No hormones and I feel awesome again.

Post # 6
480 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@lucyh2bee:  I had a waaayyyy lower libido when I was on hormonal contraception!  With it gone, I was like a whole new woman 🙂

Post # 7
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@lucyh2bee: I came across this quote (I know it doesn’t apply to everyone so please don’t jump on me)

“for many women, desire is triggered by arousal, not the other way around. What this means is it is normal for some women to rarely feel desire or a “sex drive” apart from sexual activity. For many the norm is for foreplay to start arousal, with that arousal resulting in feeling desire.”

Our culture is pretty obessed with sex (let’s face it, it is awesome)… but I would tend to fall into this catergory myself, I love sex and enjoy it but don’t have frequent passionate urges throughout the day. I don’t think that makes us weird 😉

Post # 8
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Courthouse

Once I started birth control mine went wayyy down. I cant wait to get off of it after we get married. Two months and I can be as frisky as I wanna be! Normally I’m like a 18 year old boy, now I’m just sad. Haha

Post # 9
513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@lucyh2bee:  I started to feel like that after being on a certain pill for about five or so years. I switched out pills twice, but nothing really seemed to totally work until I was completely off of it. Now that we’re TTC, I kinda wish that I would have gotten off it long before a year ago. However, we used condoms on top of BCP, so yeh, that made a difference.

But I do know that you can use herbs to kinda boost up your libido, or at least that’s what some people say. When I drink ginger tea, it seems to do something for me, so maybe look into that route?

Post # 9
50 posts
Worker bee


lucyh2bee:  I have the same issue with my boyfriend with whom I’ve been with for a little over a year, except it’s him that has the similar sex drive to you. He only wants to have sex once a week, sometimes if even that. I have made such an issue out of it we have almost broken up! He has low testosterone and says he doesn’t know if its that or just the pressure I’ve put on thats made it so infrequent. Honestly, I think some people just have a lower sex drive. I’ve read a lot about it and it says that some people are ok with even once or twice a month. How does he feel about this?

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