Post # 1
Hi Bees! I was here in winter 2012/2013 at a point where my former SO of 3 years and I were talking marriage. I walked after he quit the 6th job in 3 years and finally admitted that he didn’t know what he wanted when it came to career, marriage, kids etc. He basically admitted that he played along because he didn’t want to lose me. I left. It was hard, but in reality I think I knew he wasn’t the one from the very anxious day he moved in. There were times after he moved out that I reconsidered, but it was always because he was so sad. I asked him not to contact me for a period of time and realized how happy I was on my own.
Summer came and I wanted to date. I wanted to have fun, hang out with good company and see that not all men were like him. The first man I met on match.com is the one. I put my house on the market 6 months in and moved in with him. Today, almost a year later, he was not-so-subtly “secretly” buying my engagement ring. I have never been so sure that I am with the one. He’s perfect for me. My family is thrilled. (as my mother says. . .he’s so handsome! He’s so wonderful that he doesn’t need to be handsome, but isn’t it a nice bonus?) I can barely sleep, I’m so excited.
There is hope after walking. There are much better things out there. If you walk, it’s because you haven’t met the one yet. He’s out there. You’ll find him.
Post # 2
Very similar experience here! I was here in 2008/2009, and even had my own blog and considered applying as a Bee…..thank goodness I didn’t, because I walked as well. There definitely is hope, I also met the ONE online as well, and things have never been better. <br /><br />Thanks for sharing your story! And congrats on finding The One! 🙂
Post # 3
So great that you’ve been able to find him. Congratulations! Hopefully you can come back and start planning 🙂
Post # 4
Congratulations! And thank you for sharing your story. You chose not to settle, but rather to take your power back & exert control over your future by walking. Once you re-empowered yourself, things began to happen for you.
It was really nice of you to take the time to come back here & post. I’ll be looking forward to more updates.
Post # 5
Congrats! 😀 im glad you found someone who deserves you!
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
I always wonder what happens in the long-run to these people posting about deadlines. I’m glad to hear things worked out so well for you, and you found someone who’s truly willing to commit to being in your life for the long-haul. Congratulations, sweetheart. ::hugs::
Post # 7
Good for you! There is totally hope after walking. I left a guy 2.5 years into our relationship because he made it very clear that marriage was not in the cards for him (although he did want kids with me) and while it took another 3 years before I met FI, I’m so glad that I made the choice I did. Again, congrats on moving on and then finding someone great
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2013 - A court...
Congrats! It always makes me smile when a bee that walked updates with good news 🙂
Post # 9
Aww–how wonderful!! Congrats and kudos to you for being brave enough to walk away. You deserve all the happiness your ‘handsome man’ gives you! 🙂
Post # 10
seeker: Yay for you! I am so happy to read about your happy ending to what I know had to be a difficult and heartbreaking decision. It’s wonderful that you were strong enough and brave enough to stick to what you wanted and not give up on your dreams for the future. Congratulations on your beautiful new relationship, and I hope you’ll be posting news of your engagement very soon!
Post # 11
Congrats to you!
I find it heartbreaking to watch people in relationships who are clearly not meant for each other stay together because they’ve been together this long already, or maybe if I wait long enough he’ll change his mind and realise he wants to marry me, or get pressured into taking steps in their relationship they don’t want because of the other persons wanting.
I think everyone’s timeline is different, but ultimately a person needs to decide how long they’re willing to wait and stick to that number. There is definitely life after walking and everyone deserves to be with someone who shows how much they want to be with you
Post # 12
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
So happy for you! It is good that other bees know of stories like yours; the fact that a relationship we have invested a lot in fails does not mean life is over. If you keep a positive attitude and are receptive to it, you will find love…or love will find you.
Post # 13
aww what a sweet story. i’m so happy that you remained positive. best of luck to you both! please update us when you get engaged! i’m excited to hear your story 🙂
Post # 14
Thanks for all the positivity! It’s been such a beautiful year. Reading stories here really helped me when I was making the decision to walk. I started to think about the advice I would give myself from the outside. I know how hard it was to give up on the future I had imagined with the ex and I empathize with the Bees who are making a decision to stay or walk. I hope knowing there’s a good life waiting after a bad breakup helps other Bees.
Post # 15
Hey girls – I’ve been away for two years or perhaps a little more. I walked as well after a 3 year 3 month relationship beause he made it abundantly clear that although he loved me, he was not ever going to get married. We even agreed to move in together and he backed out at the last minute. After that happened, I lasted 6 months… why I have no idea. He didn’t want to break up but it became very very clear to me what I had to do. It was hard, but I did it. Went through a crappy 2 month relationship after that… was used and abused but NOW, last August I met a prince. It’s so nice knowing how someone feels. and I hope soon a proposal may occur. It’s true – he’s out there. And congrats to all the girls who had the courage to walk. Best thing I ever did.