(Closed) Life ain't always rainbows and butterflys….

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
788 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If you’re this upset, doesn’t it make infinitely more sense to have him move back in so you can get the support you need than to jeopardize your relationship needless by having you depressed and lonely half the time? I could be inferring here, but the way you’ve worded it makes it sound as though he used to live with you so this ‘pure marriage’ concept is kind of a sham. I know if I felt I was struggling, I would insist that my fiance be with me. 

But all that aside, congrats on the interview. It sounds like things are looking up πŸ™‚

Post # 3
2450 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Sorry you’re going through this! But you’re doing as much as you can, and this rough spot is just temporary. You’ll get through it and be stronger for it. Fingers crossed for your interview!!

Post # 4
6900 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2050

MrsJBtoB: This is one of the times you’ll look back on and say “we made it through together.”

Blast Livin on a Prayer at least once a day and sing along loudly. Air guitar might also help.

Post # 5
2132 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

This too shall pass… I am sorry, sweetie. I was unemployed for a time during the engagement/wedding planning, and I got a job right on time! God willing, it will happen for you, too. I said a prayer for you and am sending out good vibes. I also was worried and stressed at one point. I can’t believe they tried to withhold your unemployment, these companies really need to take better care of their employees, geez… Anyway, it will work out! I really hope FI’s parents are paying for the wedding, otherwise their requests should be considered irrelevant and he should move back in. I really hope you get back on your feet!

Post # 6
9564 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Just stay positive and get as much done as you can while you have the time. You’ll be working again soon surely! You gotta believe that and keep hustling and everything else will just fall into place.

Post # 7
770 posts
Busy bee

So sorry you are going through this πŸ™

Keep holding on, you and your FI will make it through together. Everything will work out for you guys soon. Sending you positive vibes!

Post # 10
520 posts
Busy bee

His parents want him to have a “pure marriage” with you so they convinced him to move out? Will moving out right before the wedding undo any sin committed previously? Have you or your FI thought about just saying to them “Ugh, you guys know we already had sex, right?”

I mean, in all seriousness, what are their expectations? You die one day, and at the pearly gates God says, “WELLLLL, you had pre-marital sex, BUT your husband moved out a month before the wedding. So therefore your marriage is pure.”

If I were your FI I would’ve laughed my head off at their request, and if I were you I would’ve flipped out at their inability to mind their own business.

Post # 11
1095 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

I understand the dress, because a job means so much to most of us. I am very sorry you are going through this. Try freelancing online for a little, or getting a small job in the meantime? I worked the graveyard shift in group homes a lot to make ends meet when i was in college, babysat, etc. Try craigslist- if you have some kind of talent, you can make a bit of $$ on the side tutoring, ghostwriting etc.


Again- all the best, and my heart goes out to you. <3

Post # 12
2027 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016


MrsJBtoB:  Chin up girl, you’re almost married and you’ll have your companion back soon πŸ™‚ In the meantime, enjoy your bachelor pad status! Haha run around naked, work out in weird places, rearrange and go through old stuff. Blast music and work out would be the top things on my list. Plus cleaning things that never get enough attention, behind the couch/baseboards/refrigerator pretty much anything to keep yourself busy and don’t involve checking your email every 20 seconds to see if you got a reply to an online application. Good luck, staying busy is my biggest recommendation. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that.

Post # 15
788 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

MrsJBtoB:  Ah well, I certainly understand that the wedding process is always a bit of a balancing act. Count down the days and do exactly what you’re doing: spending lots of time with friends and distracting yourself as best you can. πŸ™‚

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