- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
Here is my situation. Our wedding is in 9 days, (April 27, 2013). We are having both the unity candle and the sand ceromony. Unity candle for the traditional joining of our families and the sand ceromony because I have two children and I want them a part of the ceromony as much as possible. Here is the situation. My mother and I have never been close. I did live with her growning up, but as for as having a close relationship.. there is none. She is a very negative person who always thinks she is right. I am 39 and getting married to my best friend whom I met way back in 1st grade. Long story short, my mother doesn’t think I should 1) have a traditional wedding 2) I am too old to have a wedding gown and 3) my dress should not be white. She had asked me a about a month ago “Have you decided who will lite your family candle for the unity candle?” And honestly at the time, I HAD NO CLUE. I hadn’t even thought about it. Well since then, I have done nothing but thought about it. She, my mother is expecting to be the one to light this special candle, but my thought is this.
1) We are not close
2) We don’t have the same views on many things in life, I am raising my children knowing who God is and that there is a path they should follow in life
3)She’s negaitvie and expects to be the one to lite this candle.
I have prayed about this and still, 9 days before the wedding, I have no Idea of who to lite this special candle. I have thought about having my Paternal Grandmother (MY only living grandparent at the age of 86) lite the candle. If if have my Grandmother lite this candle, my mother will seriously take it personal and may never let me forget “how uncaring” i am… Help with any advice, with this issue.