(Closed) Lights ON or OFF during *ya know*

posted 9 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 32
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Helper bee

lol 1st time bathroom by accident … o young reckless days.. gosh

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Dimmer switch is where its at, turn it up when you are feeling fine and turn it down when you are feeling a little squishy.

 

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

IN the beginning (since I am super critical of my body i have lost a lot of weight) we had sex with the lights off. Fiance was very aware of my body issues etc and knew how I felt. Even though he thinks I am the most beautiful person in the world and tells me so, but lets be honest as girls we have a millions things that run through our minds.

But eventually the light we get brighter and you will enjoy seeing your partner’s reaction during sex and him yours. So everything in time and what you feel comfortable with.

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Nowadays, I actually prefer it with the lights on, so we can actually see each other.  But the first few times, I was pretty shy and awkward, and I liked having things a little dimmer.  Not pitch black, but maybe with the bathroom light on and the room lights off, or during the day with the shades drawn.  Also, having music on helps – there are lots of weird squishing body sounds that are funny now, but early on mortified me.  Regardless, you’ll be sleeping with your husband, so it’ll all work itself out. 

Post # 36
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Blushing bee

I agree with the gals, soft lighting… ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 37
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Our first time it was dim.. like half light ish… Idk but we usually just go with whatever. Do what makes you comfortable ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

we always do it with the lights on.

your post is making me think we might need a change. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i think it’s nice when candles are lit, dark room. that way you get the best of both worlds. what about that..

Post # 40
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

The first time for me (wedding night) was in our dimly lit hotel suite. After that we’ve done in the afternoon, morning, late at night but not in a completely dark room. I like seeing him. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 41
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You know, I used to be all about lights-on, middle-of-the-day Funtimes. But eventually we started mixing it up. I have to disagree respectfully that the dark is boring. Blindfolds, anyone? When you remove the sense of sight, other senses are heightened. Tongue out

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If it’s a hotel for the first time, candles may not be permitted by them.  But soft lighting is both romantic & practical the first few times and helps you get more comfortable together.

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Lights on! So much more exciting!

Post # 44
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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@AliceandtheOwl: Don’t disagree, but for a first time I think that the dark can make things a little more awkward. 

Post # 46
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m a lights on kinda’ gal.

But I also believe that sometimes, switching things up isn’t all bad.

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@AliceandtheOwl:TOTALLY AGREE. Scarves can be oh so naughty and fun, and have many uses. :o)

But for the first time, add some soft lighting. That way you guys aren’t fumbling around like mad in the dark.

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