Post # 1
Any one come across wedding-competitive people who AREN’T the bride?
Ugg…a co-worker’s daughter is getting married this year as well and I feel like he’s always trying to compete with me now that he knows I’m getting married. Maybe I’m being crazy…but somehow I don’t think so:
Him: “Did you find a dress/venue/caterer yet?”
Me: “Oh not yet, I’m still looking”
Him: “My daughter already found her (insert wedding related thing here), it was the first one she (tried on/visited/etc)” Then he goes on to explain how wonderful this item is.
I thought, maybe I’m being overly sensitive since I was frustrated with not finding things I liked, but today as I walked in with my bacon cheeseburger for lunch (mmm bacon)…
He says “Remember you have to fit into a wedding dress!”
To which I responded (in my head) “I’m 115 lbs you asshole!”
Am I just being grumpy and he’s just trying to be friendly and ask about planning? Or should I just avoid all wedding-related conversations around this guy? Anyone else experience this?
Post # 3
I think he is just excited that his daughter is getting married and like you want to share your successes and failures with someone, he want to also share. To me, it looks like he is very proud of her daughter. I don’t see it as competition at all. I see it as thinking that he has something in common with you and is trying to make conversation.
Post # 4
Oh Em Gee!! There are so many of thsose people out there that conveniently pop up when you’re getting married. One is personified as one of my BMs. I have put her on a wedding “Diet”. I don’t talk to her about anything wedding AT ALL. Others are just randoms and I avoid them like a plague. They suck, but they seem to find you, lol…Just try to cut him short next time.
Post # 5
Haha – the difference between you & me?? I would’ve said it! So good for you!!
He might not realize how he’s coming across – my 1st thought is he’s trying to be friendly & since you have a common topic to talk about, he might just be trying to make conversation?
I know it’s difficult to avoid the subj. in the office though. I try not to talk to about my wedding to co-workers (mostly because most of them aren’t invited) I answer their questions with short facts and stay away from the details. And I shrug most other things off like “oh, I dunno, we haven’t really thought about that yet” or something to that effect. Good luck!
Post # 6
It doesn’t sound like he’s trying to offend or upset you. He does sound (overly) excited about his daughters wedding. Maybe he’s just trying to have dialogue with you and he assumes this is something you’d like to talk about. I have a co-worker who keeps commenting on what I eat for lunch. In the same way your co-worker did. I understand how annoying that is! But she didn’t mean any harm and I’m sure your co-worker didn’t either. They just happen to be annoying!
Post # 7
Haha! Thanks guys…now I see that he’s probably just excited and a little bit oblivious. Maybe the rain is making me more easily annoyed than usual.
Post # 8
My Mom has a co-worker that is getting married too and I think she shares everything with her that I tell her about my wedding, it’s so annoying. When I mention something my Mom has to tell me everything her co-worker is doing. I DON’T care!!! Haha
PrncssDva: I have put my Bridesmaid or Best Man (and sister) on a detail diet as well, she tries to suggest I do something different whenever I tell her I’m doing something.
Post # 9
I know how you feel. I’m usually an easy going person, but whenever anyone mentions their wedding and what they wore, ate, will wear, will eat, I get really annoyed. I think it’s justifiable to want a little attention right now. I’m planning my wedding and I only want to talk about my wedding, not yours or your friend’s or your second cousins sisters best friend. 🙂
Post # 10
I get what your saying. I get that quite a bit. Lately i’ve just kinda been OVER IT. I was soo excited and ready to plan my wedding. But now there are many other people that are getting married before or right around mine & i’m just kind of sick of talking about it. lol But it’s like that’s the only thing people have on their minds. Don’t get me wrong; I’m still excited and ready but you know…It should be flattering; but yet it still gets old. Just hang in there. Keep the wedding talk to a minimum and maybe he’ll get the hint sooner or later that your not interested in sharing details!
Post # 11
I think he is just excited about his daughter’s wedding. But the comment about the food is annoying. I guess people feel like you are supposed to strave yourself because you are getting married.