Post # 1
Wow, my grandma and my mom are so silimar!
I was talking to my 95 year old grandma on the phone telling her I got her lovely card I received from her. She insisted my mother “chicken scratched” my address so that it would never arrive properly. Why? Because she likes to play tricks on her like that.
So they had a falling out about it (one of many falling outs). My grandma said to me, “I’ll probably never see her again. That’s the last of her,” meaning her own daughter.
THIS IS SO SIMILAR.
My mother says the same thing about me – behind my back. That I’m never flying home again, I was only coming home to see my dying father, that’s the last we’ll see of her.
YOWZA. I’m not even sure I should point out this coincidence to my mother (there are many – she has a troubled relationship with her, as do I with my mom, but this one is so blatant). I’m sure it would hurt her feelings to know grammie is saying that about her. I kind of want her to know that’s how it’s making me feel as well when she says these things.
What is up with these women?
Good gawd I hope I don’t turn into either one of these women!!! I told my H he has to point it out if I’m at all close!
Post # 3
Yep, those nasty traits do tend to get passes down. All you can do is determine not to be like that yourself.
Post # 4
I think since I am at the very least observing and noting these similarities, I’m already excluded from their category! I hope! Why do they do that? To evoke sympathy from the listener?
Post # 6
It’s funny the way attitudes like that carry. It makes me cringe when I see my sister doing & saying some of the things my mom did to her kids. It’s like, word for word. Like down to tone and inflection, she sounds like my mom.
There are certain behaviors and patterns that, when I catch myself emulating them, it makes me hate myself because I know how hurtful and destructive they are to the people around me.
But, what can you do, but make the best with what you’ve got and try to fix what you can.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
@MrsFuzzyFace: +1. It sucks that they’re acting that way
Post # 8
My grandmother was a horror and I’ve heard stories that my great grandmother (her mother) was even worse. I’ve already warned my mother that if she starts acting up she’s going straight to the home. So far, so good. 🙂
Post # 9
In the last twenty years of her life, my grandmother turned into the nastiest, argumentative, bitter bitch from hell. She died when she was 83…I think my mother was actually relieved.
My mother is now 71…and she’s so much like her mother now it isn’t funny. It’s actually bloody sad, I can remember her saying at the time that she’d hate to be like her mother…and now she is. I’m not the only person to have noticed, both my brothers have commented on it.
Makes me worry for the future, to be honest. At least I don’t have children I’ll be taking it out on…