(Closed) Like to be called Mrs. Hisfirst Hislast? Or does that rub you the wrong way?

posted 7 years ago in Names
  • poll: How do you feel about being addressed as Mrs. Hisfirst Hislast (or Mr. and Mrs. Hisfirst Hislast)?
    I HATE it. It is an outdated, sexist custom. : (79 votes)
    44 %
    I don't like it much, but I realize a lot of people still use it and I can deal with it. : (32 votes)
    18 %
    I'm OK with it. It's just the custom and still consdered the technically correct form of address. : (32 votes)
    18 %
    I LOVE it. I love when I get mail addressed like that! : (35 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2208 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Hate it, and it is one of the few things that I wouldn’t just blow off either. I would pick up the phone and ask the person who addressed me that way not to do that again.

    Post # 4
    Member
    435 posts
    Helper bee

    I like it and it is my title  to be called Mrs Hisfirstname Hislastname not his.  You are not losing your first name  your title is changing. The title of Mrs. your first name his last name is usually reserved for women who are divorced and want to continue using their married name.  Of course if you don’t like it you can simply keep your own name. 

     

    Post # 5
    Member
    13101 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I Love It!  I can’t wait until the first time I’m annouced as Mr. and Mrs. His Name – it’s one of the things I’m looking most forward to at the wedding!

    Post # 6
    Member
    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    It doesn’t bother me, mainly because I know that it’s just how it used to be done. I would know that the person who addressed it didn’t mean any harm by it, it’s just kind of the customary way to do it. It’s definitely not how I would prefer to be addressed, but I don’t think it’s a huge deal.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2562 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I hate it. I will definitely be one to correct people!

    Post # 8
    Member
    229 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I hate it. We met with our commisioner on the weekend and she asked how we want to be presented after the wedding. My FI said “How about Mr. & Mrs. hisfirstname hislastname”. I told him there is no way in hell we’re getting introduced that way and I will continue using my first name after we’re married. He thought about it then agreed. If someone called MRs.me hisfirst hislast I would probably correct them.

    Post # 9
    Member
    612 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I can’t wait! I feel like eveytime somone calls us that it will just remind me how spiritually bonded we are and how much I love him. I mean why do men get down on one knee, we wear rings, or do any of the other wedding stuff we do? Because it is tradition and traditions are nice to keep.

    Post # 10
    Member
    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I can’t wait to be called that–I’m so excited to change my name and start using my married name!

    Post # 11
    Member
    1347 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would correct people, depending on who it is. If it’s someone’s grandmother, I’ll let it go. If it’s someone in my peer group, I’d probably correct them.

    Hardly anyone in my family or social group follows customs like these, though, so it doesn’t really come up. Lucky me. 🙂

    Post # 12
    Member
    1046 posts
    Bumble bee

    It happens to me sometimes… it doesn’t bug me when people adress me as Mrs. S but when they call me Mrs. R.S. it really bothers me. Hello, can you at least adress me by my first name?! lol

    Post # 14
    Member
    1003 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I would be one correcting people. Esp. since I will be keeping my own last name.

    Post # 15
    Member
    1161 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I’ve never been a fan, but I can tolerate it.  As it is, I’m a doctor AND I’m keeping my last name for professional reasons, so I suspect my grandmother is the only one who MIGHT call me Mrs. FI….my family will be excited that I’m married, but they are also proud of my professional title, so I think the professional title will win.  We’ll see….

    Post # 16
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    2476 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’d prefer to have my first name mentioned, since I’m already taking HIS last name!

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