- 10 years ago
- Wedding: December 2010
I like it 🙂
I like it 🙂
I HATE it. I will deff be correcting people if they call me that! It took me a LONG time to decide i would even take is last name
HATE it, I have my own name thankyouverymuch!
I also hate “the wife”…I’m not an object, I’m a person!
In my point of view I don’t see anything wrong… But thats just how I feel because my husband considers me hisfirst and hislast and that goes vise versa… But again I say thats just me…. Mrs.Luster
The first doesn’t bug me at all because it is a description of our relationship to eachother, and isn’t sexist or demeaning. Someone could also say “this is Y’s husband, X.” Or, “this is J’s friend, Y” or “this is my colleague, P.”
If I was introduced simply as my FH’s wife, with no name, or if someone introduced us together (who knew my name) as “this is X and his wife” without my name, yeah, that would be pretty annoying. Hasn’t happened to me yet, and it never happened to me as his fiance or girlfriend.
I don’t mind being addressed as Mrs. Hisfirst Hislast if we’re being addressed *together* (i.e., Dr. and Mrs. Hisfirst Hislast) on an invitation, but if someone was calling me, by myself, Mrs. Hisfirst Hislast, I’d be annoyed.
Just out of curiosity, what happens if the woman is the doctor in a marriage? Would calling someone “Dr. Jane Smith” mean she’s a divorced female doctor still carrying her ex-husband’s last name??
I am not changing my name so I will never use it. But i don’t like it at all-it seems to imply that the woman’s most important role is “wife.”
I LIKE being addressed as Mrs. Hisfirst Hislast. But I can’t say that anyone has ever actually called me that…it seems to be an in writing thing only.
But even I am just rubbed the wrong way by some headstones I see on my way to work (I often get stopped at a traffic light near a cemetery and these 19th century headstones face the street) that say something like J.A. Jones and Wife. Seriously? And wife? To me it is one thing to use Mrs. J.A. Jones as her titile, but totally different to use Wife as her name.
Someone once told me they wrote it into their contract with their DJ that they’d be owed a full refund if he announced them as “Mr. and Mrs. HisFirst HisLast.” We didn’t go that far, but I did make it very clear to our pastor. We love him, and I knew again he was a great choice when he didn’t bat an eye and said “You can be whatever name you want to be.”
I HATE IT!
I am taking his family name to become OUR family name (aka his last name) but I AM NOT changing my first name!!!! And don’t want to be referred to as my husbands Mrs.!
To me it is equivalent of someone calling me “the wife”. I am not THE wife I am his wife. I am not his property and never will be!
Hate it. I am a physician, and go by MyFirst MyLAst HisLast, so Mrs. HisFirst Hislast is wrong on so many levels.
When it’s something like a formal wedding invitation I understand that it’s the formality. In fact, I kinda like stuff to Mr. and Mrs. Hisfirst Hislast. But mail to just Mrs. Hisfirst Hislast makes me mad… I got married, I didn’t lose my first name!
Ew. No, just no. I will never be called that if I have any say in the matter. I have my own first name and identity outside of my future husband, thanks.
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