Liking blatantly sexy photos on insta ok or no?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Is it disrespectful/ unecessary to like sexy celeb/ model pics when in a relationship?

    Yes

    No

  • Post # 2
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    I never would have thought about my “like” leading to more shares or awareness or whatever, I literally press like when I enjoy a photo or video or post, I follow a possum and like his photos daily. I think you’re over thinking the reason behind a like, in general.

    I would bet most men don’t like a photo of a hot girl thinking it’ll get them a DM or whatever  

    But if my husband were “liking” a bunch of women’s photos I would probably be annoyed, luckily he doesn’t do this. 

    Post # 3
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I follow a cosplay model on Instagram who posts sexy photos that I frequently like. It would be a total double standard if I got upset with my husband for doing the same thing. He doesn’t use social media at all though so it’s never even come up.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    Doesn’t bother me.

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey

    It’d bother me if my partner kept liking some random chicks’ pics, but my fiance hasn’t an IG account or anything of that sort. It’s the same if I liked all those men on IG too. That time could be better spent imo. 

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

    I don’t think a like would bother me. My D.H doesn’t have Instagram but my friend’s D.H tags his friends in photos of swimwear models etc and that would bother me. My friend doesn’t care though. 

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee

    I couldn’t care less what my fiancé likes on instagram, it’s just to show appreciation of what you think is a good picture. I like celebrities half naked pics all the time and so does she, I’m not trying to do anything other than show that I think it’s a good photo, it’s not that deep tbh and seems like something incredibly small to be insecure or annoyed about. 

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    it wouldnt be a problem for me

    1) i dont have an ig but my husband does

    2)i have a fb but he doesnt

    im sure if i were to look i would find something that would bother me so its best if i stay out of it. im naturally jealous and he knows this so i try my best to keep the green eyed monster at bay because most of the time its my mind against me. 

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2020

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    ladyjane123 :  I don’t think, like a lot of things in a relationship, there is a clear answer about whether it is disrespectful/rude or not, it just depends on how both people in each relationship feel about it. Personally I don’t like that kind of stuff. I’m 25f and my SO is 24m. For me I never checked if he was liking photos but I expressed my distaste in Instagram and what it’s mostly used for and when random girls would DM him it would annoy me so he just got rid of Instagram. It’s just a platform for attention so what’s the point? Neither of us need outside validation about what we look like or the things we do so we don’t post on it and why would we bother liking random sexy pics, the whole concept of social media and following random people is a waste of time so we just don’t do it. Other people really enjoy using social media and looking at what other people do and what other people look like and don’t care about what’s liked etc.. to them it’s not rude.

    Its all just personal taste, personal enjoyment and comfort levels there isn’t really a clear answer. Our feelings about social media match, neither of us feel the need to use it or like other people’s pictures because it feels unnecessary so in our relationship we don’t do that. If my SO loved being on social media though I wouldn’t care about what he liked. I wouldn’t like it if he ever responded to random messages but that’s because it involves human interaction and liking something is very disconnected.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee

      I don’t think it’s necessary to “up vote” them lol. But whatev. 

    Having said that… my fh once liked an intentionally  slutty pic of his friends (young woman) daughter she had  posted on fb.

    (Tight dress so short  the bottom of her  buttcheeks were hanging out the bottom, on first look looked like just a small shirt worn without panties)

    I was mortified and embarrassed. When I explained it made him look like an old perv He was also embarrassed.  He unliked it and liked an appropriate pic instead. 

    I totally know it wasn’t his intention he just mindlessly “likes” everything in the feed when scrolling through. Doh. And she is my daughter’s  age. So it depends on the context for sure!

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee

    In my relationship this is not something that would bother me at all.

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    I think you’re going to get mixed reviews here, but here’s my two cents. It doesn’t bother me, but I do see it as disrespectful (even unintentionally).

    My ex had a huge crush on Mila Kunis, and was an “ass man”. On Facebook he would frequently “like”  photos of Mila Kunis and he followed this “Girls In Yoga Pants” page and would often “like” the photos from that. It didn’t bother me though because I would often “like” sexy shirtless pictures of Gerard Butler or some male model’s page.  It was just something we did in our relationship that didn’t even cross my mind as something that would upset me.

    But with my now husband, I do realize in a way it is disrespectful to your significant other… so we don’t do that. I also feel it kind of sends the message to other people of “Yeah I’m in a committed relationship, but so everyone knows I’m also checking out other people, too”. 

     

    Of course we ALL are human and we ALL find other people attractive, but I think it’s the whole.. announcing it by “liking” it is what I find to be disrespectful. You can look, but you don’t need to show everyone else that you’re looking.. if that makes sense?

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    I follow an IG page called Boys with Plants and it is entirely artfully sexy photos of men posing, often nude, with interesting plants. I just asked D H if he found this offensive and we talked about how admiring the human form is a simply part of being human, regardless of relationship status and to claim you no longer admire other humans because you are in a relationship is unrealistic. So, no, neither of us perceive the liking of photos as disrespectful to our relationship. But, as usual on the Bee, our boundaries are faaaaaar beyond what many others on her have set for their own marriages. To each their own. 

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee

    It wouldn’t bother me. I don’t even pay attention to what posts my husband or anyone else likes on social media anyway. 

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