Liking blatantly sexy photos on insta ok or no?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Is it disrespectful/ unecessary to like sexy celeb/ model pics when in a relationship?

    Yes

    No

  • Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

    idk. I tend to get triggered around it, but I look at it as my own insecurities and getting sucked into comparison. 

    If I decide to trust, (which I have- completely), I need to then deal with my own insecurities. 

    I absentmindedly “like” things because I find them pretty. It’s not a THING. I don’t even remember what I’ve “liked” at the end of the day. 

    It’s really up to you – if you trust him, find out what’s the trigger or the fear. He’s not going to leave you for an image. They’re like the stuff at the bottom of a box of sugar cereal: enjoyable for a second, but man. So unfulfilling and not the stuff to build a life on. 

    Post # 17
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    Busy bee

    Is there a way to check what a person likes? Or are you constantly watching the feed looking for your SO? Count me on team “I don’t notice or care what my SO does on Instagram”. It’s so mindless, you like a post to genetically “like” the content and let the content creator know you want more of it. I see it no different than a guy reading a sports illustrated swimsuit edition at an airport. 

    Post # 18
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    Looking up this dick plant IG right now.

     

    ETA: Why do so many have clothes on?! 

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    desertgypsy :  

    Post # 19
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015 - City, State

    There’s appreciating the human form and then there’s ogling sleazy sexually exploitative images that reduce women (usually in particular) to the sum of their sexual parts.  I think it’s ok to admire the former.  I would be disappointed if my SO was enthralled by the latter.

    Post # 20
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    Buzzing bee

    Doesn’t bother me at all. He can do whatever he wants in social media, he could share sexy pictures of those models and it wouldn’t bother me. He can find other women attractive, I certainly find other men attractive. Our eyes don’t stop working because we are in a relationship as long as we are faithful and trust each other then we are fine. My husband and I gave a pretty open relationship though and talk about other women/men we would bang if given the chance to jealousy is not something I experience often or easily. 

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee

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    ladyjane123 :  

    As others have pointed out, I think this is very much a personal preference thing.

    Like you, I have no problem with porn in private. None whatsoever, doesn’t trigger me in the least. Likewise, I don’t have a problem with sexy magazines like FHM or Sports Illustrated, or with following swimsuit models on Facebook or Instagram.

    I realise that we still look at attractive people when we are in a relationship and find them attractive.

    However, where I start to have a problem is where it becomes an outward expression that’s blatant. It seems unnecessary and disrespectful to your SO. So, for me, that would include commenting on someone’s hotness or excessively liking their pictures.

    That said, if my SO likes the occasional picture of an attractive woman on FB or Instagram (not that I have Instagram), I wouldn’t mind it. That doesn’t mean anything per se, particularly if he is the kind of guy to be very active on social media. 

    But if it’s a pattern – obsessively liking the same model’s pictures over and over again, to me that’s veering over into unnecessary and would make me uncomfortable.

    Another thing which I admit I have a problem with is him liking pictures of my female friends or of his exes. This makes me super uncomfortable because of the message it sends.

    Aside from these things, I’m ok with the occasional like of a celebrity or model’s picture.

    Post # 22
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Wouldn’t bother me at all. Especially if it’s a famous person / someone he’d never know or meet in real life. 

    I wonder if you’ll find that older bees are less bothered by this. The older we are the less our lives have been moulded by SM and the more I think we are able to separate real life from it.

    Post # 24
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2021 - City, State

    It wouldn’t bother me, I follow puppies and semi naked men on Instagram (Andrew Christian underwear for anyone who’s interested, they’re usually not straight but I care not..)

    Post # 25
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

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    desertgypsy :  BRB… going to follow that page right now!! 👀🌵

    Post # 26
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

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    ladyjane123 :  I don’t think the majority of men think their paltry like going to get them noticed. I am from the mindset where I dont care in the slightest what my DH likes on insta. In fact one of his ex GFs who I also follow because we have met a few times and hit it off long before DH and I were exclusive is into polefitness. She posts incredible photos and videos that we both like. 

    Im sure DH likes models and others… who cares… so do I!! Mmmm Jason Mamoa. My confidence and security is high so like away DH. 

    Side note: liking images on IG helps the algorithm suggest other content and bump that pages posts up on your feed

    Post # 27
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

    Honestly it’s just not something I care about at all. My Fiance doesn’t have an Instagram, and knowing him, I’m like 99.9% he wouldn’t, but it really wouldn’t bother me if he did and I certainly wouldn’t be checking to see if he did. I just can’t think of a reason to care. But I get that others do, so if your partner knows you don’t like it, yeah they probably shouldn’t do it.

    Post # 28
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

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    fran01 :  @itsmesesame 🙂 

    Post # 29
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

    I don’t really care what my fiance likes on social media. He doesn’t have an instagram, but even if he did I don’t care what he likes. I’m not gonna police what he looks at or likes, he can like racy pics of other girls (and guys too, I don’t judge)

    But I have to say I would have a problem if he followed and like a bunch of racy pictures posted without the subject’s consent (idk if those “upskirt shot” instas still exist? anyone else know what I’m talking about?). Him liking some girl who just posts nudes for a confidence boost? No big deal. Keep on likin’ those selfies boy, make that girl feel better about herself. But if he’s liking pictures that were taken/posted without consent we’re gonna have a serious talk about that.

    All that being said, my fiance only goes on social media for memes lol.

    ETA: I never like anything on facebook with the intention of it being shared. In fact I hate that facebook broadcasts what I like. 

    Post # 30
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    Helper bee

    I wouldn’t like it. But I oddly stumble across images like this all the time and I am not sure why? I always notice husbands liking the very provocative ones. I wonder if the people I follow somehow influence MY feeds, because I don’t get why I get half naked photos or completely naked ones… on rare occasion I click on it.. every guy I follow thats married liked it. LOL. 

     

    Thankfully my fiance doesn’t believe in this type of behavior either and avoids it. He doesn’t like social media anyways. 

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