Liking blatantly sexy photos on insta ok or no?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Is it disrespectful/ unecessary to like sexy celeb/ model pics when in a relationship?

    Yes

    No

  • Post # 31
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    Only if it was new or different behavior. like if my SO suddenly got an IG just to follow a bunch of women, that would be weird. But if he always had an IG and there were a few model pages mixed in with his other guy stuff, then I wouldnʻt think twice but my SO is really not like this so it would be weird for him and that would worry me.

    Post # 32
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    342 posts
    Helper bee

    This doesn’t come up in my relationship, but if it did, I wouldn’t care.

    We all have our celebrity crushes. Just last night we were watching the Oscars and the camera panned to Chris Evans (swoon forever) and SO turned to me and said “Look! There’s your boy!” He doesn’t mind that I like his photos and I wuldn’t mind if he liked Priyanka Chopra’s (I also like her photos, she’s hot as hell and a favorite actress of mine, too).

    He’s not a huge social media guy–he pretty much just follows meme accounts, his/our friends, and family, haha. I very much agree with chelbell23  that the only time I’d take issue with his follow/like activity would be if they were candid/non-consent photo accounts focusing on being sexually degrading/exploitative. I haven’t seen any of those “upskirt” account recently–I really hope they’ve died out!! That would be a MAJOR problem with me.

    Post # 33
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    Helper bee

    I think it’s okay. I post them so it’s okay that he likes them! That works for our relationship though. 

    Post # 34
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    Bumble bee

    I don’t care really, but I do think our internet footprint matters.  So, I think it’s best to only like pictures or share content that you would be okay with your friends/family/coworkers knowing about.  

    Post # 35
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    1640 posts
    Bumble bee

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    californiasun :  Haha yeah, my husband will be like, oh your boyfriend is in this.  And I’m like, “Which one?”  There are so many.  I can’t keep track of all my hollywood boyfriends 😀 

    Post # 36
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    It would depend on the frequency and the types of pictures he was “liking.” If my husband was constantly liking pictures of near-nude women, it would annoy me. I wouldn’t like that he’s portraying himself as a horndog, salivating over breasts and butts all day. It’s juvenile and not the type of person I want to be with.

    Post # 37
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

    This would bother me. My Fiance doesn’t have insta and I forget about it most of the time so it’s really a non-issue for us. But I have a friend who had this exact issue in a previous relationship. Her ex constantly “liked” and followed provocative models on insta, commented sometimes, but he claimed he did it to “support” them. I equate it to very obviously checking out another woman when you’re with your so, or even whistling at them… Not acceptable in my books. I find it disrespectful. I’m not crazy, I know Fiance notices hot women, but he’s discrete about it, often more discrete than me which I greatly appreciate.

    Post # 38
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I voted no because this is not something I’ve ever thought about. I’ve never monitored what my husband likes or dislikes on Instagram. He’s not very active on social media, but even if he was, I would not care what pictures he liked. 

    …This seems like a first world problem to me. If you are resorting to checking likes on social media, you must have it pretty great otherwise. My husband and I argue about things in the ‘real world’ like who was the last person to take out the trash. 

    Post # 39
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    Helper bee

    I would be bothered if he was liking sexy pictures of people we knew, but supermodels and strangers I don’t care. 

    Post # 40
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    861 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2020

    I don’t know how often, if ever, my SO turns to Instagram for his spank bank, but I do think it’s a good thing that he doesn’t like or follow whatever pictures or pages he may have come across for that purpose. I think it’s odd to document your ogling on an account attached to your real name, but then again I know I am more concerned with my social media presence than others. Fortunately my SO feels the same way about social media, hence this not being an issue for us. 

    Post # 41
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    Sugar bee

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    ladyjane123 :  Im gonna follow Jason Momoa on instagram and you better believe I am going to “like” every damn photo that comes out! My husband and I dont view that as disrepectful. He can like whatever pages he chooses. 

    I press like because I actually like the pic or person or outfit whatever it is. You are allowed to have preferences and appreciate the time or effort someone put in to post it. I dont really think Jason is going to message me, however i like to show support and the more likes/fans he has, it furthers him and his career. 

    I do understand your point about being able to like something without showing it to the world. I think it is almost just habit at this point to hit like on something i enjoyed, not necessaily to share it with the world. 

    Post # 42
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    Sugar bee

    It wouldn’t make me mad, but I would think it was kinda lame.

    It just strikes me as cheesy and childish way, rather than something that would make me feel insecure or threatened. 

    Post # 43
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    I think for me it depends on who is in the picture.

    If it’s a celebrity or famous model or something it wouldn’t bug me as much because obviously there’s no real life chance of something occurring there. It’s not like I haven’t drooled over a male celebrity on TV or something just because I’m committed.

    But if it was some girl we both knew or who lived in our city? I think that would be a problem for me, even more so if it was a consistant thing and not just one incident. And I think this is because in that situation you’d be removing that barrier of realism.

    Post # 44
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2019

    It would bother me, mostly because I wouldn’t want our friends/family observing him doing sleazy things on social media. It’s just embarassing.

    Post # 45
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    I think there’s a big difference between actual celebrity pages and the slutty Instagram models who pop up all over the place. 

    If my SO was on Instagram and following 50 women who were only on Instagram for the purpose of posting semi-nude photos, I’d be giving him some serious side eye. 

    On the other hand, if he wants to follow Rachel McAdams, who is a legit celebrity with things to post other than nudity, I’m good with that. If he liked a picture of her looking good, okay. 

    This was a contributing factor in me ending a relationship with a man who I could tell wasn’t quite “all in”. He was following breast implant pages, insta “models”, and real life women he’d met but didn’t have an actual friendship with. He was liking the photos AND commenting to tell all these women they looked hot. This was not okay. 

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