(Closed) Limited bar..is it ok?

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
3274 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018


Post # 3
366 posts
Helper bee

If it were me, I would have the beer, wine, and soda and just nix the part of the bar that is cash. If people aren’t satisfied with beer, wine, or a damn soda, they are at your wedding for the wrong reasons. One doesnt need hard liquor at a wedding.

Post # 4
9228 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I believe guests shouldn’t have to pull out their wallets. A limited bar is totally fine though! There is no law that says you have to have a full open bar. Do you have a full open bar anytime you have guests to your home for a party? Weddings are really no different. Host what you can afford and enjoy. 

Post # 5
247 posts
Helper bee

While I love my liquor, I’d have zero problems drinking wine for the evening! I think a limited bar is totally fine and a good way to save some money. 

If there’s free wine, I’m not gonna pull out my wallet for liquor. So I agree with PP about possibly nixing that part. 

Post # 6
999 posts
Busy bee

I would just skip hard liquor.

You’re already providing plenty of options, people can make it through one evening without hard liquor.

Or if cash bars are accepted in your area / social circle, and you think it’s really important, go for it. 

Post # 7
130 posts
Blushing bee

I agree with nixing the liquor altogether, but it is your wedding! To me unlimited beer, wine and soda is great!!

Post # 8
2363 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I would skip the liquor. Host what you can afford, a limited option bar is fine but having guests pay for drinks isn’t IMO. Just have the beer/wine/soda open bar , that’s more than enough. 

Post # 9
348 posts
Helper bee

Another vote for skip the hard liquor. I think cash bars are tacky but wouldn’t think twice about a bar with wine/beer only. 

Post # 10
1194 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Beer and wine is totally fine. I would skip the hard liquor- I’m against guests having to pull out their wallets for anything at a wedding. 

Post # 12
1117 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

We didn’t want to pay for liquor, so we just didn’t offer it. Beer/Wine/Soda/Juice/Coffee. People were just fine and had a great time.

We didn’t have anyone who required liquor? I am typically a cocktail person, but I drank wine and it was fine. 

Post # 13
2236 posts
Buzzing bee

Please do not force your guests to choose between beer and wine. I can drink neither, and so I’d be pretty grumpy your entire wedding, and probably leave early. 

Everyone saying no one NEEDS liquor clearly has no problem drinking beer and/or wine. Good for them. Not everyone can.

I would have zero problem forking over $20 for a few liquor drinks at a wedding.

Post # 14
217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I am a vodka drinker.  However if my friend was hosting a beer and wine I would most definately pay cash or switch to wine.  As long as people know before hand it is not a problem.  Maybe you could offer a signature cocktail with just one alcohol in it to cut the cost like a spiked Arnold Palmer or a cape codder which is just vodka with crandberry juice or the frenchy which vodka, cranberry and pineapply juice.  I feel like the more alcohols you have the more mixers you need so cost just go up and up and up.  Keep it simple and enjoy your day!

Post # 15
467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I think having open bar for beer and wine with cash option for liquor is totally okay! 

I have a huge pet peeve with people saying guests should not open their wallets. You’re right to some extent, and they don’t have to if you provide free beer, wine and soda, but shouldn’t they have the option to open their wallets if they want? I would much rather be a guest at a wedding and pay for my own cocktail than not have one at all, but that is just me. 

ETA: I did have beer and wine only at my wedding, but ONLY because it was a vineyard and that is the license they had – they did not have a liquor license. But if they did, I would have covered it or had it be partial cash as you suggest. Some people are fine with beer and wine, but some people do not like it and would be bummed without other options. 

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