Limited bar..is it ok?

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 46
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

All the weddings I’ve been to have offered only beer and wine and that’s totally fine. 

Post # 47
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Okay, I am not trying to be combative here but I am genuinely trying to understand the opposite point of view. 

A lot of comments are repeating the same line of “guests should not have to take out their wallets.”

Here is my confusion. In this scenario, they do not HAVE to take out their wallets. So this line makes absolutely no sense to me. No one is saying they do. 

But that doesn’t mean they can’t if they want to! I understand you are all saying that you should host / accommodate your guests properly. But what if a guest genuinely wanted to pay more for their own cocktail? By telling them no, you are not accommodating them. OP is not forcing her guests to pay for anything, just leaving the option open and I see no issue with that at all. 

Truth of the matter is that if people want liquor, they will get it. My wedding venue only sold beer and wine due to their license, but people still snuck in plenty of flasks filled with liquor. Why not allow your guests to be happy and have fun!?

Post # 48
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Bumble bee

mimivac :  Also people need to eat when you host an event during dinnertime.  If you make people go from your ceremony through your reception without food they won’t feel all that great. I know a lot of people who get fairly hangry (I’m not one– I can go 30ish hours without food before I start to freak). 

But while alochol is helpful for social events and preferable you shouldn’t NEED alcohol to have a good time.  But I don’t see an issue with making the option available there for those who really want it  

Post # 49
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Sugar bee

jackjackattck :  This is my thinking too. It genuinely confuses me that people think that removing the option is more polite. People can still drink for free if they choose to, but then they still have the option of having something they like more. 

You’re not creating or removing tiers here at all. Beer and wine is free to everyone. My guess is that most people would drink at least some of the beer and wine, but then would have the option of having their favourite drink if they choose.

Post # 50
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

Any bar is better than no bar or cash bar! People will make do and just be happy that they can have a drink.

Post # 51
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Chula Vista Golf course

We are doing it a little differently. We will offer beer, wine, and a couple liquor options, but only hosting to $1k, and then it turns to a cash bar. Otherwise, we have to pay per person to host it all night, and more than half of our guest list don’t drink. 

Post # 52
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Newbee
  • Wedding: Orange County, CA

amy98 :  I would be completely fine with free beer/wine, and cash liquor bar.  Just put it on the wedding website!  

Post # 53
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Church and University

Totally fine. We did beer, wine, soda, and two signature cocktails.

Post # 54
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI

duchessgummybunns :  I agree.  Not much of a fan of wine and beer so I don’t mind paying for hard liquor at a wedding so I can let loose.

 

Post # 55
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Buzzing bee

jackjackattck :  I came back to say exactly this. 

I really can not understand the mental gymnastics involved with deciding that it’s LESS rude to either force your guests to go without any alcohol for the night or to drink something they actively HATE and/or are allergic to…  than to provide them the option of opening their wallets if they want to

Post # 56
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2023

If I couldn’t do a full bar then I would simply serve soda. I also do not serve alcohol at functions and no one expects even though they know I drink on occasion. Everyone knows we don’t drink beer or wine period so they’d never expect it of us. 

Post # 57
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I’d never provide liquor on tab at wedding. Allows  people to get drunk a lot quicker 

Post # 58
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Buzzing bee

missviolet92 :  But do you really not trust your adult friends to not get trashed at your wedding? I’d hate to feel like I needed to police or babysit my adult friends’ alcohol consumption…

Post # 59
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Busy bee

Alcohol packages are perfect for weddings. Unless you have money to fling around for extras then dont even worry. 

We will have an alcho package plus cash option if they want spirits. 

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