(Closed) Limited beer and wine bar. What do you think?

posted 12 years ago in Reception
Post # 17
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Buzzing bee

While it’s a very hotly debated topic, it’s also considered rude to ask/force guests to open their wallets at the reception for any reason. As a host, you should not offer anything you do not have the means to finance yourself. If that means you can only afford alcohol for 2 hrs, then alcohol will only be served for 2 hrs, period. No cash bar afterward. Contrary to popular belief, it is no different than if you were hosting  party in your home. You don’t charge guests to drink after you run out of what you paid for. The same rules apply, regardless of the venue. When the alcohol runs out that you purchased for the reception, then you switch over to all non-alcoholic options and no one opens their wallets. Otherwise you do risk offending guests.

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I like your time limit bar.  That could work really well if it’s communicated smoothly.  We’re trying hard to cut costs on alcohol too, so our idea (so far, it’s always changing) is to offer free beer & wine the whole night, with liquor being cash bar the whole time.  But we’ll start with x number of nicer wines and then switch to cheaper wines when that runs out.

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh, and I wouldn’t be offended if I were a guest and offered tickets for 2 drinks, or drinks for 2 1/2 hrs.  That would be just fine, but then again, I come from the younger generation, and the group of low budget brides that completely understand your point of view.

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think it really depends on where you are.  Where I am, I’ve never been to a cash bar wedding.  I’ve attended ones in different areas, and no, I wasn’t offended.  The point of me being at a wedding is not to get trashed and drink for free…but that’s how I think.  I can say that I know people personally who have balked at the idea of a cash bar reception, but their motives are different.  I think if you let people know beforehand (like maybe somehow include it on your website if you have one) then it’ll be better.  If people don’t know in advance that at one point it will turn to cash bar, then I think you might get some snarky remarks.  If you gave them fair warning, well then it’s their choice to continue to drink. 

I think the idea of a drink trinket is good.  You might get some people who will try to get as much as they can in them while it’s free so that they don’t have to shell out the cash if they want to continue to drink. 

Post # 23
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I wouldn’t be offended at all. I think it sounds like a great idea, I wish our venue would allow something like this actually!

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

i think that is a good idea…

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Bella….I have never personally been to a wedding reception that had a cash bar. Probably b/c most of my friends have been established and in their mid to late 20’s when they tied the knot.

Having said that…I wouldn’t make negative comments unless it was a surprise. On the flip side though…if you let people know in advance, you may very well end up spending just as much as you would for the whole evening since your guests may make a run for the bar in the 2.5 hours that it is an open bar (if your bill is based on consumption). I am thinking that the tickets would probably be the best way to go then your guests can decide if they want their “free”‘ drinks before, during, or after dinner.

 

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’d make sure that you put it on your website so that your guests are informed beforehand that the bar will become a cash bar after a certain point. I know that when I’m a guest at a wedding I’ll only have a small amount of cash on me so people might just want to know. We’re doing a similar thing – we’ll have a set amount of cash behind the bar already and once that’s gone it’s gone. We made up “Drinks Tokens” in photoshop that said that if they presented it to the bar staff they’d get free drinks and then made a little asterisk star where the footnote said “At least until our money runs out!”. Making a bit of a joke about it works for us and our slightly more informal wedding though so I don’t know if that’ll help you.

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Bella…are you doing a seating chart where the guests find their spot and seat themselves are will you have hostesses that will give guests their seating assignment? If you have hostesses, they can hand out the tickets as they give out seating assignments…otherwise you can maybe have it as an insert in the invitation?

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