Post # 1
We are getting married at a county park in Door County, WI. Our reception will be held aboard a large passenger yacht. It holds 145 people. If we were having our reception at any other location, we would be inviting around 300 guests, including kids, co-workers, parent’s friends, etc. Since we are so limited with numbers, we are trying to find a nice way to invite only adults to the reception, but invite kids and adults to the ceremony. The family members I’ve talked to are very understanding, and would have no problem leaving the kids with a babysitter at home or bringing a sitter along. But, I still need to know how many people are coming to each part of the wedding (ie: ceremony & reception), and I need to have an RSVP for each part of the wedding, as well. Does anyone have any ideas on how to handle this? If so, please share some wording with me for the reception card and RSVP card.
Post # 3
Well, we needed to keep our guest list down to about half the size of yours.
- We’re not inviting parents’ friends because we’re paying for the wedding ourselves
- We’re not inviting co-workers
- We’re not taking the pretty standard “all or nothing” approach to family: we’re inviting the aunts, uncles and cousins we see and talk to on a fairly regular basis. Those that don’t make an effort to keep in touch with us shouldn’t be surprised when they don’t receive an invitation. (I know that sounds a little harsh but it’s a big family and choices need to be made)
- We’re not doing “no kids” altogether, but we’re not inviting any second cousins
So in the end, we’re doing immediate family, grandparents, select aunts, uncles and first cousins, and our closest friends.
We’re using the wording “We have reserved __ seat(s) in your honor” on the RSVP card, where we fill in the number to let the guest know how many are invited. Then there will be a spot for them to fill in the number attending.
I personally am not a huge fan of inviting people to the ceremony but not the reception. I’ve heard of it being done so I guess it works for some, but I’m not sure how to pull it off aside from maybe putting “adult reception” or something on the reception card.