(Closed) Limiting # of kids when wedding is not fully Adults only?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Which should we do?
    say nothing specifically, guests should figure it out by names on invitations & #s invited on rsvp : (9 votes)
    47 %
    say "Adults only," inform the exceptions individually (those few w/kids under 5, niece, goddaughter) : (4 votes)
    21 %
    [ignore this voting option, I made a mistake in the poll] : (0 votes)
    invite all the kids : (1 votes)
    5 %
    if kids are limited, any kids attending should have an official role : (3 votes)
    16 %
    other (described below) : (2 votes)
    11 %
    [ignore this voting option, I made a mistake in the poll] : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    750 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    This is tough….I’m interested to see what other posters come up with! I think you can’t go wrong by putting all names on the envelopes and making the rsvp cards very clear (x of 3 attending). Etiquette wise, though, it’s tough to justify inviting some kids and not others. 

    Post # 4
    Hostess
    8579 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    With your situation, I think it’s going to come off very very rude. It either needs to be all the kids, or no kids.

    You basically aren’t wanting kids strictly because of budget concerns.. which is fine.. but it’s not okay to have under 5’s there – even if its free.

    Post # 5
    Hostess
    8579 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Also.. what about someone who has a 10 year old and a 3 year old? Only bringing 1 child certainly isn’t okay!

    Post # 6
    Member
    7220 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Shkragoldfish:  I think if you were to do 10 and older it would be find but it’s rude to say that kids under 5 and kids over 18 can come. Can you limit it some other way? For example, (I may get some negative feedback on this) we did not invite second cousins. It did not matter how old they are they just did not get invited. If you do plan to move forward with this, I would suggest somehow including all of the kids that you do want to be there in the wedding. 

     

     

     

    Post # 7
    Member
    307 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I don’t think you should say ‘adults only’ and have exceptions. If I was someone who had made alternative arrangements for my children and when I got to your wedding there were kids running around I’d be a bit annoyed.

    State who you are inviting on the invitation, including any children. I think that is the best way forward. Otherwise do it by word of mouth/people who ask.

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