Post # 1
Last night I decided that I would like to have a lingere shower/Pure Romance party. Bascially, the guests would come over and we would chat, have some drinks, eat snack foods, and I can open the lingere gifts. Then, the Pure Romance people will come in and we can do that whole thing. Of course, Future Mother-In-Law or FCIL would end up being the hosts of the shower, not me. But, if I want it to happen, I have to be the brains behind it.
My question is, is it normal/acceptable to have a lingere shower BEFORE you’ve had a bridal shower? Is it wrong to have both? In our families, lingere is not gifted at the bridal shower. Only registry items. So, that would be the reason to have both separate. I think this night would be good fun for all involved.
What do you think about it?
Post # 3
I think it’s a fun idea if everyone is agreeable to doing 2 showers. I would just be concerned about the extra costs to people (i.e. – extra gift, another party to throw). Perhaps you could do the lingerie party with just your girlfriends or younger female family members. Either way, I think it’s a cool idea.
Post # 4
You typically invite different circles if you are having more than one shower otherwise that’s a lot of gifts to give. I don’t think that the timing particularly matters in relation to the traditional shower. A lot of people have the lingerie shower and the bachelorette party together.
Post # 5
I was also thinking of doing a lingerie shower with my close friends. But if I’m doing it, it would be after the traditional shower with the registry and what not. I probably wont do it, because it could potentially come off as gift grabby.
Post # 6
@Pinksapphire: I think it could be fun! Or, you can have it before you & your girls head out for the bachelorette party so that it’s part of the bachelorette instead of considered a “second shower”?
Post # 7
For the lingere shower, I would definitely not be inviting all of those who will be coming to the regular shower. Only because the material of the Pure Romance party can be a little offensive. FCIL has been wanting to have a Pure Romance party for a while and so have I, so I thought this would be a fun little way to incorporate lingere into it.
I fully intend to finance the food and alcohol for the shower/party, and I know Future Mother-In-Law will help with that, gladly. So, FCIL (who is a BM) would not be responsible for any of that expense.
But, yeah, I do get the gift grabby thing. That’s one of the reasons I am on the fence about it. I’m gonna see what the people who I would actually invite would think about this.
I was thinking of having Pure Romance bachelorette, but we’re not having a bachelorette for me, I don’t think. We’re getting married out of town and everybody wants to go out (girls and guys together) the night before the wedding as our bach/bachelorette parties.
Post # 8
I think multiple showers are okay only if the guest lists do not overlap.